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Topic: how do women feel about dating a single father who has full
Dallas1999 Joined Thu 06/06/13 Posts: 43	Sat 04/05/14 06:37 AM
When I left my ex, I had 3 kids 7,9,13. Oh and the dog. It took all my energy and concentration to see to it my kids didn't feel any more losses than they had. Every once in a blue moon I had a weekend away and had a blast..(yum yum) and all. lol. Your kids are priority one bro...your time will come,and maybe sooner than you think. Which opens a whole other can of worms...Cheers and keep your chin up

Crys876 Joined Tue 03/04/14 Posts: 116	Sat 04/05/14 10:00 AM
my ex hubby is a full custody dad. We never had kids together. It happened after we divorced. He left me because I had kids & pregnant wit someone else kid. (This was when we first met) He abused me for being a mom 1st & not after we married. Now tables turned. Hes treated like he treated me wit his kids(6). I have (4). Men dont see me as dating material because I cant have anymore because of cancer(ovarian). Im a survior of 5 yrs.Im. still here. You r more awesome than my sons dads. They dont want the responsibility. But keep having babies & running from caring for them & child support. I would love to date a dad who is a custodial parent. we can learn from each other. wow, you've been through a lot.

tckinney951 Joined Wed 03/12/14 Posts: 10	Sun 04/13/14 05:57 PM
Well I was inspired by one of the other members to start this one up. I would love to know what you think of us dads who have full custody of their kids. I know doesn't happen often but it does happen. Myself I have been hated on had women break dates as soon as they found out I have kids. so I really need to know what you think so please help me out... thank you to everyone who has replied there were some great advice from all of you who responded to my question. I am going to not worry about finding someone it will happen when the time is right. I do see the concerns from a womans point of view about me not having enough time for them and worried I am looking for her to be their mom. If they could chat and realize I have been a single dad for 10 years and my girls and I are just fine like that I am not looking to replace their mom just looking for mutual happiness between me and the other person. so I will sit back and see what happens if I do look she will have to be openminded and know that I will always have time for her. thank you to all of you

bbcountrygirl Joined Sun 02/02/14 Posts: 1	Sun 04/13/14 09:17 PM
Hey i am a single mom in the same boat. Its like i have the plague cause i have a son. Hes not baggage he is part of the deal. I wonder if dating a dad might be better probably the same . But hey i would date a man with kids.

aquohxiiMhai Joined Sat 03/01/14 Posts: 92	Sun 04/13/14 09:49 PM
i have a friend who also have kids and it doesnt change anything, it just a matter of honesty and respect.. we almost go to the extent of being together but we both decided for a long time relationship which is friendship.. ;)

1mom2miracles Joined Sun 04/13/14 Posts: 1	Thu 04/17/14 04:07 AM
personally when I meet a single guy whether or not they have children is one of my top "questions".... as a single mom and knowing the responsibilities that come with children, the amount of involvement that a dad has in their child's life says a lot about them. I would actually prefer to be in a relationship with a man that is raising their children at least has an active part in their children's lives because those are the men that get it, they understand the struggles of juggling time to do things for yourself...

dreamerana Joined Sat 09/21/13 Posts: 21544	Thu 04/17/14 07:11 PM Edited by dreamerana on Thu 04/17/14 07:12 PM
Well I was inspired by one of the other members to start this one up. I would love to know what you think of us dads who have full custody of their kids. I know doesn't happen often but it does happen. Myself I have been hated on had women break dates as soon as they found out I have kids. so I really need to know what you think so please help me out.... There are definitely women out there who would love you and your children. The important thing is to be up front and have communication. I don't have kids but have gone out with single dad's. That commitment to family is something I can admire and appreciate. That said, it also takes dealing up front with the facing co parenting. A woman isn't trying to replace your children's mother, but if she holds a place in your life, she will also be your partner in the parenting process. It's not an easy thing for some dads to open up about, but necessary if you are wanting something solid. Wish you all the best.

