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Edited by
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Ok I know this subject has been done to death, but I need some real advice here, I know I stated on other threads that I am not interested in dating younger women. but quite frankly I haven't been having very good luck with women around my own age, I am 52 by the way, but a lot of people think I am in my early 40's good genes I guess, well anyway I have met some wonderful women in my age bracket who are now some of my closest friends, have always gotten along better with women then with men, just haven't clicked with any of these women, not saying their age is a factor I have always preferred women around my own age, as there is more in common between us.
Well recently at one of our client sites I met a young women there and we just clicked right away with one another, when we are together we just talk nonstop, she is 28 by the way, I really am not one of those guys going thru a midlife crisis, I am very comfortable with my age, but when I am around this young lady is like I am on cloud 9, I am into her on all levels, and yes she has made her feelings known to me even after asking her, do you know how old I am, she stated she preferred older men that's all she has dated, I have never felt this way ever about someone so much younger then myself, every-time were together I actually break out in goosebumps, but yet I hold back, because the differences in are ages really bothers me some, so what do all of you think should I give this a go and see where it leads, I'm afraid if I don't act soon she will loose interest, oh by the way her feelings towards me are completely mutual, I am thinking about asking her on a real date, we have had a few lunch dates already, we just really seem to click. |
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I'd say take it really slow. Yes, why not go on a date to get to know each other better. But try not to let your common sense get clouded too much. Observe, pay attention, so if there's signs that the reasons for these feelings are not "true love", both from you and her, you will spot them. And take it really slow so you will have plenty of time to find out if it's for real without getting too involved in each other's life.
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Edited by
miko1960
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Sat 11/02/13 04:56 PM
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I had a recent relationship with a woman 12 yrs younger then myself and it turned into a disaster, she just couldn't commit even after 3 years, so I ended it, so I am a little apprehensive about getting involved with another woman younger then myself, I do believe now in hind site this was a relationship based on infatuation, I read somewhere once that infatuations normally wear off in this time frame, but the feelings I have with this new woman seem to go much deeper its like we have known each other for years instead of months.
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Edited by
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Sat 11/02/13 05:02 PM
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Partial Quote: "... I'm afraid if I don't act soon she will loose interest..."
For some reason these words stuck out at me when I read your post. Doing something from FEAR that you may lose something is never a good way to begin or progress in a relationship. I'd think twice before going forward and make sure that it was approached from a positive prospective rather than a fear of losing someone if you don't act now. That said, sounds like someone has come into your life who has "lit it up". I would say go for it but think about the long-term benefits or consequences and prepare just in case it doesn't work out. Best wishes to you! 
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listen to the good fairy,,,,she would never steer you wrong…most people don't realize relationships go through phases..[5]…..i hope things work out for you…….
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If you click, ask her out, if she agrees, be nice to her and hope it lasts as long as possible. No relationship is guaranteed to last forever, so enjoy it while you can.
For those who think those relationships are doomed, consider that half of all marriages end in divorce, and I'm assuming that most of those involved people who were considered "well-suited" and "highly compatible" in the eyes of society, ie. there is no magic formula. Sure, you might break up because of age, but you might not. You might break up for other reasons....or it might work out. I'm hoping the latter for you. Good luck. 
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Really wished I had these feelings for someone closer to my age, but I guess the heart wants what the heart wants, talk about karma she just now Skype d and said she had been thinking about me, wow thats kind of spooky.
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I am 52 by the way, but a lot of people think I am in my early 40's good genes I guess At least you're not 43 & people think you are 53 like me! |
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Really wished I had these feelings for someone closer to my age, but I guess the heart wants what the heart wants, talk about karma she just now Skype d and said she had been thinking about me, wow thats kind of spooky. Synchronicity. |
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Ok I know this subject has been done to death, but I need some real advice here, I know I stated on other threads that I am not interested in dating younger women. but quite frankly I haven't been having very good luck with women around my own age, I am 52 by the way, but a lot of people think I am in my early 40's good genes I guess, well anyway I have met some wonderful women in my age bracket who are now some of my closest friends, have always gotten along better with women then with men, just haven't clicked with any of these women, not saying their age is a factor I have always preferred women around my own age, as there is more in common between us. Well recently at one of our client sites I met a young women there and we just clicked right away with one another, when we are together we just talk nonstop, she is 28 by the way, I really am not one of those guys going thru a midlife crisis, I am very comfortable with my age, but when I am around this young lady is like I am on cloud 9, I am into her on all levels, and yes she has made her feelings known to me even after asking her, do you know how old I am, she stated she preferred older men that's all she has dated, I have never felt this way ever about someone so much younger then myself, every-time were together I actually break out in goosebumps, but yet I hold back, because the differences in are ages really bothers me some, so what do all of you think should I give this a go and see where it leads, I'm afraid if I don't act soon she will loose interest, oh by the way her feelings towards me are completely mutual, I am thinking about asking her on a real date, we have had a few lunch dates already, we just really seem to click. o for heaven's sake what R u waiting for? go for it, u only live once and I'll just sit here be jealous of ya...if u find what eludes the rest of us consider urself one of the lucky ones and .... stop over - thinking it....good luck *hugs*
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If you click, ask her out, if she agrees, be nice to her and hope it lasts as long as possible. No relationship is guaranteed to last forever, so enjoy it while you can. For those who think those relationships are doomed, consider that half of all marriages end in divorce, and I'm assuming that most of those involved people who were considered "well-suited" and "highly compatible" in the eyes of society, ie. there is no magic formula. Sure, you might break up because of age, but you might not. You might break up for other reasons....or it might work out. I'm hoping the latter for you. Good luck. oh who cares how old anyone is...you really hafta let that go and stop over-thinking it |
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If you click, ask her out, if she agrees, be nice to her and hope it lasts as long as possible. No relationship is guaranteed to last forever, so enjoy it while you can. For those who think those relationships are doomed, consider that half of all marriages end in divorce, and I'm assuming that most of those involved people who were considered "well-suited" and "highly compatible" in the eyes of society, ie. there is no magic formula. Sure, you might break up because of age, but you might not. You might break up for other reasons....or it might work out. I'm hoping the latter for you. Good luck. oh who cares how old anyone is...you really hafta let that go and stop over-thinking it Exactly. 
