If you were in a relationship to someone you met less than a year ago, is it ok to share your feelings and express to them just want it means to want to have them in your life without having any sexual feelings? and would it be wrong to buy them cards and send flowers? For me I am the type of man who is not afraid to show his feelings. I go out of my way. Sometimes some women don't like that. Do you think it would be wrong if I was to do that?

I share and express everything to everyone lol. I'm an open book and will read chapters

I'm a bit confused....are you in a non-sexual relationship with someone you've known for a year? And now you want to show them how much you care about them with flowers and a card? If so, I don't see the problem, you have a female friend and you want to express your appreciation of the friendship. Anyone should like that.

This is one of the main criteria I look for in a man. If he cannot speak to me from the depth of his being on everything, I would find it hard to keep the relationship going.

True, otherwise, you never know what the hell they're thinking and you're eternally frustrated.

I think you should GO FOR IT !
You can only be the fool once right ?
{chuckle}


{Don't get "Friend zoned"}

Nothing wrong with the friend zone....you can have a lot of heart- breaking fun in the friend zone....

Must say I don't quite get it either. You want her in your life, but not with sexual feelings? Then still send her flowers and cards???
Or do you mean you want to woo her, but you don't want her to think it's just for sex?

Yeah, I'm wondering if he thinks she'll take the gesture the wrong way, but if they're just friends, it shouldn't be a big deal, so I don't know....

Personally if a true friend of mine thought enough of me to send me flowers and tell me how much they treasured my friendship I would be so happy I think I would be smiling all the way to the New Year.

Efforts like that in the past were a huge boost in some of my darkest moments. Some I have received I have kept for years and years with my treasures.

I truly believe affirmations of friendships especially from opposite sex friends can have priceless value to their confidence, self respect, and self esteem. When a man respect the value of a female as a person and not just a sex object, family member, or employee it really registers that they are valued and should value themselves which helps society over all and especially her children.

While it is a little vague what level affection that you are trying to convey; that maybe you might want to transition the relation from friendship to love but if you talk to a knowledgeable florist you can select a flower that express clearly what you want to say.

If you want to stick with the thought of appreciating her as a friend I would recommend that you NOT select roses since that is almost always seen as an expression of love and should be reserved to give to someone you actually love and want to be a partner with.

Nothing will deflate the joy of receiving flowers from a love interest than to find out that you gave your pal the same. If you hope one day that your future mate accepts this genuine friendship rather than feel jealousy or confusion you want to think about your actions and choose your words wisely .

I've never been afraid to do express my feelings and I hate to admit that sometimes when I do that I get very emotional, does that mean I am a weak man?

Not a weak man at all. I think flowers and a card are a very nice idea.
But be sure she knows your intention.

I think you are a perfect gent. All women like presents and I don't know of any woman who would be offended. Go with your heart not your head.

Personally, I would like presents a little more than one bunch of flowers, one box of chocolates and two coffee mugs in 8 years. I guess that's why I'm here.

Uh; speak for yourself as I hate getting presents as I feel a guy is trying to buy my love but I agree he is a gentleman.

Tru. Dat.
Fo~Sho.

I don't think expressing emotions make a person weak unless you do so to the point or so often enough you are chronically out of control. I have seen plenty of really tough guys shed tears and be overjoyed. Something kind of cool seeing a big old tough Marine laughing and playing goo goo with a new Grandbaby.

Its cool, like it was said;if your intentions
are clear and its discreet. (Not to her job)
If she's is or starts dating someone she's into;
that behaviour could cause her problems.
So I think one has to know when to back off and
let her define the relationship at that point.
It usually becomes non existent.
Even my last gf that I lived with felt strange
and awkward when I came back one morning with
flowers as it was a bad time of year for her since
her Mothers passing.
It wasn't until she had a few drinks that she could
say she liked then or thnx,So some people are just emotionally unavailable.

I think it sounds nice.

No,it means you are capable of genuine sharing and it is the foundation of healthy love with emotional expression being shared together...

Me too, I'd be very happy if someone did that for me.