I met a girl on a website and she lives in the same town as I ,she does stuff I don't like that I find dangerous she niffs cocaine and she drinks alot and she smokes weed and she cuts herself oh I made alot of dates for her to meet me but she keeps making up excuses. Should I break up with her?

ya if shes not sharing the coke or the weed that would be a deal breaker.lol..jk.dude dont sound like shes all that in to you. move on...NEXT..

.WoW..haha..ha..
. I don't know !that lawn mower is tipped on its side and running.. I wonder if I should go over and stick my foot in it.hmm.
perhaps try to stop the blades with my hand..hmm.
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ok, now tell us about your weird relationship!

no, don't do it! you need to pour the wine!!!

I dated a girl like that. Sounds like your girlfriend might have BPD or be bipolar. It's up to you man but I wouldn't hold your hopes out too much that it's going to work out. Thing is though that these people are mostly just a danger to themselves. It's very sad. They use the drugs and do other risky things like meeting men from the internet because they can't handle normal emotions and need a "buzz" to make them feel better. It just tends to make them worse though and stops whatever medication they're on from working properly.

I would suggest you change towns!

Give it approximately one more year to see where it leads..

You mean to tell us she has time to be on the web and not you anymore man your in trouble for real. Can't help you with this one.

Now I'm Not Mr. Obvious. But don't you have to actually go out on a date before you can break up with her.

Dude.
Really?
Can't see anything positive coming from that joint venture.

This just sounds like someone effing around....or the human condition has digressed worse than I thought.

Should I hang out with a glue-sniffer or not? Confused, please help?

Manofsteel, please darling, be true to yourself...

You picked up my words leigh!!! Except for the darling word tho... I would have addressed it as dude... darling can be used for you tho leigh

you've never met so "breaking up" is unnecessary. besides, if you don't like her lifestyle why pursue a relationship? if you think you'll save or change her, you won't. more than likely she'd just wind up in your wallet.

Drugs are bad....mmmmkay!

Drugs are very bad...

Yeah, drugs are bad but her just drinking a lot would be alright though.

Does sound like she's got a problem. Doesn't really sound like she's told you much about it though if you haven't got a clue why she's like this. I know a guy that cuts himself and he's mostly harmless and just an alcoholic and dope smoker but he does a lot of dumb cry for help attention seeking things like calling the cops and telling them that he's got a gun or a bomb. He's off to England for a nine month rehab because he's been told that if he doesn't stop drinking he's going to be dead before he's fifty and he's forty seven now. He's an alright guy when he's sober but a total bampot when he's drunk now. Spends most of his time when he's not out at the pub getting hammered just moping around in his flat feeling sorry for himself. He's got depression and problems that go back to childhood abuse. Usually with these people there's some serious underlying problem and it's not "caused" by drinking or using drugs. Those are just coping mechanisms.

I mean, these people tend to jerk you around because they're so absorbed with their own problems. One time that alcoholic that I know asked me if I wanted to go out to the pub and we made an arangement. He didn't show and when I saw him in the street a month or two later he just said to me, "Sorry mate. I was on the drink". On the drink? We were going to the bloody pub. Idiot.

If you carry on seeing this girl that's what you'll have to keep putting up with. You can be a nice guy and just deal with it but it will probably totally do your head in eventually. She probably isn't capable of loving anyone but she'll make it seem like you're making her happy when you're together. Could be really difficult to dump her or complain about it to her if she's self harming and stuff. Good luck.