Thank you.

Hi! I've recently reactivated my profile here on the mingle site. I tried this for a while last year, and got zero success. It's been a long time for me since I was out on a date, or even entered the "dating pool", so I'm probably somewhat out of practice.

I was married for a long time, got divorced, and then went through a long, slow period of working through a lot of issues, which I now have done. So, I'm ready to try this again. But my question is, is being a "nice guy" an unattractive quality? Is it a fault or a detriment? Because I don't know how else to be. Maybe it's a case of trying too hard, but is it a bad thing I want someone else to be happy, no matter what? I used to have this platonic female friend who would criticize me for being "too kind". Even my own mom, a long time ago, said I was "too good" for my own good. What does that even mean? I've had exactly one substantial relationship in my life, and even when it imploded, I took the high rode out of decency and wound up getting messed up in the process.


So I guess what I'm asking is: Do women not like nice guys any more? Do they want someone who's kind of a jerk? Because I don't think I could be that. Just wondering what some of you all might have to say about this.

Hi there, lady members of Mingle! I'm Matt, and I've recently reactivated my profile here on the site. I was hoping some of you could objectively review my profile, and tell me what I'm doing wrong, or right, and if I'm "date worthy" material. It's been a long time since I've done this type of thing, so any advice would be helpful. Thank you all in advance!
Have a great day!

Thank you for the feedback, ladies. I had written that profile quite some time back, and didn't realize how talky it was. It's much shorter and gets to the point quickly.

Also, I removed the picture of the "other woman" (which happens to be international pop superstar Gloria Estefan, the biggest Latino singing sensation in American history. "Conga"? "Rhythmn Is Gonna Get Ya?" Over half a dozen Grammys and a dozen platinum albums to her credit? Does no one remember any of this???) so potential dates won't be "threatened". (As if I would ever have a shot at dating Gloria Estefan, lol!)

Thanks again for the advice, ladies, hopefully it pays off.

Hi. I've been trying for quite some time to meet someone on this site. I've attached recent photos, tried to present myself in the best possible light, sent messages to people I found attractive and said all the right things, (I hope) and yet, nothing is happening.

So I'm asking for any lady reading this to give an honest, no matter what, assessment of my profile and tell me what I might be doing wrong. I'm just feeling very discouraged, and if anyone can give me a little direction here, I'd be very grateful.

Thanks.