I tend to chase after guys rather than want a guy to ask me out. In my point of view, when I go after what I want, then its real cause I worked hard to get him. But when a guy is after me, I think its just about sex with them. Do anybody else feel this way or do I have issues?

do u think u have issues?

You know what they say, if you have to ask...

Not really. A lot of people comes on these forums for other point of views and opinions. That's the whole point.

So....when you go after a guy....are you left dissatisfied because the hunt is over? Cause....it sounds to me like you get bored with the guy once you have attained him.

you don't know your own self worth. You think guys are only after sex not you as a whole. Know your beautiful and demand respect. respect yourself and when guys approach you, you can weed thru who's real and who's not. Love yourself above all.

There is nothing wrong with going after what you want.

What is stated above. Know that you are worth it

you don't know your own self worth. You think guys are only after sex not you as a whole. Know your beautiful and demand respect. respect yourself and when guys approach you, you can weed thru who's real and who's not. Love yourself above all. I agree with MS. realcarebear....
but as long as your Ok with it, then what does it matter...

As a Melmacian, the only things I chase are cats.

Oh, look. There goes one now.

Who doesn't have issues?

Or maybe that is just my opinion.

I guess so from what you're saying. What I would be concerned about if I was a guy getting involved with you would be if it's about control and like a poster touched on above, if you would back off when the guy started to take a more active interest in you. It does not follow at all that a guy has different motivations just because you do most of the running. It just means that it isn't a turn off for him.

We all have issues, some worry about them and some couldn't give a flying f--k.
My issue at the moment is if I'm gonna have a few vodkas tonight, just can't make up my mind.

men can be as wonderful or disgusting as women

realize that just like your feeling of someone being 'worth it' due to the work put in,, there are men who feel the same way when they pursue the female they are interested in


sure, some will just want sex, but some will think you are worth it too

absolutely,, NOONE is perfect, everyone battles their own 'demons',,, so to speak

No, I don't get bored of a guy when he show interest in me. I just think what I been through with guys in the past, they just want sex from me, but if I find a guy I want to talk to that don't show interest in me at first, makes me feel once he get to know ME, then he actually likes me....or something like that....

Yeah, or he thinks, "Well, I'm not that into her but I might get some sex here, so she'll do for now".

Good point tawt. Now I REALLY don't trust men. I guess that's what dildos & sperm banks are for. Men is not worth the stress. I thought I solved the problem & found the solution.

Well, it's possible that you meet a guy and he's not sure about a relationship but he'll have sex with you and he might get to really like you or even love you as he gets to know you. It really depends on the guy and we're not all the same. I wasn't at all sure about my last girlfriend as far as it working out as as a relationship goes but I did really like her. She went after me and I was rushed into it a bit but I told her that we would just see how it goes and I didn't mess her around. I was hoping that it would work out but it was the fact that she had issues that made me think that it probably wouldn't and it didn't. It can work out the way that you were saying and a female friend of mine is with a guy that told her that he didn't really fancy her when they first met.

I've had similar experiences with women as you have with men. It's not easy to trust when they keep doing that but sometimes it's just that they can't see a future in it with you, or you want different things. With me, what seems to keep happening is that when things start to get serious they back off or push me away and a lot of that was because they had trust issues. It's hard work with a woman that's like that and it's possible that some of your boyfriends have just felt that you were too much like hard work because of that and then they didn't want to trust you or get serious. Someone having trust issues is a bit of a red flag thing.