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I think there is someone special for everyone. I think the better looking women get more opportunity to choose what is available but pose a higher risk of being in contact with "players" or generally shallow people who are mainly interested in looks or just sex because of looks.
If you have ten men with decent lines vying for your attention, it must be hard to know which has the best head and heart, strongest character, stable emotions, and is willing to make the desired effort. It is even harder to guess which combination of the best traits will actually mesh instead of clash with traits of your own. There are only two ways to see into someone's heart. One is enough written word to get past all the veils. The other is actual physical contact over enough time to see past all the walls. Sometimes a combination of the two works! Sometimes nothing does. |
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Never tell a girl that she's beautiful. Tell her why that might be the case. The smart ones will always know the difference. Interesting theory. Do you speak from experience? |
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I think telling a girl she is beautiful combined with explaining how and why she is beautiful works well.
Try telling her she is ugly and see how that works. 
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I never ask women why they're single. I do hear "I'm fed up with men" from women of a certain age all the time though.
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I've been asked that very question many times. I always answer. "Because I choose to be." I never took the expression as an insult.
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I have a heart to give away, please don't break it
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I have a heart to give away, please don't break it Exactly... 
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I've had, "Why are you still here?" quite a lot.
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I think that you might be reading too much into that Crystal. Maybe they are just trying to pay you a compliment? I said to a woman the other week that she was never old enough to be a grandmother. Seems like the same sort of thing to me. I agree with Twat on this one.Speaking for myself I have said this to women before and meant it as a compliment.I mean some of these women are sweet, smart, and gorgeous and I can't understand why they are single and yes Leigh and Crystal are two of them. I can tell by some of the women's responses that maybe that question strikes a nerve so from now on I will not ask anymore and look for another way to deliver a compliment. |
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I don't see what the big deal is. I would rather hear that than why are you on a dating site cause you are so ugly.
Take it as a compliment. |
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I've had, "Why are you still here?" quite a lot. Actually Tawt, that was my next question  I am joking of course |
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Meh, I get that all the time.
It seems men have the expectation that if you are somewhat..comely, that you should not be on a social site "selling yourself" or at least they want to know WHY. I mean, I am always happy if the looks please them, but I also consider that it has nothing whatsoever to do with who I am. So, I wonder why they question, and they wonder what is wrong with me. Evens out..I guess :-) |
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Edited by
PacificStar48
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Tue 02/04/14 02:09 PM
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Asking a woman why she is single is almost as ridiculous as asking a beautiful woman in a wheelchair "how could someone so pretty be disabled?" Being single or disabled is not always a choice and sometimes it is.
Men who think every pretty woman is getting hundreds of offers look over the fact that they are in the majority of men who don't even ask. Or they ask in some left handed insulting or self demeaning way that is vague or gives them an out. Pretty women have to fend off drunk, angry, bitter men who assume the only way you would say yes is if you were giving them pity, bored, looking to be seen out, or hiding some terrible flaw when the reality is the rgular guys just don't ask. Often the really great looking guys don't want a pretty woman to step on their "light". Or they have zero confidence and won't ask either. Also life is not fair. Being pretty or disabled does not give you an automatic out to life's ups and downs. Women who are beautiful have sickness, disabled children or parents, their houses get flooded, they get laid off, pick your problem pretty women have it too. Some men are cowards, selfish, only interested in the novelty of either, and can't stand the heat once the are in the kitchen of being with a pretty women or a woman with a disability; even if they talk them self into it in the beginning. And yes pretty women do get ask out a lot and men desire them even throw money around like it is water but it does not mean they sleep with every man who wants to sleep with them or they are a gold digger but try and tell that to a guy who knows you are popular. What really bites is an average girl can tell a guy no and the guy can save face saying she is "not worth it" but a pretty woman tries to tell a man no and he may or may not accept it. If they don't force the situation and assault you or your property they do everything they can to trash your reputation weather they lie out right or twist the truth. Last but not least why should a pretty woman settle for some guy who has a nasty attitude and enough red flags to start a parade just so she doesn't look like a looser for being on the site like every one else. Are they suppose to auction themself off only to the "beautiful people" or are they suppose to give the people who want to give them a chance? , |
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I think that you might be reading too much into that Crystal. Maybe they are just trying to pay you a compliment? I said to a woman the other week that she was never old enough to be a grandmother. Seems like the same sort of thing to me. I agree with Twat on this one.Speaking for myself I have said this to women before and meant it as a compliment.I mean some of these women are sweet, smart, and gorgeous and I can't understand why they are single and yes Leigh and Crystal are two of them. I can tell by some of the women's responses that maybe that question strikes a nerve so from now on I will not ask anymore and look for another way to deliver a compliment. It's nice to hear this from you Jack because you are one of the most sincere men on here...If you say you always mean it as a compliment, I believe you....And, it makes me feel a lot better hearing it too...I think this is one of those "in context, everything is relative" things....When you're the one being asked, it's not hard to tell the difference between compliment and tactical move...When it comes across as the latter, I resent being ask to explain my singleness especially when it is being weighed against my appearance...Why do any of us have to explain being single?...If a man finds me attractive, why the hell can't he just leave it at that?... |
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Asking a woman why she is single is almost as ridiculous as asking a beautiful woman in a wheelchair "how could someone so pretty be disabled?" Being single or disabled is not always a choice and sometimes it is. Men who think every pretty woman is getting hundreds of offers look over the fact that they are in the majority of men who don't even ask. Or they ask in some left handed insulting or self demeaning way that is vague or gives them an out. Pretty women have to fend off drunk, angry, bitter men who assume the only way you would say yes is if you were giving them pity, bored, looking to be seen out, or hiding some terrible flaw when the reality is the rgular guys just don't ask. Often the really great looking guys don't want a pretty woman to step on their "light". Or they have zero confidence and won't ask either. Also life is not fair. Being pretty or disabled does not give you an automatic out to life's ups and downs. Women who are beautiful have sickness, disabled children or parents, their houses get flooded, they get laid off, pick your problem pretty women have it too. Some men are cowards, selfish, only interested in the novelty of either, and can't stand the heat once the are in the kitchen of being with a pretty women or a woman with a disability; even if they talk them self into it in the beginning. And yes pretty women do get ask out a lot and men desire them even throw money around like it is water but it does not mean they sleep with every man who wants to sleep with them or they are a gold digger but try and tell that to a guy who knows you are popular. What really bites is an average girl can tell a guy no and the guy can save face saying she is "not worth it" but a pretty woman tries to tell a man no and he may or may not accept it. If they don't force the situation and assault you or your property they do everything they can to trash your reputation weather they lie out right or twist the truth. Last but not least why should a pretty woman settle for some guy who has a nasty attitude and enough red flags to start a parade just so she doesn't look like a looser for being on the site like every one else. Are they suppose to auction themself off only to the "beautiful people" or are they suppose to give the people who want to give them a chance? , Hey Joyce!  ... ...wait!! make that two ...Also, how come nobody is mentioning the fact that, many times, good looking women get passed over because the men they are attracted to fear rejection (no balls )..Life is so not fair! !
