Are all the interracial dating online is to play out a sexual fantacy? I love Italian men but everyone that has contacted me was for encounters not a relationships. Its horrible ! Help Help

I don't know but I think that an interest in the exotic is going to be like that.

Thanks, so why join a dating site and write that you are looking for a long term relationship?

I don't date interracially, but I'd assume anyone who was especially looking to date outside their race would be looking to have some sort of "experience" like you said. Otherwise, they'd just be looking for a partner they liked, not a specific race, know what I mean? I hope you find what you want though. Italian men are hot.

Thanks Julie aren't they.. Omg! I dated one before he was theeeee best but later I found out he lied was married. :,( other than that absolutely everything you could ask for in a gentleman!

Because I am. Doesn't mean that I wouldn't consider something less serious if somebody really interesting came along though and I personally think that it's better to start off casual anyway than talking about something really heavy like living together or having kids before you have even got to know each other properly.

I think that a lot of women make the mistake of thinking that because a man is looking for sex that that's all that he wants. They aren't mutually exclusive and if the sex is good why wouldn't I want to keep seeing her?

Thanks you for your feedback and I totally agree. You should looking into lesser if the opportunity presence itself. However, when I say for most that is not the case the inbox approach has been a total contradiction. Example: profile says looking for a long term relationship or marriage. Inbox: im married looking for a dominant female to control me. Spank me , strap on and &$@# me
I agree nobody should rush into a long term relationship , nevertheless start by dating meeting for a cup of coffee not talking about how you have a wife and how horrible she is in bed. Sorry, im a professional woman with a high self esteem. If I was given the opportunity I would call your wife and tell her your online name because its inappropriate, and risky behaviors that needs to be addressed. Not only are men putting themselves at risk but they are putting their wives at risk. They truly need to see a sex therapist or a cognitive behavior therapist.

To me, plenty of black women are outwardly attractive.
So, why shouldn't I want to date them?

It is the same for Asian women.

That's fine, but the problem is when you only want someone for their race. Like I might see a Hispanic man and think, Damn he looks good, that's a nice looking man. But it's different if I say, Damn that Hispanic man looks good, I want some of that, 'cause I've never had a Hispanic man before. It's the way you put it, you know?

well, I have been on interracial dating sites and not noticed any differences from other sites,,,but then I make it clear in the profile that I don't put a priority on sex or putting out,


perhaps its a cultural thing with some cultures being more sexual and physical than others,,,?

If I consider a woman to be outwardly attractive, then why should it matter if she were either black or Asian?

You're missing the point. No one said it should matter if the woman was black or Asian, we're saying you should say you want a woman you're attracted to, not I want a black or Asian woman, which so many people do. It's a fetish, not an attraction, those are two different things. I might happen to fall for a black man, who knows, but if I walk into a room, just looking for a black man to be with, that's shady.

Why the fetish about Italian men?

I disagree. If you know yourself and what kind of physical features appeal to you why shouldn't you look for them. Or for that matter personality traits. People like to be accepted for what they are. It should not matter that you like some features that are associated with one race or another. As far as fetishes I think that is ridiculous; not like different races are all that different in basic anatomy unless someone has been feeding you some kind of bull and you don't have the knowledge to know fact from lies.

Sorry. You live too far away from me, unless you want a LTR.

just saying, if one excludes a whole race of people from their relationships,, they are selling themselves short

my opinion,,,

I don't find pale skin attractive (Associated with 'white' people but not exclusive to them, just like pretty much all physical attributes)

yet, I am attracted to broad shoulders, a certain swag, good dancer,,etc,,

I am sure many pale skin people have these other attributes that I AM ATTRACTED to,, and I think it silly to exclude them based on the one or two physical attributes I may not be attracted to that aren't even EXCLUIVE to their race,,


I don't get that,, but that's just me,,,

Inter-racial?
Really?

Inter-species is more understandable.

i exclude certain races, but that doesn't mean i won't date them because of their race, just means i'm not actively looking for a woman in that race... but anything can happen at any time...

I got drunk in college one time, and had really hot sex with this green chick from Orion 5.

Other than that, all my dates have belonged to the human race.

I don't consider that exclusion than.

I am not actively looking for a new car, but if I were to be given one, I would drive it. I wouldn't be going around proclaiming that I don't drive new cars,,,


two different things,, imho

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