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We all have our own definition of what love means to us personally. So how do you know if you really love someone, or they really love you? Seriously!
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hi... I think love is something cherished. It grows the more you get to know that person. It's a bonding of similar interests or experiences, knowing that you love someone I think is when you need or cannot be without them. You just to talk and hear their voice or their laughter. To make plans for your future, being open and honest with yourself and hearing their response as if it was yours. When you know someone loves you, I think is when you talk to them and time slips away without you ever noticing it, when there is no other need but to just talk and them saying I love you and hearing the honesty in their voice.. Oh! yes I have been hurt by someone who tells you exactly what you want to hear about love and loving you.. but it takes a bit of letting yourself be open to their love, taking the big risk of being hurt again. But if we don't we will never find out if its true love or not... cheers!
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how do you know if you really love someone when I can't wait to be with them again... or they really love you by their body language & eyes... |
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hi... knowing that you love someone I think is when you need or cannot be without them. You just to talk and hear their voice or their laughter. To make plans for your future, being open and honest with yourself and hearing their response as if it was yours. When you know someone loves you, I think is when you talk to them and time slips away without you ever noticing it, when there is no other need but to just talk and them saying I love you and hearing the honesty in their voice.. cheers! Hello Seeking... Welcome to Mingle2. And thank you for sharing your thoughts on how you know you love someone. 1) Thinking you need them and can't live without them 2) Talking and laughing with them 3) Making plans for the future 4) Imitating them by repeating back to them what you hear them say And how you know they love you. 1) They talk to you all day and tell you they love you 2) Hearing honesty in their voice Again, thanks for taking the time to read, contemplate, and post your answers. |
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how do you know if you really love someone when I can't wait to be with them again... I agree... the longing, sometimes aching that can be so overwhelming in their absence. or they really love you by their body language & eyes... The very essence of raw energy attraction... nice... |
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I think that it's more when things aren't going so well, or when you hit a rough patch. That's the real test. I cried a single tear for a woman once. She found it both touching and amusing.
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So how do you know if you really love someone, or they really love you? Seriously! I know I love someone when he hurts and disappoints me over and over again and I still forgive him and fix his dinner, wash his clothes, nurse his injuries, defend him against anyone that speaks harm against or tries to hurt him. I know a man loves me when he helps me without my having to ask him, and it doesn't matter if it's with chores, paying bills, feeding the pets, etc. When he listens to me and and tries his best to bring a smile to my face even if he's had a rough day. And when he defends me against anyone that would want to hurt me in any way. |
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I think that it's more when things aren't going so well, or when you hit a rough patch. That's the real test. I agree Tawt... if the relationship lasts through the tough times it must be love. |
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Edited by
dreamerana
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Sun 04/27/14 12:22 PM
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How do you know if it's love?
First if they show you that you are worth it. The last relationship that I had came into my life during a time of many dark moments. The last thing I wanted was to try to get a new relationship off the ground. I told him all the difficulties going on in my life at the time and even said I can be an A-hole and lash out when I reach the breaking point. And he said, did you ever consider that sharing your worries makes your burdens lighter? That made me stop and take notice. The second thing is he was willing to wait. I met him in mid April and was working at a local school. We were in the hectic days of finishing up the school year. I told him I just didn't have time until the first week of June. I honestly thought he would say oh forget it. But he said ok, what about the first Saturday in June? In the meantime can I call you sometimes? And he waited. The third thing is they can tell you what they love about you. When we first met he said he loves me. I asked him why? He said what do you mean why? I said you don't know my hopes, fears or dreams. You don't know who I am. Why do you love me? He said, you're a woman, I'm a man. That's why. I told him that's not love that's desire and it means any woman will do. So I told him to save the words until he gets to know me and then he can tell me when he means it about only me. A time later when he again told me he loves me he said I love you and now I can give you a thousand reasons. And he proceeded to tell me the things he admires about who I am. |
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When you can both sit in silence without the need for small talk
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Both what KLC and FunkyFranky said.
And that you can be yourself with that other person, that he accepts you, even the bits he might not really like/want/ or need for himself. And vice versa of course. Letting him hurt you over and over and still do chores and things for him, isn't love. |
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When our actions show we both put the other before ourselves.
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How do you know if it's love? First if they show you that you are worth it. The last relationship that I had came into my life during a time of many dark moments. The last thing I wanted was to try to get a new relationship off the ground. I told him all the difficulties going on in my life at the time and even said I can be an A-hole and lash out when I reach the breaking point. And he said, did you ever consider that sharing your worries makes your burdens lighter? That made me stop and take notice. The second thing is he was willing to wait. I met him in mid April and was working at a local school. We were in the hectic days of finishing up the school year. I told him I just didn't have time until the first week of June. I honestly thought he would say oh forget it. But he said ok, what about the first Saturday in June? In the meantime can I call you sometimes? And he waited. The third thing is they can tell you what they love about you. When we first met he said he loves me. I asked him why? He said what do you mean why? I said you don't know my hopes, fears or dreams. You don't know who I am. Why do you love me? He said, you're a woman, I'm a man. That's why. I told him that's not love that's desire and it means any woman will do. So I told him to save the words until he gets to know me and then he can tell me when he means it about only me. A time later when he again told me he loves me he said I love you and now I can give you a thousand reasons. And he proceeded to tell me the things he admires about who I am. I really enjoyed this, dreamerana. Very original, thank you for sharing. 
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hi AthenaRose, thanks for your reply.. I think i got a score of 4/10.. hehehehe you can be my friend if you wish too.. and chat anytime! have a great day and always take care...ken
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respect, trust, tingles, happiness. I like this one, Kic... especially the tingles... 
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How do you know if it's love? First if they show you that you are worth it. The last relationship that I had came into my life during a time of many dark moments. The last thing I wanted was to try to get a new relationship off the ground. I told him all the difficulties going on in my life at the time and even said I can be an A-hole and lash out when I reach the breaking point. And he said, did you ever consider that sharing your worries makes your burdens lighter? That made me stop and take notice. The second thing is he was willing to wait. I met him in mid April and was working at a local school. We were in the hectic days of finishing up the school year. I told him I just didn't have time until the first week of June. I honestly thought he would say oh forget it. But he said ok, what about the first Saturday in June? In the meantime can I call you sometimes? And he waited. The third thing is they can tell you what they love about you. When we first met he said he loves me. I asked him why? He said what do you mean why? I said you don't know my hopes, fears or dreams. You don't know who I am. Why do you love me? He said, you're a woman, I'm a man. That's why. I told him that's not love that's desire and it means any woman will do. So I told him to save the words until he gets to know me and then he can tell me when he means it about only me. A time later when he again told me he loves me he said I love you and now I can give you a thousand reasons. And he proceeded to tell me the things he admires about who I am. I really enjoyed this, dreamerana. Very original, thank you for sharing.
Glad you like
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When you can both sit in silence without the need for small talk This is true. But we sometimes call this the silent treatment too.
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Both what KLC and FunkyFranky said. And that you can be yourself with that other person, that he accepts you, even the bits he might not really like/want/ or need for himself. And vice versa of course. Letting him hurt you over and over and still do chores and things for him, isn't love. Crystalfairy...
I like how you put it... we accept the bits we might not really like, want, or need. When we can do that we know we have the real thing. 
No it wasn't, it was called marriage.
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When our actions show we both put the other before ourselves. Excellent! Bravo...
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Letting him hurt you over and over and still do chores and things for him, isn't love.  I have to agree.
It was an 18 year marriage and I had become conditioned. I guess what I thought was love was just acceptance of my duties as his wife without complaining. I did divorce him after all. |
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