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Topic: FSM, how often do you initiate first contact?
technovative Joined Sat 03/01/14 Posts: 2637	Tue 04/01/14 10:24 PM
I would appreciate honest answers to the following questions, from any females willing to participate. Pertaining specifically to "online dating": 1. Do you expect and/or rely on men to send the first message? If so why? 2. If you have ever sent the first message, specifically what motivated you to? 3. Do you feel no need to send first messages because your inbox is seldom empty?

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Wed 04/02/14 10:20 AM
1. Do you expect and/or rely on men to send the first message? If so why? No. I don't always expect men to make the first move. Sometimes I will send the first e-mail. 2. If you have ever sent the first message, specifically what motivated you to? Had a crush on him no surprise 3. Do you feel no need to send first messages because your inbox is seldom empty? not really

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45376	Wed 04/02/14 10:22 AM
I would appreciate honest answers to the following questions, from any females willing to participate. Pertaining specifically to "online dating": 1. Do you expect and/or rely on men to send the first message? If so why? Yes, probably an atavistic cave-man trait. 2. If you have ever sent the first message, specifically what motivated you to? I did once. Hormones. 3. Do you feel no need to send first messages because your inbox is seldom empty? No, see #1.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33324	Wed 04/02/14 02:27 PM Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Wed 04/02/14 02:28 PM
I would appreciate honest answers to the following questions, from any females willing to participate. Pertaining specifically to "online dating": 1. Do you expect and/or rely on men to send the first message? If so why? yes, mostly. Experience has taught me most men still like to chase after women and conquer the woman they want and like. I like to be conquered as opposed to chasing after a guy myself. Been there blablar, don't do it no more 2. If you have ever sent the first message, specifically what motivated you to? I have done so a couple of times. Because of the general vibe, his profile text & pictures 3. Do you feel no need to send first messages because your inbox is seldom empty? Nah, finding a partner is not my nr. 1 priority in life at the mo. Plus I don't really believe in finding a partner via a dating-site anymore. I did about a year ago, when I was new to the scene. But I think it's over-glorified by radio-commercials, trying to flog paid-for memberships. Dating-sites are big business these days! And yes, my inbox is seldom empty. All kinds of stuff: too old, too young, too crude, too far away when it's on Mingle, lol

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 04/02/14 08:11 PM
I would appreciate honest answers to the following questions, from any females willing to participate. Pertaining specifically to "online dating": 1. Do you expect and/or rely on men to send the first message? If so why? 2. If you have ever sent the first message, specifically what motivated you to? 3. Do you feel no need to send first messages because your inbox is seldom empty? 3. my inbox is usually empty. I am hesitant to send PM because I am not seriously looking and I do not want to give the wrong impression 2. When I have sent a first msg, it has usually had to do with something in the threads...or just an experiment to see what would happen (not much generally) 1. Yes I usually wait for him to contact me

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Wed 04/02/14 08:20 PM
.. great topic techno.. may I be so bold as to add one more thing.. ladies when you view a fellow.. do you expect him to send you a response.. just on YouViewing..him..??

cococabeza Joined Fri 12/13/13 Posts: 590	Wed 04/02/14 08:30 PM
No either picture or profile prompts me. usually full, but I'll still contact if I'm interested ;) Re#1's question: No need to answer just because someone viewed you.

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Wed 04/02/14 08:40 PM
ladies when you view a fellow.. do you expect him to send you a response.. just on YouViewing..him..?? No. It just means I was interested enough to read his profile :)

Mississippigal2003 Joined Thu 01/16/14 Posts: 1739	Wed 04/02/14 08:45 PM
.. great topic techno.. may I be so bold as to add one more thing.. ladies when you view a fellow.. do you expect him to send you a response.. just on YouViewing..him..?? no

Mississippigal2003 Joined Thu 01/16/14 Posts: 1739	Wed 04/02/14 08:45 PM
I would appreciate honest answers to the following questions, from any females willing to participate. Pertaining specifically to "online dating": 1. Do you expect and/or rely on men to send the first message? If so why? No 2. If you have ever sent the first message, specifically what motivated you to? Lived close or was hot or we had similair interests such as beer lol 3. Do you feel no need to send first messages because your inbox is seldom empty? No. If I have something to say ill reply or send that first message. Although I do not reply to every response if I'm not interested

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Wed 04/02/14 10:48 PM
To be honest, I don't think I'll ever end up dating anymore men from THIS website. I just have a feeling I won't. Not sure why.

