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i was wondering if someone could give me advice on my situation. i have not been with anyone in 10 year im 27 years old now, and extremely lonely. i've allways been shy, and im deffinitely not the best looking guy around. i get extremely uncomforatble around girls. and would like to know what i could do to find someone who just might accept me for who i am. i know who to treat a lady. Also i have dont extensive study on female anatomy. i do 3d modeling in my free time, to make characters for video games an such, and you kind of need to know that stuff to make them look real. im a nerd, and love to read an watch documentaries on all sorts of subjects. i think if i was given the chance i could really please a woman. I learned that only about 20% of women have ever experienced an orgasm, and only maybe half of that 20% have experience a full body orgasm, research states that a woman if properly stimulated can experience a full body or G spot orgasm for up to 30 minutes after the initial one. I'd really like to put research into practice :o).
Anyone have any advice for me? |
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you are cute as can be, and your profile is very sweet.
The issue seems to be your shyness. A social site like this, believe it or not, can help you there. You can learn how to put into words, thoughts you don't share otherwise. And people will tell you their own truths. So, my advice is, enjoin the forums, show the charm. One day things will go your way if you are sincere :-) |
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Thank you for your reply, i allways thought somtimes i was to truthful, but its just how i am i never was good at lying or embellishing or whatever people call it, so i guess i will just keep it up. problem is when i am around a girl i like i seem to just freeze up. Guess i will have to work on that!!
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Not necessarily. If shy/tongue-tied is who you really are, then use it as a tool. The first thing gals notice are the fakes. It does not matter who/what you are, as long as it is true. What you think of as handicaps, they think of as uniqueness. |
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men are visual women are emotional--- which means a guy does NOT have to be so attractive on the outside!!!!! your causing your own problems.. its the inside of a man that counts the most--- watch the guys that are successful with woman--take course from a dating coach like David De Angelo or Carlos Xuma. you can do it---good luck----
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I really do appreciate all of your advice, I will take it to heart and put it to use, or will at least try. everything both of you have said really does ring true when i think about it. i like how you said men are visual women are emotional. That definitely rings true. Thinking about it I am causing my own problems. guess i will see how it goes!!!
thanks again |
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Not necessarily. If shy/tongue-tied is who you really are, then use it as a tool. The first thing gals notice are the fakes. It does not matter who/what you are, as long as it is true. What you think of as handicaps, they think of as uniqueness. 
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i was wondering if someone could give me advice on my situation. i have not been with anyone in 10 year im 27 years old now, and extremely lonely. i've allways been shy, and im deffinitely not the best looking guy around. i get extremely uncomforatble around girls. and would like to know what i could do to find someone who just might accept me for who i am. i know who to treat a lady. Also i have dont extensive study on female anatomy. i do 3d modeling in my free time, to make characters for video games an such, and you kind of need to know that stuff to make them look real. im a nerd, and love to read an watch documentaries on all sorts of subjects. i think if i was given the chance i could really please a woman. I learned that only about 20% of women have ever experienced an orgasm, and only maybe half of that 20% have experience a full body orgasm, research states that a woman if properly stimulated can experience a full body or G spot orgasm for up to 30 minutes after the initial one. I'd really like to put research into practice :o). Anyone have any advice for me? This is not the post of a shy man  ...I think you underestimate yourself!...You are an excellent communicator and, judging from your picture, easy on the eyes....As a musician, you already have an advantage! Preforming your music is all about having confidence in your skill....To develop the same level of confidence with the ladies, practice, practice, practice!...If at first you don't succeed, try, try again!
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thank you for your reply, and yea that post isn't shy, but thats the thing im a computer nerd so im not near as shy on the computer, it when i get face to face. Plus when i decided to make that post i thought to myself i dont care what people think im just going to do it. Im trying not to be as shy an reserved, now if i could just do it face to face i just might have it made :o)
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Edited by
Leigh2154
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Mon 12/30/13 05:02 PM
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thank you for your reply, and yea that post isn't shy, but thats the thing im a computer nerd so im not near as shy on the computer, it when i get face to face. Plus when i decided to make that post i thought to myself i dont care what people think im just going to do it. Im trying not to be as shy an reserved, now if i could just do it face to face i just might have it made :o) Something tells me it's only a matter of time before you "have it made".. ...You're a very charming young man Drummer!
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Edited by
Drummer06
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Mon 12/30/13 06:38 PM
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lol, i dont feel that young. I just turned 27 in september. The last time i got laid was when i had just turned 18. thats just allmost 10 year since i've had any kind of relation with a woman. even then i think she was only with me for my money, as i got a settlement of about 60 grand when i turned 18, i bought her everything, took her everywhere, helped her any way i could. and i didnt just give money i gave meeh completely, if that makes sence. then when the money was gone so was she. That might allso be a reason why im not so good with women, deep down i think im scared of getting heart broken again, men can say what they want but i know we can get heart broken, and we have feeling too. cause i was madly in love, but looking back on it i dont think she cared for me at all. the years just keep ticking away, and im still alone :o( guess it's nobodies fault but my own though.
