You can romance me anytime BigSexy!!!

With all due respect, Muddy, I don't agree that all women are like that. Some are, yes of course, just as some men are real jerks. I don't think it's fair to lump everyone in a category, they need to be judged as individuals. I've never cheated on anyone, it's just wrong. I've been cheated on, it's painful. But, I don't assume that everyone will do it, based on the actions of a few.

I'd compare it to a martial art or dance form, you learn how to move and affect your partner. A lot of people have the mindset that romance is a means to an end, it's not, it's a perspective.

Sorry I have to disagree with you Muddysneakers. Not all men want sex..........not all women want things.........you can't place all into a category.

The problem is so many good nice males and females have been hurt by the players out there, that they go inside a shell, and don't share with someone new who they really are. Its all about learning how to trust again, and to be yourself.

Being online gives you a chance to develop an old fashion courtship with that special one, you exchange emails, get to know each other, then go on to the chats via ims, then when ready you both agree on a date to meet, and see where it goes from there. So romance is still out there, we just have to remember to be ourselves, not what we think the other person wants us to be.

I think its more fly bye the seat of your pants!!!
Its never the same.And its all about how you feel compared to
a set plan!!!!
Every time is different.

True enough....ppl shouldnt be lumped into categories..as everyone is different--however, given that most ppl do act in this way (cause if they didnt, then topics such as these wouldnt be so rampant)--categorization seems plausable.

I personally am a romantic--but have gotten burned enough to be bitter. Makes me believe the statement Chris Rock said during one of his comedy shows, "A person is only as faithful as their options."

Thats sad Muddy.......you have to put away the bitterness, and not judge all to come as the ones were like before.


Should I be bitter, because of the things that I went through with my late hubsand?
Should I not trust again?
Should I expect to be cheated on again?

If I keep the bitterness then I will promise you one thing. I will always be alone. That is something I don't want. So maybe its time to put the bitterness where it belongs out with the trash.

Muddy....I agree

I am a hopeless romantic...I know who I am and don't show that side of me until I get to know the person. Been burned enough also...........Very true statement from Chris Rock.

I'm bitter about the guys who burned out the girls who burned me out... it's a vicious cycle.

Here we go round the mulberry bush!!!!

C'mon BigSexy I'll give ya a go around...

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i on the other hand leave the times i have been burned in my past i learned from it but i leave it there. im not biter and i know someday ill get burned again. but i cant help it i like the way it makes me feel when im in love so heartache or heartbreak i dont care i still keep trying. romance is not something i can give up on. its me and i refuse to give up on who i am. if a woman treats me bad cause she thinks me being nice is a sign of weakness. so be it there are plenty more out there so my search continues. i too have a quote "never give up never surrender" thats my motto so i will never get bitter or give up on romance.

Problem with romance even those that say they do it or want it when it comes right down to it they don't do as they say we can all say what others want to hear but actions speak louder than words ever will.

My point is that you have to throw away the bitterness. Keep on going, and learn to trust again.


If you keep expecting that bad things will happen then they will........just don't give up

i have to agree with muddy as well...i have provided for my children the best i know how to..i am kind, considerate of a woman's feelings and ideas, loyal, trusting, and trustworthy.....yet, it is difficult for me..as a 5'6" , 130 lb male...i have struggled my whole life with the fact i'm a small framed man...does anyone have any idea how many times a decent man, such as myself, has been overlooked, simply because i wasn't "big" enough, or muscular enough, or rich enough, or handsome enough for some women...bbw's think they have it rough??..try being on the other end of the spectrum...its just as bad....i'm so tired of being stereotyped...and yes, i am resentful about it...
i also know that there are, indeed, decent women out there...just wished i could find her..(sighs)

Hmmmmmmmm romance........what I find here is a lot of ppl trying sooooooo desperately to find anyone and when they do and find out they arent the one, they whine, ***** and moan.

Geeeeeeeez ppl need to take some time to get to know someone before professing deep love for one another!!! What is the hurry???? I find all this desperateness to be just that!!! Desperate!!