I tend to agree with this because if you talked to as many 20 somethings that I have over the years doing what I did with military and other male dominated populations you would realize that for all the bragging and bravado not that many guys are getting laid all that often even with all the looks, money, and other perks in their favor.

It is better that you can say you have been with someone you wanted to be with than a bunch of, sorry gals don't flame me for telling the truth, bimbo's that are trying to prove their hot when they are more luke warm and being with someone doesn't mean spit for either of you.

It is great for men to think about anatomy and body response but I can tell you that it is not always the toes curling blow the doors down orgasam that you will remember as you age and think about the valued sexual experience. It is the time that you had a partner that just was trying to express something and enjoy something with you even if it technically fails it will on a human level soar to heights unimaginable.

Bloke, the more you man up like blokes should the more your emotions show on your face, and you just look high strung and ready to snap.
Feller, that puts chicks right off face to face, either they got to fight you or they gotta feel crap around you because of whatever monkey on your shoulder. Loneliness? Yeah well we were all born alone and we'll all die alone mate, alone is a default state. It's not a less than human state, it's a natural human state. Anything more is a bonus and you'd better start getting your head around that part as soon as something like loneliness starts to give you stress.

Quite simply, you can wind up a wackadoo otherwise, and that's the thing people really want/need to avoid. Crazies are dangerous, they don't take responsibility for their actions...

So avoid giving that impression. Take up meditation or take a shot of social lubricant (a mild drink) before talking to new people and concentrate on putting yourself at ease. You want a happy, relaxed and pleasant expression on your face socially, you want to be honest and quick thinking so best to be an open book, all this means you want to get yourself into your happy-place when you meet new people or they get a little intimidated.
That means no stress, no loneliness, just comfortable, satisfied and where you should be no matter where you are.

actually since i stated readin the advice being posted here, i actualy spoke up and told a girl at the grocery store i thought she was gorgeous. she said thanks and i wnet on my way. point is before i would have never said anything, i would have problem went the other way :o) progress i guess

A bit of advice that might help. Remember that communication between a woman and a man at first contact is mostly non-verbal. If your eyes meet, hold your gaze about one second longer than she (not three seconds or more because that could be viewed as gawking.)

You are afraid of being rejected which is what makes you shy around women. Nobody likes rejection but nobody can say they have never experienced it... think of it this way... it makes you as normal as the next guy. If you would approach her, make your comment about something going on around the two of you first. Never comment on her body or come off phony. If she gives you an opening to continue the conversation, she's interested or at least not repulsed. If not... move on. Think of how many beautiful women you have seen in the last five years... a hundred or so? If she moves on, just say to yourself: "ninety-nine to go'"

Drummer06, you need to just be yourself and as for getting over the awkwardness of talking to a girl, it is just like anything you have ever done in life, practice at it. start out little, like go to the store and say hi to every girl you see no matter how she looks or if you have interest in her. Then when you feel comfortable at that, walk up to a random girl and ask her something you don't even want to know, for instance grab a melon from produce and simply say "excuse me, do you know how to tell if this melon is ripe" You just have to expose yourself to them and I don't mean that in a unappropriated way. I simply mean be around them and interact as much as you can and be comfortable. Like most things in life it will have a negative side and you will find the mean females, or the girl that is just having a bad day.

Oh and that whole G spot talk and that you know the body, not the best thing to say in just meeting someone. I was a bit creep-ed out at first tell i read on, but I'm thinking a girl would not take that so well. save it tell you know her well enough to just put it to practice.

Keep your head up. You can change your situation in time, just take the time and be aware in life....