coldwind Joined Fri 04/18/14 Posts: 2	Fri 04/18/14 04:15 PM
nooo idea

coldwind Joined Fri 04/18/14 Posts: 2	Fri 04/18/14 04:15 PM
lol

Rukshan90 Joined Thu 09/19/13 Posts: 34	Sun 04/20/14 11:39 AM
IM a single guy .im searching a partner from here . I hope i can find out from this .if someone else inbox me .i don't mind about her past life .if she has kids also no mind i agree to marry

Miles1990s Joined Mon 04/14/14 Posts: 1	Sun 04/20/14 11:44 AM Edited by Miles1990s on Sun 04/20/14 12:02 PM
True........very true, to move on we shouldn't stick to the past other wise,u l'l always be in fear of what to happen next,being heart broken again. But believe mi God had a reason why u never ended up with him or her, may be its areason for to have the best u could ever had.

flash75 Joined Mon 04/28/14 Posts: 2	Sat 05/03/14 08:54 PM
I have been a single Dad for 8 yrs now and have met similar issues I think that your kids come first and any woman who can't handle the fact you have them doesn't deserve such a decent guy her loss keep up the good work man and all the best

deltaDawnII Joined Fri 04/11/14 Posts: 30	Mon 05/05/14 10:08 PM
Nothing hotter than a man who takes care of his kids!!! I agree me too!

deltaDawnII Joined Fri 04/11/14 Posts: 30	Mon 05/05/14 10:11 PM
personally when I meet a single guy whether or not they have children is one of my top "questions".... as a single mom and knowing the responsibilities that come with children, the amount of involvement that a dad has in their child's life says a lot about them. I would actually prefer to be in a relationship with a man that is raising their children at least has an active part in their children's lives because those are the men that get it, they understand the struggles of juggling time to do things for yourself... amen sista!!

CindeLLe Joined Fri 04/18/14 Posts: 69	Mon 05/05/14 11:42 PM
What the issue in dating a single dad will full custody? Its other way to say that the guy is responsible and man enough... Women only see the bad side of this that the guy has an excess baggage already and doesnt want to get tangled in that situation.. You all single dad out there who has full custody you're the all great and best dad in the world..

thediesel33 Joined Thu 05/08/14 Posts: 1	Fri 05/09/14 11:10 AM
Im a single father with a child we live alone and I do not have near as much time to give a woman. My son is two years old and is very demanding at this stage. I would love to have more time to devote to a woman but it is very hard. Lot of women say single dads are sexy but I haven't met any that want to take me serious. Before having my son live with me women use to throw themselves at me and it hasn't happened once since my son moved in with me.

blra Joined Sat 05/10/14 Posts: 16	Sat 05/10/14 04:55 PM
Well when I got custody of my kids my sister in law whom I still have a good relationship with tells me. Women love a man who takes care of his kids you will be sought after now. Which I have yet to see it have not had sex in over a year and no real dates to speak of women love to talk to me be friends on FB. But seems none of them think of me as someone they could date. That's all

Kenticus Joined Sun 05/04/14 Posts: 2	Sun 05/11/14 12:11 PM
I've raised 4, and have one left at home. In my experience, it actually weeds out those who are needy, jealous, etc. It also runs off otherwise good matches who are afraid of a situation where they will always feel second place and don't want to put the effort into a losing race. But, every now and then, a woman sees a father on his own as a potential partner and strong influence. Those are the amazing ones & usually have a clear idea of where they want to be and how to get there. Something attractive to a single dad.

Milan1315 Joined Sat 05/17/14 Posts: 4	Sat 05/17/14 03:02 AM
Well I was inspired by one of the other members to start this one up. I would love to know what you think of us dads who have full custody of their kids. I know doesn't happen often but it does happen. Myself I have been hated on had women break dates as soon as they found out I have kids. so I really need to know what you think so please help me out....

Milan1315 Joined Sat 05/17/14 Posts: 4	Sat 05/17/14 03:11 AM
I personally would find a man who has custody of his kids very appealing . To me it shows how much of man that guy is to be able to take on the role of both parents and it's so rare that I just find it amazing ! Men who have children are not a put off .