I'm not ok w it... I mean the thing is I thought we had something I told u my life story and u told me urs we went had a great time and it led somewhere now no reply no call wtf?? if it was just a hit and quit I wish I was better prepared for the aftermath

Your looking for more than they were or they felt different after getting their rocks off. Or they just didn't get off
happens sorry to hear give it space maybe they will come around

This is actually becoming more common. Share personal stuff, having a few dates, getting to know someone....and you think that it is developing into something special....and then you knock boots and......see ya. Funny how we long for the days of just being honest about wanting the booty.

yup it happens. I might suggest that if u are not into 1-niters don't do them??

she might not be feeling comfortable with what happened for a number of reasons. I'd say don;t press if you have left more than 1 message give it awhile B4 trying to get in touch again. or just move on and find someone else...but if you accept the 1 niter that is what u will continue to attract

well some might think it's because he or she were not compatible in bed, and that could be true some of the time, but if they had really gotten close that would be a convo not a disappearance

I smell usah/playah

OoooooK you are not a kid. This sounds like a couple of middle teens with out adult supervision.

What part of no does not fit in your vocabulary?

So what some one told you their life story and you told her yours. Since when does that equal a commitment?

Sorry for your bummed feelings but take this as a wake up call about how adults make decisions that could affect your entire life. Hopefully you practiced safe sex. If not I would recommend a visit to your favorite physician because this kind of promiscuity is usually a pattern and your risk potential is way up there. Since you have publicly told the entire world you have had sex with someone if they decide to hang something on you from and STD to a pregnancy you are pretty much stuck until you can prove other wise. Hope it is worth whatever you think you are getting out of this pronouncement.

Pity isn't going to get you a lot of mileage in the real world.

If you are going to put your personal business up on line you are going to make a lot of people back up. Maybe it makes famous people more famous to put their private life on media but you are not helping yours. Smart women will research your posts and this will follow you.

Sure you will have people give you sympathy but you are also making yourself very vunerable to anyone who sees this episode as not your most shining moment and use it against you.

Stinks what happen but you are compounding the situation and you want to stop this.

No offense to the men here but it is nice to see a man that wants more then just a one night stand. I say shame on you to the lady that didn't say hey lets just have fun and NSA and that is it.


What if he didn't know it was going to be just a one night stand?? Did he agree to that? Or did he think it was going to be more? The way I read it, I think he thought it was going to be???

That is why it is smart to keep your britches up until you have an better idea weather something is going to use you for a one night stand.

No one knows someone well enough in one or a few dates to know what their character is. Yes a hard lesson learned but hardly something anyone over 18 should not be able to comprehend.

You take the risk this is the result way more often than anything else.

definitely, I mean even if she is feeling a little uncertain over what happened he deserves to have his calls answered, at the very least...and preferaby some kind of explanation....the truth, for example

Come on what someone deserves out of a one-night stand is pretty basically nothing. He chatted her up, she chatted him up and they had sex. Only someone who is being a dramatic and is way over invested in someone he doesn't know makes that into a relationship where they get to have a follow up interview just because they want it. Having sex with someone does not give you entitlements.

DOES HE SAY HOW LONG THEY WERE TOGETHER THOUGH? YOU ARE JUST ASSUMING IT WAS A SHORT TIME...IS THAT FAIR?? WHAT IF HE WAS A FEMALE, I DON'T THINK YOU WOULD HAVE RESPONDED THE SAME WAY!!

I DON'T THINK HE THOUGHT IT WAS GOING TO BE A ONE NIGHT STAND THOUGH...I THINK HE THOUGHT IT WAS GOING TO BE A RELATIONSHIP?

Then why did he lable the thread as a one night stand?

Thinking, hoping, something that is one day long is a relationship just because sex happens is deluded.

And yes I would (and have and will continue to) tell a female that it was, if the same situation were reversed, the same exact thing.

People wake up! Life is not a romance novel or a movie, you might be attracted to someone, have the seeds of a budding love, but it does not mean it is mutual just because you want it to be.

DOES NOT, I REPEAT DOES NOT, MAKE IT SO BECAUSE SOMEONE TELLS YOU IT IS!

It happens my friend, sometimes people or things are not what they seem or what they really are. Chalk it up to a life experience,It could have been worse a std or unwanted pregnancy.You seem like a honest person learn from it and when you find the right woman it will make you appreciate her even more.

So right.

Hopefully live and learn.

Maybe a lesson for your peers.

Accepting responsibility for choices helps making better choices. If OP just thinks he is going to find the right woman by luck, repeats the same behavior; he is going to find himself in this same situation again. Then it goes from being a reality check to lunacy.

I don;t agree, but I am also not certain it is wise to generalize that that is what happened based on the OP unless he decides to futher clarify. I do agree that u take your chances w/ i - niters, but it is wrong to simply discaard or ignore someone. it is wrong to be dishonest about ones intentions, and if there is intimacy, one definitely earns entitlements at that point. there are most definitely entitlements unless there was a mutual agreement ahead of time that there were to be none. that is why honesty about ones intentions is important. if she did not make her intentions clear she needs to put on her big girl panties and deal. (or he if it was a man) I am totally non compromising on this issue. but then, I strongly dislike the casual crew with an extreme distaste.

I agree. This type of non attachment or ability to simply discard another person with whom one has been intimate with is unhealty -a pathology very similar to the detachment seen in a violent criminal. I'd be very wary of such a person - male or female.

its. not like I'm some heartless ******* I'm tired of these games people play I was not looking for just a one night stand I was interested in a girlfriend and I assumed she understood that and from the way the nite went she had no problem w me in bed but if that's all she wanted she could have gotten it from somewhere else im done w ********. ..

I guess I'm more mature than some ppl here "having sex" is not just that.
when u r sexualy intimate w another it's supposed to have connection feeling and meaning. . unless u. have both agreed it is just sex which I did not agree on I just think I deserve an explanation as to y I got thrown to the dogs or if I was misled

no one knows the things I've been through and it's hard for me to open up to well anyone and the first time I actually move on or feel ready to open up I get used for someones selfish needs then she left never to b heard from again that is what I think is wrong