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I think that you might be reading too much into that Crystal. Maybe they are just trying to pay you a compliment? I said to a woman the other week that she was never old enough to be a grandmother. Seems like the same sort of thing to me. I agree with Twat on this one.Speaking for myself I have said this to women before and meant it as a compliment.I mean some of these women are sweet, smart, and gorgeous and I can't understand why they are single and yes Leigh and Crystal are two of them. I can tell by some of the women's responses that maybe that question strikes a nerve so from now on I will not ask anymore and look for another way to deliver a compliment. It's nice to hear this from you Jack because you are one of the most sincere men on here...If you say you always mean it as a compliment, I believe you....And, it makes me feel a lot better hearing it too...I think this is one of those "in context, everything is relative" things....When you're the one being asked, it's not hard to tell the difference between compliment and tactical move...When it comes across as the latter, I resent being ask to explain my singleness especially when it is being weighed against my appearance...Why do any of us have to explain being single?...If a man finds me attractive, why the hell can't he just leave it at that?... I agree with Leigh the credibility of the person issuing the compliment has a lot to do with how well it is received. Someone of character, intelligence, values tells me I am beautiful I have a lot better chance it is because they see me as a whole person rather than some physical markers that I was born with and make very little effort to capitalize on. Nor do I want to feel like I have to keep on some plastic appearance 40 years after the fact so someones ego's supported so they can brag they have an old beauty queen. |
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Asking a woman why she is single is almost as ridiculous as asking a beautiful woman in a wheelchair "how could someone so pretty be disabled?" Being single or disabled is not always a choice and sometimes it is. Men who think every pretty woman is getting hundreds of offers look over the fact that they are in the majority of men who don't even ask. Or they ask in some left handed insulting or self demeaning way that is vague or gives them an out. Pretty women have to fend off drunk, angry, bitter men who assume the only way you would say yes is if you were giving them pity, bored, looking to be seen out, or hiding some terrible flaw when the reality is the rgular guys just don't ask. Often the really great looking guys don't want a pretty woman to step on their "light". Or they have zero confidence and won't ask either. Also life is not fair. Being pretty or disabled does not give you an automatic out to life's ups and downs. Women who are beautiful have sickness, disabled children or parents, their houses get flooded, they get laid off, pick your problem pretty women have it too. Some men are cowards, selfish, only interested in the novelty of either, and can't stand the heat once the are in the kitchen of being with a pretty women or a woman with a disability; even if they talk them self into it in the beginning. And yes pretty women do get ask out a lot and men desire them even throw money around like it is water but it does not mean they sleep with every man who wants to sleep with them or they are a gold digger but try and tell that to a guy who knows you are popular. What really bites is an average girl can tell a guy no and the guy can save face saying she is "not worth it" but a pretty woman tries to tell a man no and he may or may not accept it. If they don't force the situation and assault you or your property they do everything they can to trash your reputation weather they lie out right or twist the truth. Last but not least why should a pretty woman settle for some guy who has a nasty attitude and enough red flags to start a parade just so she doesn't look like a looser for being on the site like every one else. Are they suppose to auction themself off only to the "beautiful people" or are they suppose to give the people who want to give them a chance? , Very well said. As usual.
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Oh I know. It's a hard life being this attractive.
. I'm kidding. If you have the face, flaunt it. I reckon it's better to have TOO MANY prospects than none at all. It does get a bit annoying though, if it's said to you too many times. They don't seem to grasp that even the gorgeous still break up with people. 
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It's true. Only the other week I found myself saying that a woman wasn't worth it and all other things being equal, I wouldn't have said that if she had been better looking.
I'll go further. I still think that my last girlfriend was worth it and she was a pretty girl and better looking than that other one. What a terrible person I am for being so shallow and being prepared to put up with all sorts of crap from women that I find attractive. |
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It's true. Only the other week I found myself saying that a woman wasn't worth it and all other things being equal, I wouldn't have said that if she had been better looking. I'll go further. I still think that my last girlfriend was worth it and she was a pretty girl and better looking than that other one. What a terrible person I am for being so shallow and being prepared to put up with all sorts of crap from women that I find attractive. Looks are nice but attraction comes in many flavors. Wit, charm, personality, humor, and sex appeal are attractive too. |
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