Hi. I've been trying for quite some time to meet someone on this site. I've attached recent photos, tried to present myself in the best possible light, sent messages to people I found attractive and said all the right things, (I hope) and yet, nothing is happening.

So I'm asking for any lady reading this to give an honest, no matter what, assessment of my profile and tell me what I might be doing wrong. I'm just feeling very discouraged, and if anyone can give me a little direction here, I'd be very grateful.

Thanks.

I'm the Queen of Honesty, so here goes-

Lose the photo of you and the other woman, most women aren't interested in a guy who has pics of other women on his profile.

Shorten your profile and take out all the stuff about how nice you are, nice usually means boring, and nice is also relative. Let women discover how nice you allegedly are on their own.

Tell more about what you like to do and what kind of woman you're interested in; everything else seems rather pointless, every woman expects to be treated well, you don't have to keep emphasizing it.

You might want to widen your age range and the area you're willing to accept mails from; it's rather restrictive and won't give you as many options.

Consider what you're saying in your initial emails, are you giving women anything of value to respond to, or is it basically "hi, what's up?" or something in that range? If you're commenting on something in her profile, she's more likely to write back.

That's all I have so far, I hope it helps and good luck to you.

Totally with Paintecards.
I tried to read your text twice, but I dozed off. As a DJ you should know how to get a captive audience.
Make it a lot shorter, more to the point. I mean, I'm not interested in how your pop raised you. (must say the word "pop" puts me off too, but I am not American, so maybe to US women it's okay)

If you want, you can talk about details here on the forums, so ppl will get to know you.

Thank you for the feedback, ladies. I had written that profile quite some time back, and didn't realize how talky it was. It's much shorter and gets to the point quickly.

Also, I removed the picture of the "other woman" (which happens to be international pop superstar Gloria Estefan, the biggest Latino singing sensation in American history. "Conga"? "Rhythmn Is Gonna Get Ya?" Over half a dozen Grammys and a dozen platinum albums to her credit? Does no one remember any of this???) so potential dates won't be "threatened". (As if I would ever have a shot at dating Gloria Estefan, lol!)

Thanks again for the advice, ladies, hopefully it pays off.

I thought the woman looked familiar, but I couldn't place her. I guess because she's not particularly relevant anymore, I had forgotten what she looked like. And not everyone would have recognized her anyway, especially as Crystal pointed out, since she's not American, perhaps she wouldn't be familiar with our celebrities? Not everyone on Mingle is American....

Also, if I was looking at your profile, I wouldn't take the time to inspect the photo to see what she looked like or who she was, I'd glance at the photos, see you and another woman and move on. But that's just me....

Only read the updated version so don't know about the chatty one.

This profile is not too bad. You could tweak a few things and it would probably get you further.

I agree dump the self descriptions as nice guy. If you are it will be evident and when guys say it they sound like they are wimpy.

While comic books and super hero's are growing in popularity with women who like to enjoy being a big kid once in a while you might want to actually expand the music side of your explanation of interests. As a DJ that might sound like work but a specific music interest is a nice icebreaker for first conversations. You were smart to take down the female star shot or any other's because name dropping is a major no-no when it comes to dating. NOTHING will cool a woman's interest faster than someone who they even think will brag later.

Ditch the line that sounds like you are begging for someone to do the work of contacting you. I don't care if you are the Cat's pajama's women expect men to contact them. The only exception to that is someone who you know through a mutual friend or have talked to and "hooked" with and interest or question. This is where the forums pay off. And getting as many views as possible by updating your profile regularly. Even if it is just to add a seasonal icon, tasteful joke, or lyric. The later is dicey because music has some major emotional baggage and sending some songs can torpedo dating efforts even if it works in another arena.

You HAVE to get some better photos. You have some awesome features. A killer smile; definitely don't loose that in the pics you choose.
I am not going to mince my words; these look like you are a sausage stuffed into a frame and are soooooooh unflattering. Zoom back a smidge and let them breath.

And it is not necessary to try and hide your size cropping out your body when you can rock being a big guy if you just own it. Just keep in mind you are not a human billboard so be selective and pop for some good quality, great fitting clothes (plural) if you have to take the camera to the clothing store to afford a variety of outfits for shots. I know the selection often stinks and Big and Tall guys get hammered on clothing prices just like women do. DO NOT settle for what does not fit if you have to spring for a little tailoring. And get accessories that fit you. Then your pictures will sell you. On any profiles that is WAY more important than what you put in text.

Beards are not really a big draw for most women but if it flatters your face this well groomed one might be worth hanging on to. If you are the guy with the fuzzy chest or smooth an open collar is going to probably look better than a tie strangling you but keep it discreet.

Hang in there and bye the way WELCOME to Mingle.

Better, although you could add just a tiny bit more on what you're looking for in a partner.
I agree with Pacific on the pictures.

Gloria Estefan? That's the woman who sang Dr Beat some 30 years ago?
Sure must have been quite something in your line of work, but to me? My ex had worked with Michael Jackson, Nana Mouskouri, Depeche Mode, Thin Lizzy etc etc.: It don't impress me much (Shania Twain), lol.
If you'd be standing next to Chad Smith, YES I would be impressed

Good luck here!

Yeah, that's something else I wondered about, why bother to add the photo with her at all, no matter who she is? Unless it's to impress people. I don't who care who a guy has met, if I'm not interested in him as a person, photos of him with celebs are unimportant...unless he could introduce me to some of them, maybe I'd rethink my position.