Is it ok for married people to come on here

I would assume so...

If I were married I would not get on a dating site not even for the forums here. Just too many opportunities and I'd have more respect than that for my husband.

Me neither, but whatever works for other people....*insert shrug here*

OK by "whom"?

THEM.

there is no rule against it,,in the forums

whether a spouse 'allows' or feels its appropriate for their partner is another story though

I didn't mind my spouses having a life that didn't always include me and I am at a place where I wouldn't have a spouse that couldn't deal with not being a part of every conversation or interest in my life

It would only cross a line with me if it was being used for dating purposes, or something off limits to me,, things I couldn't openly read or participate in myself

but social media like this sight are often just a meeting place for conversation and debate,,,

but its really dependent upon the boundaries two people set in their relationship

For myself I wouldn't do it, but if your a cheater you can do it anywhere just as easy as you can on here.

True....

everyone wanna live their own life so seems nothing harful to have friendship wid people of similar intrest

I think its just not worth risking.

somhow u r right its not risky carebear :)

I might if we both met on here and had friends in common. But no way would I join a site after being married.
In my opinion that is just asking for trouble.

I don't think we should assume that wanting to communicate with other people means one doesn't want to be with their spouse

it is certainly about the boundaries in the marriage and the trust,,

there is nothing wrong with spending some of your time with others beside the wife, especially if its only cyber discussions and communications,,,

and nothing romantic,,,

Some sites have evolved from pure 'dating' prospects
to social gathering sites, such as M2.

I met my feller on here, and because we have made
friends here, we continue to participate, when the
mood is upon us:-)

I cannot say, as a married person that I would join
a site like this, seems a bit at cross-purposes.

But hooking up after being here a while, it is still
very natural feeling to chat in the forums, even
though we are both unavailable in a permanent kind
of way :-)

Considering people use sites like facebook for dating even though they were made as social networks. In a way pretty much any site is a dating site as any site can end up allowing people to meet that wouldn't have met before. I would say it's not about what site you join. But your intentions on that site. If you intend to make friends and that is it then join what ever site you want. If's you're in an open relationship or your a swinger then you can still join what ever site you want. Just under stand that on various sites you're going to find people who will hate you for that kind of thing. I would expect I'm not telling you anything you don't already know.

I expect regardless as to what anyone says on here you're going to do what you want anyway. So just stay safe and have fun.

I agree with this! Even in a solid relationship people can go through rough patches. Why put temptation in front if someone during a rough patch in ones life.

I have been on Mingle for over a decade so it is really more a social outlet than a date site for me. Friends and family know I am here.

The person I like knows I am often on Mingle and I more often than not get emails from him here as I do my server email if we want to do something together or chat on the phone that I rarely answer.

If we move the relationship to anything past what it is now I would probably modify my profile at some point. But that probably would not happen until we were married because I just don't put my private life out there on line.

If I was married my husband would have my passwords and probably use my computer as much as I used to use my late husbands. To me when you are married you are one.

The only exception to that was my social work files which by law were strictly confidential. AND I didn't bring work home. I don't use my personal PC for business/casework EVER. I don't need my personal and professional life co-mingleing period.

Got to say if I have any concerns about a spouses fidelity he isn't going to be my spouse. If a guy lie or cheat on me even in the slightest way he better be doing it purposefully because the result is going to be to end the relationship faster than a New York Minute. Anyone who knows me well enough to marry me would know that.

This^^^