A lot of you ladies sisters making many women come across as frigid.

How many you women believe sex is important to you in part of the relationship package?

I'll ask another question. Be honest now.

How many see sex as a tool to control your man?

Finally, who here has pretty much resigned yourselves to a sexless life alone and only here for the forums?

Speaking for myself I'm still in my prime and feel like I did years ago actually better and a lot more knowledgeable (if you know what I mean) and I'm not just saying this but for me making love is a big part I won't get into all the romantic, mushy stuff I'm sure you know what I mean but I would like it 7 days a week to be surprised, have that spark and keep it alive always. Sometimes I use sex as a tool to control but I just tease and always give in. I sure hope and pray I meet someone who has the same sex drive as I do and I'm not here for the forums.love you all but love that a whole lot more

Jezus Will, are there prizes for the best answer? ...Sex, as in intimacy, is VERY important (necessary) to a healthy relationship and it does not have to mean penetration ...Sex as a tool is a dangerous game reserved for those who lack ambition and suffer from things like low self esteem, god complexes, entitlement syndrome, and moral decay....I wrote this in my profile, "I'm pretty sure I'm here for friends and forums only" *wink*....I will never be resigned to living a sexless life...Going for periods of time w/o having sex with someone other than myself is a temporary condition of single life...Casual sex is not ideal nor is it something I am interested in, but I like knowing I have that option if I so choose....

Sex is wonderful but what makes sex even better is if there is a connection that goes beyond the physical. The problem with online is that a lot of men ONLY want sex, a quick shag here, a quick lay there. There is no depth to the act which is why i'm 'frigid' and choose to wait.

But to answer your questions, in a relationship of course it's important but I have never used sex as a tool to control a man. I'm not the type to get angry and withhold. I'm usually pretty even keel in my emotions and sex is used in a positive way, not as a way to gain control.

Y'all some awesome women.

Humm very simply if he does not know how to make love then no relationship...it's one of the requirements...I'm old I'm not dead.....

healthy women are not after just sex, they are looking for a emotional connection--- ''sex is always the best when our hearts are connected first''--do they know something we do not ????

I posted this in response to the thousands of threads about women whining about men just wanting sex.

Was curious to see how many women actually enjoy that intimacy.

The women who have posted so far, say they're into it.

The women who are holding out. Are y'all doing that because you want serious or do you really not like the picture of fluid intimacy?

Yes, Ms Leigh. There is a prize. Just reach into my pants pocket on the right side and you can have whatever you find.

ooh please 39 is not old... ive been 39 for ten years now. and i still feel young.lol

Hahahah wish I was 39 and know what I know now but ya know even 55 is good for me...... I'm enjoying every minute of it...

Yes sex as well as intimacy and communication are very important parts of any relationship. In my honest opinion and past experiences, the relationship will die a slow horrid death without all of these.

I want a man that won't turn me down when I ask for the intimacy that I desire. I would also never use sex as a weapon because in my reality, that is wrong and goes completely against my own desires. So who am I actually punishing, him or me?

As for a sexless relationship and resigning to it...NEVER! I know what I desire, want and need and will be sure the next man in my life knows this.

yes thay are!!!

You're hot as a firecracker. And your reply as well.

Why thank you willing

I must admit though, a firecracker is just for starters.

Enjoy your lint!

you little smart brainy! :D

That's the pocket I cut the hole in.
That way, I always have something to play with.

Sure I do. Not sure how decent I really am, though. It's just that I've stopped actively looking. I realize if it's going to happen, it'll happen naturally, and come from just about anywhere really. Why rely on only one place to find a special someone? The last time I was involved with a guy from this website, was a few months ago. It's not like I'm holding out. Who am I to tell anyone how to be? Oh and hi to everyone here, btw.

I sure hope I'm not in that category.


I don't mind talking about it. It's as natural as getting oit of bed, or getting washed.


:x

*holding my hand up*




I think that's just manipulative. It's a bit childish, to be sure. I get that sex is tempting, but I don't like to control anyone. It's bs and who needs THAT?





Not me. Just stopped looking. If a guy on here happens to want to date me, he is gonna have to let me know. A better way to tell if they're being genuine. For me, a sexless life would kinda make me slightly antsy. And I'm not afraid to admit that. I'm not the typical sort. But I would definitely get a bit cranky, if sex was taken away from me :)

Yes sex as well as intimacy and communication are very important parts of any relationship. In my honest opinion and past experiences, the relationship will die a slow horrid death without all of these.

I want a man that won't turn me down when I ask for the intimacy that I desire. I would also never use sex as a weapon because in my reality, that is wrong and goes completely against my own desires. So who am I actually punishing, him or me?

As for a sexless relationship and resigning to it...NEVER! I know what I desire, want and need and will be sure the next man in my life knows this.

Dear Ms Shy e chick.

Love your attitude.

Thanks for chipping in.

You sound like a pretty grounded young woman.

It is very cool getting to know you.

Have a great week.