Yes; I met alcoholics and abusers. Needless to say; I got rid of them very fast and had one arrested.

I wouldn't say 'because of them' because I made the choice to be involved with them, I share some responsibility in it

however, there is one person I Wish I hadn't gotten involved with because he turned out too mentally unstable to deal with obstacle or sacrifice involved in having a family,,,

my daughter is now left with no father, and I am a single mother in the truest since of the word,,, truly no fair to the child and I hate that it happened this way every time I think about the father,,,

but, she is a blessing just the same so I just work that much harder to be by myself what two parents were meant to be,,,,

Yep. Live and learn.

A buddhist philosophy is that any adult is utterly responsible for all which happens within their personal world.
Nobody else.

Glad I'm not a Buddhist.

yes, makes it hard to hold murderers thieves and rapists accountable to the lives they ruin,,,,

What if you're blaming the other person for what was actually your fault? This was pretty much the first thought I had when I first saw this thread and it comes back every time I see it come back to the top.

its hard to pinpoint 'fault' in human interactions,,,,,

people act and react,,,,

it's not a buddhist philosophy that I am familiar with. we are responsible for our choices but not for the behavior of another, we choose to remove ourselves from a bad situation into a situation that does not present moral conflict....do no harm, in otherwords

I am not taking the blame for a person with addictions. Any other relationship break up; I will take the blame as I am sure I was equally responsible for it but not for addictions.

What if they were addicted to you? Hmmmmmmmmmm. lol

I'd kill to find a guy who is addicted to me.

I doubt any man would be that stupid to be addicted to me.

Nothing that happens outside of yourself is your fault. However, all of your choices and responses are your responsibility.
Dr. Margaret Paul

If a crazy lady on Divorce Court can use her...assets to marry a guy. Then I am sure you could use the same thing to make him addicted to you. Or you could cover your body in drugs so when he smells you he gets high and becomes addicted. That might be easier. hahaha

Isn't that kind of like hanging a pork chop on your neck so the dog will play with you?

Well kind of. Once the pork chop is gone though the dog leaves. If this is done right then the guy won't know where the high came from and his brain will connect it to you so he will be addicted to you. It works in theory anyway. lol

Of course when it turned out bad, it was their fault.
What other reason could there be???

Well, I'm practically perfect in every way, so yeah.