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One of the most important things in life to do is to learn from our mistakes. We have all been hurt before and such is the nature of life. Trying not to make the same mistakes and learning from them is a part of growth.
Staying true to yourself will attract someone more compatible with the real you. Hang in there Drummer! I've got a feeling life is just beginning for you!
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Thank you for your reply, i allways thought somtimes i was to truthful, but its just how i am i never was good at lying or embellishing or whatever people call it, so i guess i will just keep it up. problem is when i am around a girl i like i seem to just freeze up. Guess i will have to work on that!! I agree with soufie. you are as cute as a button and I am sure the girls notice. trust your shyness. it is not a problem, it is a guide. when the right kind of woman comes along you will know what to say. my guess is simply that you need someone who can talk to you about things you are interested in. very intelligent folk sometimes have trouble with "small talk." you might want to search profiles based on shared interests and there is a "gamer girl" thread on here too somewhere....computers & tech maybe?? good luck....if u stay as nice as you have been so far you will be fine...beware, however, many of us have pretty whacky humor :) |
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I agree with soufie. you are as cute as a button and I am sure the girls notice. trust your shyness. it is not a problem, it is a guide. when the right kind of woman comes along you will know what to say. my guess is simply that you need someone who can talk to you about things you are interested in. very intelligent folk sometimes have trouble with "small talk." you might want to search profiles based on shared interests and there is a "gamer girl" thread on here too somewhere....computers & tech maybe?? good luck....if u stay as nice as you have been so far you will be fine...beware, however, many of us have pretty whacky humor :) Thanks yet again, please keep the advice coming, i didn't know about the gamer girl thread, funny thing i i dont like to play games, i just like to make stuff for them, and reprogram them haha. One of the most important things in life to do is to learn from our mistakes. We have all been hurt before and such is the nature of life. Trying not to make the same mistakes and learning from them is a part of growth. Staying true to yourself will attract someone more compatible with the real you. Hang in there Drummer! I've got a feeling life is just beginning for you! I definitely understand learning from mistakes, i have made some doosies, however, after what happen with that one girl, maybe i learned to well, and subconsciously just shut off so it couldnt happen again maybe? |
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lol, i dont feel that young. I just turned 27 in september. The last time i got laid was when i had just turned 18. thats just allmost 10 year since i've had any kind of relation with a woman. even then i think she was only with me for my money, as i got a settlement of about 60 grand when i turned 18, i bought her everything, took her everywhere, helped her any way i could. and i didnt just give money i gave meeh completely, if that makes sence. then when the money was gone so was she. That might allso be a reason why im not so good with women, deep down i think im scared of getting heart broken again, men can say what they want but i know we can get heart broken, and we have feeling too. cause i was madly in love, but looking back on it i dont think she cared for me at all. the years just keep ticking away, and im still alone :o( guess it's nobodies fault but my own though. See, kicking this around has already helped you identify the root of the problem...Maybe it's less about being shy and more about being afraid of being hurt....Stop sitting on the sidelines feeling lonely...Take a chance, reach out...The next time you meet a woman your are attracted to, ask her out...The longer you wait, the harder it will be.... |
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I'll go with what the other posters afore me have said!!
Go take that chance-dont look at it as a "risk" though.. Goodluck to you in 2014!! |
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Edited by
Drummer06
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Wed 01/01/14 08:31 PM
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It's 2014 now, hopefully as the above poster said, with my new goal, and the advice provided here. It was said i seemed to have found the root of my problem, The saying "it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all" Seems to apply well here. I guess if i get hurt again, the pain will be worththe chance and the hope that it might have worked out right? Hope, is the the foundation of human nature, but she can be a sharp knife to the heart somtimes, but without it life is dull, and the futer means nothing!!! Anyhow happy new year, and thank you all so much for taking your time to try and help meeh. WAIT!! not try, you all DID help meeh, thanks and god bless (even though im not Religious, In the bible sense)
Justin |
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Hey Drummer, Maybe it is just my poor eyes but when you look at your mini size picture skimming profiles it looks like you are "flipping the bird" the way you are holding your dark guitar against your dark shirt. It is a subtle but in some circles that would get you skipped over before they ever read your screen name or profile. Maybe you can change the brightness but I would get a different Lead shot that makes you look your age. Couldn't hurt. Good Luck.
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I very much thank you for your reply, i never noticed that, however i do see what you are saying. I'm not however, when you play guitar you sometimes stick your thumb up , and then roll it over the top of the neck of the guitar, to get a large bend on the higher strings the thumb provide extra strength to bend the sting. it just so happen this photo seems to have been taken just before i rolled my thumb down to bend the string. But i do appreciate your input i will consider changing the photo, simply because if that's what you saw, and thought, then that may be what other people see and think as well. it's sound advice and that's is why i opened the thread.
Justin |
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you have to stop thinking that you have a problem. that is first and foremost.
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