What do you think of shacking up?

no more for me

Hmm, mixed feelings on that one. I lived with my ex before we got married, but we were already engaged and planning the wedding when we moved in together. Now, I have a 12 year old. I don't have a problem with it, per se, but I could only do it if the relationship was permanent, not a "trial."

YOU RUNNING POLES THIS MORNING UNEEK? JK


I HAVE DONE IT- BUT I GUESS I PREFER TO BE MARRIED...
LIVING TOGETHER ALLWAYS LEAVES YOU WONDERING IF IT WILL BE
PERMANANT...

its ok but i prefer something more stable and reliable

Just having a curious day!

it's OK but I prefer the real deal....more permanent

whats permanant in todays world?
Shacking up is cool has long has there are some basic rules (for lack of a better term)about who's responsible for what.
It has to happen for the right reasons

I agree, I have done it, and have been married. I prefer the real deal. It means more...

Hmmm at my age I have to think of the future

If I would marry then I would only receive half of the social security I earned, so with the expense of things in todays world, if you would want to retire and enjoy the time you have together you might want to have that other half of income.

I have seen more committment in some relationships where they just live together, then in some marriages.

So I would say just live with someone, maybe because I had a bad marriage

why does there need to be a piece of paper involved for it to be the "real deal"? First I want to say that yes, it needs to be committed on both sides, but tell me, for those of you who were married, how real was it if your not married anymore? Not trying to be mean, just proving a point. It would not have mattered what "certification" you had, as the song remains the same, the relationship would have as well.

with as young as i am i say hell yeahs shack up but if i were older i would say marriage depends on which age group ur in

Does this not all stem back to the individual and are they able to truely understand what commitment means, and are they able to make the sacrifices to keep it all working. I see more and more everyday people are more concerned about themselves than the whole. With that attitude commitment is just a word of the day

it is the commitment that the two have that is important. Marriage ... does not equal stable and safe.


I am not opposed to either notion but would not rely on a piece of paper to determine commitment.

A piece of paper doesn't gurantee that you will stay together. Isn't is about working together, growing together, communication, caring, and respect?

If a man gives me those, than I don't need the paper to tell me I'm his, because I already know that I am committed to him

I know there are religions that teach that it is wrong to have sex or live together before you're married, but I don't subscribe to those religions, so you won't find religion in my logic. If you have children, do not move in with somebody unless you have both agreed that you want to have a marriage-like relationship and plan to be together for the long haul (or at least until the kids are grown). When you shack up with somebody, that person becomes a parent-figure for your children. First of all, you need to be certain that this person is a good parent. Second, your children will probably become attached to this person, and you cannot just toy with your children's emotions by having parents-figures moving in and out. It will emotionally scar your children!

Mitch you are so right about screwing kids up...

I have seen it happen alot. It's sad...

I moved in with my husband 7 months before we got married. It was the 4 of us...with our two sons. It was an adjustment to make because we raised our children differently. The marriage only lasted 2 1/2 years.

But if it would have worked out, I don't need a piece of paper to feel as if I am in a committed relationship. I'm not sure I would ever want to get married again. It just doesn't work for me.

Age, family, finances & property all are major concerns for this subject. Been married twice & do not see it happpening again. Have my life, house pretty well plan'd. Can see a relationship with a lady for companionship & traveling. At a point in life, being together becomes more about companionship,don't need a piece of paper to make thing's legal.

i belive u should be married but in this day and age u should live together for a while. or just stay few nights at time. i would get married again but right now i am just holding out for the i know with no doubt. i would shack in with someone yes.