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IF you both share the same feelings, what are you waiting for? SERIOUSLY, who cares about age..it is just a number! You need to get over the age thing..do you know how many good women you might be missing out on?
Now I do have to agree..when you said I'm afraid if I don't act soon she will loose interest, that is a big red flag for me. That shows me that you have no confidence in yourself. IF YOU BOTH TRULY FEEL THE SAME WAY, YOU WOULD NOT BE WORRIED ABOUT THE TIME FACTOR!!! All I can do is give my opinion because you are going to do whatever you want BUT I say, ask her out on a real date and see how it goes. What is 1 date going to hurt? I do not want to be blunt BUT do NOT let anything happen because I truly believe that sex boggles your mind. When you have sex right away with someone, you don't know if you like them for sex or if you like them for who they are!! JUST DO IT!!!! GOOD LUCK (when I say just do it, I mean ask her out.) |
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Aaaaaaawwwwww...
Comeoooon,Go ask her out!! See where it goes and enjoy the journey too!! I agree with other posters too-YOLO!! Goodluck! |
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IF you both share the same feelings, what are you waiting for? SERIOUSLY, who cares about age..it is just a number! You need to get over the age thing..do you know how many good women you might be missing out on? Now I do have to agree..when you said I'm afraid if I don't act soon she will loose interest, that is a big red flag for me. That shows me that you have no confidence in yourself. IF YOU BOTH TRULY FEEL THE SAME WAY, YOU WOULD NOT BE WORRIED ABOUT THE TIME FACTOR!!! All I can do is give my opinion because you are going to do whatever you want BUT I say, ask her out on a real date and see how it goes. What is 1 date going to hurt? I do not want to be blunt BUT do NOT let anything happen because I truly believe that sex boggles your mind. When you have sex right away with someone, you don't know if you like them for sex or if you like them for who they are!! JUST DO IT!!!! GOOD LUCK (when I say just do it, I mean ask her out.) well said - as usual! 
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IF you both share the same feelings, what are you waiting for? SERIOUSLY, who cares about age..it is just a number! You need to get over the age thing..do you know how many good women you might be missing out on? Now I do have to agree..when you said I'm afraid if I don't act soon she will loose interest, that is a big red flag for me. That shows me that you have no confidence in yourself. IF YOU BOTH TRULY FEEL THE SAME WAY, YOU WOULD NOT BE WORRIED ABOUT THE TIME FACTOR!!! All I can do is give my opinion because you are going to do whatever you want BUT I say, ask her out on a real date and see how it goes. What is 1 date going to hurt? I do not want to be blunt BUT do NOT let anything happen because I truly believe that sex boggles your mind. When you have sex right away with someone, you don't know if you like them for sex or if you like them for who they are!! JUST DO IT!!!! GOOD LUCK (when I say just do it, I mean ask her out.) well said - as usual! Thanks Sweetestgirl
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It's official, OP, if you don't ask her out, we're all going to be massively disappointed.
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listen to the good fairy,,,,she would never steer you wrong…most people don't realize relationships go through phases..[5]…..i hope things work out for you……. Very true. Most ppl just dive in head first without thinking. Nothing wrong with being a bit cautious and question yourself (and her) for motive. It could be great, but it could also be a lesson both need to learn from this relationship and that's it. So yes, get to know each other a bit more, but remain somewhat alert/down to earth if possible --> Try to not get too swept away. |
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It's official, OP, if you don't ask her out, we're all going to be massively disappointed. Exactly!! |
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