Topic: Need suggestion...
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Thu 10/31/13 06:00 AM
Edited by Jaismine on Thu 10/31/13 06:01 AM
There is a guy who proposed me... he is nice sober n down to earth... D prblm is that he is younger than me...n he is still studying I.e.doing M.tech ... n m a job doing person... now I dun know what should I do...? He asked me 2 years when I said to him that my parents are looking a partener for me...n friends I can't go against my parents... I m also in love wid that guy... But I don't want to hurt my parents too... I dun know ..what I do... ? where I go? :'(

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Thu 10/31/13 06:17 AM
age is really no boundary but with some exceptions i guess? love is in the heart not the age! decide if this will make you happy and if his only a few years younger, it would be ok, but if his like 10 years younger or more, it could be dangerous later on in the relationship! good luck and decide for yourself from the heart, you dont need anyones approval but his, his parents and your parents too! good luck

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Thu 10/31/13 07:41 AM
Edited by Duttoneer on Thu 10/31/13 07:51 AM

There is a guy who proposed me... he is nice sober n down to earth... D prblm is that he is younger than me...n he is still studying I.e.doing M.tech ... n m a job doing person... now I dun know what should I do...? He asked me 2 years when I said to him that my parents are looking a partener for me...n friends I can't go against my parents... I m also in love wid that guy... But I don't want to hurt my parents too... I dun know ..what I do... ? where I go? :'(


Not sure where you live, but there are laws here in the UK to protect people from unwelcomed arranged marriages, maybe worth dropping a few hints to your parents that you want to choose your own husband. It's your life, don't marry someone chosen for you because you feel you need to obey your parents, and tell them that.

Your present boyfriend is working hard towards a future career, he sounds like a guy worth waiting for. Put off your decision on his proposal until he finishes his studying, marriage is forever and should not be rushed in to, and maybe your parents will come round and accept your choice. Good Luck with whatever you decide to do.

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Thu 10/31/13 07:53 AM
Hey hun :) Don't let your parents dictate the rest of your life for you. My parents were very over-protected, which is why I used to hardly talk about sex, but then I realized that as long as I'm over eighteen years old, they have no right to. The age of your lover, won't determine whether he'll make a good lover, his personality will. I've never been a fan of arranged marriages. Because what if you just can't get yourself to feel any affection for that person? Make sure it's YOUR choice. You will know when you genuinely want someone, because you just feel it so naturally, and it will feel difficult to imagine your life without him. They aren't you. flowers

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Thu 10/31/13 08:05 AM

There is a guy who proposed me... he is nice sober n down to earth... D prblm is that he is younger than me...n he is still studying I.e.doing M.tech ... n m a job doing person... now I dun know what should I do...? He asked me 2 years when I said to him that my parents are looking a partener for me...n friends I can't go against my parents... I m also in love wid that guy... But I don't want to hurt my parents too... I dun know ..what I do... ? where I go? :'(


Hi Jaismine
welcome to mingle 2
So I am familiar with your culture in India, but
can't says I agree with these prearranged marriage.
I find it very sad to think that we only have one life and our parents would pick our life time
partner. You are in a tough position and I don't
no how you can get your way.
if you were to stand up to your parents, would
they disown you and send you out of the house?
or what if you said you lost you virginity to
him and you love him and you are engaged to
be married to an educated young man?
If you think that they will be really hurt but
will get over it then please go with your choice.
Maybe you can run to where he lives or maybe
he is willing to get a job now to be with his love
he could always return to school latter.
If you guys love each other then you should both
make that your first priority. Stand up or run.
Its fight or flight time!
love from Canada,
Pony

Jaismine, why did you come on the site?
Just for the forums..to talk to people :)

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Fri 11/01/13 03:46 AM
Difficult, as most of us here live in western culture and cannot relate to yours. So the answers you get here are based on western culture and freedom of choice we have.
Why don't you ask on an Indian dating-site or forum? Think that will be of more help to you.

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Fri 11/01/13 04:00 AM
Take a chance and go for it? Or you might spend the rest of your life wondering what might've been. Also your parents might not approve just now, but if they see that you 2 are serious and that he's good for you, chances are they will come round. It's your life anyway, do whatever makes you happy and whats right for you? I wish you all the best, ok? :smile: