Why do mature adults think " taking it slow " leads itself to a deeper more meaningful relationship?

I'm not sure we think it will lead to a more meaningful relationship. I think we have realized that rushing into something without taking time to get to know someone isn't the wisest way to start a relationship.

Because,,,,,,,"""WE"""" MATURE ADULTS""""""""""HAVE DONE LEAPED

AT LEAST ONCE,,,LOL,,,,lol and "GETTING BACK UP",,,,,HURTS ALOT.

The longer YOU live, the MORE YOU will want to BE SURE.

BEFORE, DOING "ANYTHING".......BECAUSE the OLDER we get,,the MORE "WE" think "WE" KNOW BETTER......lol,,,lol,,lol

rushing into something can be somewhat bittersweet but could possibly lead to more trouble than anything.

Define 'mature'....experienced..older...more common sense?

Which one? Or all of them?

Some people have the misperception that "slow and deliberate" necessarily carries a connotation of "well-thought out."

If you've ever seen a sloth, you know this is not always the case....

I would say all of them.....

Lex!

I think when people say "take it slow" they just mean to make sure the butterflies in the stomach have checked in with your brains. If you know yourself well, then it really doesn't matter what anyone else says or does.

could say it is because we have been there done that got burnt and felt the coals as they burned deep and figured that it would be best to watch the fire a bit before we just decide to jump in without a water hose.

Taking it slow......hmmm. exploring all aspects of a person, and a relationship, before committing for lifetime...'till death do us part' or one of us finds something better.

Mature adults...I have not met that many when it comes to relatinships of a romantic nature, most are half insane, with lust, and the romantic movie they have running through their heads, of what this person will bring for them.

Taking it slow...letting the dust settle, and the lust settle before leaping into the fire of committment.

Makes sense to me.

once burned twice shy

How long is realistic for "taking it slow" is my question

like half an hour?

Hummmmm myself I think that each of us has our own pace and when we are ready to go to the next step we will so for each it different then what someone else will do just take the time you feel it right

Well seems to me...Those "mature adults" must know something you don't or haven't learned then...It's called the school of hard knocks

Lust is a wonderful thing...BUT it blinds and isn't a very good decision maker and can lead people to see something that is not real...It's a given that lust will be present in the first few months and it's what is left at the end of that stage that is real and also when people feel comfortable enough to show you who they really are...When your eyes are fully open should be when you make critical decisions about spending your life with someone...Otherwise you can be in for a very rude awakening...So I guess the choice is have alot of short-term nothing relationships that end when the rose coloured glasses come off or get to know each other in depth enough to make choices based on reality!!!!!!!!!!!

The way I see it...That's the way most mature adults should do things...Because with "Maturity" comes experience!!!!!!!!

Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me. ~Chinese Proverb

Well i understand everybodies point here !!!!



But remember that feeling when you just met someone and it was ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You just jumped right the f!ck in?!
Didnt care about anything else but that????
Yeah you remember!!

I'm only 23 and i know the answer to that....

Rushing is BAAAAAAAAAAAAD for you. It gets you NOWHERE fast. I've had my share of 'fast' relationships, and learned that that just don't work. You have to get to know someone to truely love them. So yes, it does make sense that taking it slow helps lead to a more meaningful relationship. How much can you really get to know about a person if all you ever do is have sex? You have to spend time and get a true sense of what life would be like with them before you say those 3 words that we are all dying to hear. I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months now. We do live together, but we dont' have sex and we've not said "I love you". Basically we live together like roommates. We decided to do things backwards... it seems to be working...

all sex and no getting to know each other makes for disaster...peeps need companionship too!

Uneeknrare: I have a question for you. You're a beautiful woman, and I'm sure very sweet and so on...

Don't you want the guy you're with to truely love you for who you are, love almost everything about you, ignore the things they don't love? That takes time, and you will see that you are worth the time that you take. Its more important for YOU if YOU decide that you are worth spending that time on. Don't just rush in, then you're practically giving away a priceless piece of art. Try thinking about what YOU think you deserve and want in a relationship. Then take your time to find out if whomever you are seeing feels that you deserve those things too...