Good morning joyce!

I think everyone is being hasty with their condemnation of the girl. There is really very little backgound given, so jumping to any conclusions is a bit premature. Also, your relationship with this woman is in very early days. The fact that she's weighing her long term relationship against a very new one, shows she's capable of loyalty to someone she's invested in. Not an entirely bad quality.

I think she deserves credit for trying to be honest.

Now, here's the part you won't want to hear.

I have to wonder how much she's into you if she doesn't mind using you as a friend to tell her problems to...about her real relationship. That said, sometimes empathetic friendships turn into something more substantial.....later.

If you are comfortable being repositioned in the "friend role" until she figures things out, there is no reason to completely abandon her. Things might change, and she might be much more emotionally available once she sorts things out. However, that can be a time consuming process.

You should leave your options open with other people who, like you, are READY for a new relationship. You should put your romantic interest in her aside until she shows more of an ability to make you a priority.

However, there's nothing at all wrong with remaining friends. You never know if you both might be at a more compatible place in the future.

But don't hold up your life for this. And don't expect more than she's able/willing to give. You'll be disappointed. Even if she suddenly picked you over him tomorrow, it would be wise to give it a cooling off period before resuming a romantic relationship with her, she's too emotionally scattered right now.

Well if your really like her and if she ever comes back it's your decision whether or not you give her another chance but in the mean time no need to wallow in the what "if's " and possiblities

good morning coolhead

i guess i am confused!!!
a friend of mine said the same thing..he talked to this woman online for about 2 weeks and now is saying she stated she loves him and he wants to marry her. i said you can not fall in love without meeting someone, he said he thinks i am wrong that she is sweet and not using him or desparate...he knows all this from emails and long telephone calls????
give me a couple of weeks i bet anyone i could make you think
i am someone totally different and tell you everything i think you want to hear.
come on....this is the internet!!!!!

ok my opinion Drew...the internet can be a very scarey place..people can act anyway they want and they feed off what you say to make it seem like you have more in common than maybe you actualy have...you seem to be a very caring man that wants to find that special lady...just be careful sweetie cause on the net people are not always as they seem...as for her i would say follow your heart but keep your mind close by its side...dont go with emotions only....chin up it will get better......

well Drew how long are you willing to wait a week,month,year ..a life time GET on with your life if you had meant as much to her as she seems to mean to you than she wouldnt have left.You dont need that ROLL ON.Iguess you didnt have that much in common after all would you have done that to her?

Exactly..tombraider

I'm still very concerned
about You ,Drew...


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