MartaRas Joined Sun 03/30/14 Posts: 44	Fri 04/04/14 05:09 AM
I never begin first contact ;>

technovative Joined Sat 03/01/14 Posts: 2637	Fri 04/04/14 03:24 PM
Interesting responses thus far, thanks y'all. I hope more ladies will share their insight as I'm genuinely curious if there is still a prevailing social expectation for men to be the initiator.

technovative Joined Sat 03/01/14 Posts: 2637	Fri 04/04/14 03:31 PM Edited by technovative on Fri 04/04/14 03:33 PM
1. Do you expect and/or rely on men to send the first message? If so why? Yes, probably an atavistic cave-man trait. 2. If you have ever sent the first message, specifically what motivated you to? I did once. Hormones. 3. Do you feel no need to send first messages because your inbox is seldom empty? No, see #1. Sofie... sarcasm? Who's the "atavistic cave-man", you for your answer, or me for asking the question?

technovative Joined Sat 03/01/14 Posts: 2637	Fri 04/04/14 03:41 PM
Without hesitation ...I would send the first message...from my experience ..men like confident women who make them smile ..and believe it or not ...it men do blush :-) You go girl! I can confirm that this man blushes... uh oh here I go again and there's no hiding it!

technovative Joined Sat 03/01/14 Posts: 2637	Fri 04/04/14 03:48 PM
.. great topic techno.. may I be so bold as to add one more thing.. ladies when you view a fellow.. do you expect him to send you a response.. just on YouViewing..him..?? A good addition phD, I'm curious if women sometimes hope that if they view a mans profile that he will take that as a signal of interest and contact her.

BrandNewJourney Joined Tue 02/25/14 Posts: 6055	Fri 04/04/14 03:58 PM Edited by BrandNewJourney on Fri 04/04/14 04:01 PM
I would appreciate honest answers to the following questions, from any females willing to participate. Pertaining specifically to "online dating": 1. Do you expect and/or rely on men to send the first message? If so why? No I do not expect the man to make first contact. Sometimes a woman knows what she wants and has to go for it. 2. If you have ever sent the first message, specifically what motivated you to? For me it has to feel right when I read the profile. Throwing hints to me in the forum has also caused me to contact the man. 3. Do you feel no need to send first messages because your inbox is seldom empty? My inbox is never full. I have also gone into stealth mode, but even before that, it was never full. Even if it were full, it does not mean the man I am seeking is in there. .. great topic techno.. may I be so bold as to add one more thing.. ladies when you view a fellow.. do you expect him to send you a response.. just on YouViewing..him..?? No I don't expect a response. If he peaks my interest I will let him know.

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Fri 04/04/14 04:07 PM
.. techno.. if I may be so bold again.. #5..lol.... okay ladies.. if you come across.. a profile of a man.. who is perfect in every way.. to the point that . you might feel intimidated.. what then..???.(ie).. do you view him.. and then think ..out of my league.. and move on.??

BrandNewJourney Joined Tue 02/25/14 Posts: 6055	Fri 04/04/14 04:14 PM
.. techno.. if I may be so bold again.. #5..lol.... okay ladies.. if you come across.. a profile of a man.. who is perfect in every way.. to the point that . you might feel intimidated.. what then..???.(ie).. do you view him.. and then think ..out of my league.. and move on.?? Good question no1. Funny you say that, as I have had that feeling. I personally have to build up to it. I analyze my options and the what if's. Often returning to his profile more than a few times before actually acting.

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Fri 04/04/14 06:54 PM
.. techno.. if I may be so bold again.. #5..lol.... okay ladies.. if you come across.. a profile of a man.. who is perfect in every way.. to the point that . you might feel intimidated.. what then..???.(ie).. do you view him.. and then think ..out of my league.. and move on.?? Perfect in every way? This isn't Mary Poppins. . Don't make me sing 'Chim Chim Cheree' otherwise I'll never stop. . Err wait, where were we again? Well, I admit to being intimidated by quite a few profiles, but then if I like what I read, I might aswell go for it. After all, if you like what catches your attention in a shop, you buy it, or most of the time. I never expect them to reply. It's just a "Cross your fingers and hope for the best" thing, for me.