Well, yeah, I'm really scared of fire. That's why to me it was a true victory to get my fire pit going in July, without anyone there to hold my hand if things would get out of hand and I'd start running around like a chicken without head. (that's why I proudly posted a piccy of it in my profile)

In my crystal ball? Fairies don't have crystal balls, that's witches, haha. But let's find out what's there .....
What I really hope to find in a partner is that he's done his fair share of personal growth, emptied most of the closets, so no more hidden skeletons. Maybe the odd bone, but also willing to get rid of that. And I'm not just talking about being over an ex, I'm talking personal growth.
Both partners I've had were stagnant in that field, and of course I fell for them for a reason. To be totally honest, their hiccups were part of that reason. I had this need to help, a desire to help them to overcome their hiccups (many women have this tendency). Totally wrong basis for a relationship, but these are (subconscious) psychological processes.
Someone confronted me with it by asking the rhetorical question "Why do you need to be needed?"
Took me a few years to work that one out! Seems easy, but it's not.
I've grown an awful lot, I don't need to be needed anymore. Meaning I'm ready and looking for a different kind of guy.
Many Dutch men would fit what I'd like in a partner. Thing is I don't usually like Dutch men
One thing that plays a role in this, is English language and culture. Many things in my life have (had) to do with that one way or another, in some strange way it's part of me, always has been and always will be. Now that my daughter has moved to the States, the States have my interest as well, haha.
Earlier this year I had a date with a guy who's English was almost none existent and I lost interest on the spot
Long story as to how and what, but I sometimes find it easier to express myself in English. So if a new potential partner doesn't understand English very well, we have a problem before we even started
May seem trivial to some, to me it's important.

Sorry for the tome. I'll never look in my crystal ball again to spare you the lengthy stories

Wow a real woman,I think I may be in love:

Wow! Ahem..

Ugh!!

hello evry one

See you guys (Smirks)

Lol hi Crystal

Sadly for many the answer is YES

No of course its not too much to ask, you can ask for anything you like, its your life and you have a right to live it the way you choose to.
If it makes you and your potential partner happy all the better.
Much love x

Thank you for being so open in a public debate.
It sounds like you have learned a lot over time.
Maybe if some not all women were to allow some men that WANT to change the time to do it in a relationship it could work as you would work together to mould each other to a mutual place.
I tend to hear of these stories where someone has reached a certain enlightenment but are unwilling to entertain anyone that hasnt reached this place. My answer to them is "dont forget where you came from yourself"
Some men are very basic creatures, they have simple needs and some find the inner emotional subject a bit of a mine field.

I totally understand about the language barrier, it must be very difficult to communicate how you really feel with only simple words.

But Some partners Cheat or Lie

You make it sound as if it's to do with arrogance or feeling better.
It's not. It's to do with the fact that when you have gone through a lot of personal growth, you simply deal differently with basically everything in life than someone who hasn't. Meaning you don't match or resonate on the same level. If you're not on (as good as) the same level with your partner, you can't have a solid, healthy relationship.
Think about dealing with emotions (not the same as feelings), feelings, stress, communication and so on.
I think what I mean is similar/the same as "Emotional Intelligence Quotient".

its easy,women dont know wat they want :-)

Ever heard of projection? Guess not ... try reading some Carl Jung

I know what I want and I know what I don't want. The trouble is, I have much better luck encountering the latter instead of the former.

I know that problem, haha. But I'm a stubborn Taurus so d**ned if I ain't gonna succeed in changing that, lol

Am I the only one to get all funny in the pantz over this?

Oowwww,that kinka stuff gives you a rise in your Levis ...me too

There is only One thing a woman wants:
and that's what she can't have..
that's the ONLY thing a woman wants.

i want my guy responsible smart and sexy

i dnt know what i want in a man...i want an all in one man maybe but its just impossible...bec im not an all in one woman too.