Thank god I'm not psychotic when I'm tired. Although I do find that sometimes I have a harder time dealing with things that annoy me. Like my dog jumping on my back.

I rather like that response too. Very good.

Puppy? What kind of puppy?

I can't imagine being scared away from someone I care about. So in my opinion if you can scare him away he doesn't care about you and your better off.

She's a chocolate lab border collie mix. But she mostly looks like a chocolate lab.

Good point...

I think it's possible to scare off someone that cares about you, if you move too quickly. Most things that begin quickly usually blow up just as fast if you rush them towards your idea of a happy ending.

I knew a guy who pushed a girl to marry him and year later I found out he got divorced. Not really surprised. He was pushing my younger sis toward the same thing but she was smart enough to end the relationship.

Exactly my point. Quick to start, quick to end. Better to wait to be sure instead of ****ing up the relationship.

I wish the girl would have listened to her parents. Their reason for not wanting her to marry his was different than my sisters. But she should have listened to them anyway. She is a native American I think Navajo and her parents wanted her to marry another native.

Ha, I get her point then, no way in hell I'm marrying a guy my parents would choose for me.

It's not that her parents were choosing someone for her. A lot of natives want to keep pure blood lines so their heritage doesn't die out. I understand that. But I kind of think that it's going to happen eventually anyway. America is just one big melting pot and we're just combining various races into one.

So you think its better to hold back how you feel because your afraid you'll be rejected? I don't consider it rushing towards anything, just being honest about how you feel. Would you not want your partner to be honest with you about how they feel? If its not gonna work and the 2 of you aren't on the same page is it not better to find out sooner rather then later?

Think of this way dude. Unless you're nuts you're probably not going to be talking marriage after a month of dating and saying I love you after just a few days especially if someone has had plenty of bad experiences is going to send up red flags all over the place. That was pretty much what this one twit I knew did. He hadn't been dating this girl for very long and he was the driving force for them to get married. If the girl had a chance to breath and think about what she was doing then she probably wouldn't have married him and they wouldn't have gone through that divorce.

Saying I love you after you've been dating for a while and actually know each other is probably a smarter move instead of trying to evoke emotions that may not be there yet. Pushing someone to say those words is only going to push them away unless they have this ideology based on harlequin romance novels of what love is and fall in love and turn into stalkers. hahahahahaha

very true...

We'll have to agree to disagree, I'd rather the person I was with just do what felt right and be true to themselves. I'd rather it work or fail based on truth, not put up a front based on societies idea of whats acceptable. If I view someone who thinks they are in love after a few days as a red flag I'd wanna know about it.

To me those words carry a lot of weight. I could never say it unless I meant it, but if it is real then I could freely say it everyday.

No, I think it's better to hold back my feelings until I get to know the other person better and see if they're really who I think they are, and not just what I've built them up to be in my head. I've rushed into things in the past, based on pure emotion, and it never failed to explode in my face because I didn't use caution.

If the relationship is right and if both parties are committed to making it work, there shouldn't be any rush to "seal the deal." What's the hurry? Unless you think the other person is going to leave if you don't declare your feelings fast enough, and in that case, it's not a healthy relationship anyway.

Pretty much part of what I was saying.

I provided validation then. Most people on here would kill for validation.