Do you know there is a serious relationship between marriage kids and divorce?. After getting married one excepted to have kids .kids need both the attention of his father and her mother. Parental love is very important when it comes to kids and without it kids are doomed for life. They become miresable and it can destroy their destiny their and their fulture.Lack of parent love can terminate the life of an innocent kid. That is why desperation is very bad and destructive to any responsible parents. Divorce afer having kids is not a good example to growing children. It affect the children negatively.parent should try to stay together if really love their children.

Being a divorced parent that raised two kids from the age of 7 & 9. The message may have some good meanings. But...no way can one tell me that my kids being raised with a single parent. That it would have been any better if raised with both parents...

At times there are things going on that to stay would cause more damage to a kid then leaving.

I have seen kids with the best of life, both parents and end up in more trouble then those that had to struggle a bit and grow up just a bit faster...

Examples are taught with hardship and lots of work towards what you want... It teaches your kids they can make it in this world alone if need be..

Many kids are prouder that their parent had the guts to stand up and do what was needed.

As I said some good in your message but far from the truth...

No two people should stay together only for the kids... it creates even more problems...

.. I don't know sky. my kids seemed just fine.. I know what you're saying.. I think you're wrong.. my kids are more well adjusted . then some of their friends.. whose parents fight constantly in front of them... are ignore them all together... its called parenting for a reason...D.dd.d.D

Wow how long does this kind of clap trap keep getting repeated?

There is a serious relationship with any thing with any of the first three elements stated.

Marriage does not make you a good parent and getting a divorce in many situations is the best thing for all people involved. Including kids that are much better off to be from a broken home than living in one.
Many single parents do and outstanding job of raising children.

I did not EXPECT to have kids and I did not EXPECT my kids to have kids. It was their choice and was a blessing but I don't know anyone who expects people to have kids. Since there are already way more children in the world than we can take care of if anything I would say that most people want it to be a choice.

Hate to break it too you billions of children do just fine in the world with out either parent and turn into happy well adjusted adults because of the love and support of the greater world. Yea it is nice if it is the parents but a child is far from doomed without it. And their lives are not necessarily miserable.

I agree with you Txsgal- we stayed together for the kids. He is in the Navy, so he was constantly away for work. Often 4-6months at a time. I guess that's what made it important for me to try and have as stable a family as possible,for them. I can honestly look back now and see things a little clearer than before. I think my kids would have been happier if we had left each other about 7-8 years ago... but we hold on to threads..trying to keep a marriage together..because of our beliefs of marriage, society, etc.. I never "wanted" to get married so that I could get divorced..you know?!?

Mostly... as much as possible parents try to keep or save their marriage for the sake of the kids that is if the issue is something that can still be fix but as to my case it'll no longer be healthy for my son to see his dad and i being together if there's no more respect, love.. Parental love definitely is important but as for me for as long as my son doesn't feel crippled for not having a dad everything is fine.i know i cant give him all but I make sure that he gets the attention, love, discipline , understanding and care he needs.

A divorce doesn't neccessarily mean that the child can't still have both it's parents in their life. I'm divorced and my children lives every second week with their father (12 minutes walk from where I live). They know they can always call or come over, even if it's the 'wrong' week. And they definitly have the love of both me and their father. But both of us also had our children as top priority through the diverse and decided that the best would be for them to still have both of us, even if we didn't get along enough to stay together.

sky, there are no absolutes,, in the ideal

it is absolutely BEST for a child to have the love and commitment of the two people who created them as a foundation for them to learn about love and commitment themselves

just as it is BEST to be born with all limbs

but, sometimes people lose their limbs or are not born with them and are still able to flourish, albeit with MANY more obstacles

I think, likewise, when a child is born without the love and commitment of their biological parents or loses it along the way, they are still able to flourish, albeit with MANY more obstacles

it is best to love the child enough to think of these things beforehand and fight to give them the best scenario before bringing them into the world and throughout life

but just like a limb with gangrene may no longer be best to keep, there are also relationships that are more poisonous than the commitment is beneficial for the child and which teach them all the wrong things about love

those relationships need to be let go,, the emotionally, verbally or physically abusive types that display no true repentance or desire to change, need to be let go,,,

Hi .. I have a 2 year old daughter and my wife and I are currently seperated and we might get a divorce. I am willing to work harder on our relationship for our child's sake but she doesn't wanna do that.
I feel really bad for my baby girl every time I see her:(

I am just sharing my story because I am feeling sad and it might help if I read your comments and hear your advice.

Justlovely: In a typical household, I would agree with your view...but like I said, my stbxhusband is in the Navy and I wouldn't continue to follow him around from place to place if we divorced. I probably would have returned to my hometown and the kids might have seen him 2-3 times a year for a couple of days.. Not fair to them or him. I could have done it..maybe should have... but at the time, all I wanted was for them to be raised by their mom and dad.
They are adults now. I don't have any major regrets.
Now, I can think about me a little. They can blame me, critisize me..it doesn't matter. If they want to feel better by blaming someone; it's okay, I know the truth.
aaa: I hope things work out for you and your daughter

Thanks a lot sweet

You're welcome aaa