what is the best way to discipline a kid?im a single mom,im only the one who is raising my son.Sometimes,when he is misbehave i keep on scolding him..

Well training a child has a lot to do with the age/developmental level of the child.

It is kind of futile to expect a tired, hungry, over stimulated two year old to be quiet for more than a few minutes. It is not for a 12 year old.

Scolding is generally not going to be a real effective way to train a kid. Especially if you are repeating yourself. At some point kids find parents ranting entertaining to some degree. They know it gives them control. Put them in time out until you can calm down and think of a specific why the behavior is unacceptable and an appropriate consequence.

Saying a quiet command and then physically making them follow it is way more effective. The less emotion demonstrated the better but fairly early your kid should know with a certain look or minor guesture to check themselves. Sometimes it takes repetition; usually the older or more out of control the child is the more times you have to repeat but kids are very smart and know when they have met and undefeatable force. Soon they will know their actions have consequences. They should never be abusive but setting on the bathroom floor was boring enough for my kids and actually calming enough that it became something they sometimes did voluntarily.

Discipline is something kids most readily learn by example. A single parent that demonstrates excellent skills and seeks out others that can be a good model will have more success. It doesn't mean you can't have fun, be active, and even let a son be masculine but it does mean you will not tolerate disrespect, bullying, or breaking things or laws. There are many mentoring programs so I would start there.

As a single parent you may have to recruit support when you start making a stand that you are obeyed. You want it clear that they are only there to physically back you up and you are the one in charge.

The most effective training method I ever found was catching a kid being good and giving the good behavior more attention than the bad behavior.

Yes you want to stop unacceptable behavior but most of the time just making the behavior difficult to do or disrupting something they want to do is going to be enough of a consequence. Example a child is being obnoxious at the table in a restaurant. Take them to the bathroom or to the car and make them set out until they are silent. You do not reward their behavior getting a take out carton and taking them home to eat in front of the TV. I do NOT believe in depriving a child of food but if you substitute a desirable fun meal with something that is not their favorite they get the message real fast.

Depends on the age.
One thing that's very important is being consistent. What isn't allowed today, is also not allowed tomorrow, next week etc. Meaning you'll have to really think about your rules so you don't apply them on a whim.
Explaining what is wrong about what he did is always very good, even when a child is young.
Scolding is the worst thing you can do. You may wanna give some thought to your reasons for doing so.
You may want to watch "Super Nanny".

When my kid was younger, the way I found best to discipline him, was to keep him in. Having to watch his mates playing outside from his bedroom window got to him more and his behaviour improved. I also made him earn his pocket money, by doing jobs like the dishes and tidying up his room, etc. His mum would smack him though and I didn't like her doing that, as that's what happened to me when I was younger and I didn't like it happening to me. So there was no chance i'd do that to my boy. I don't know what age your son is, but if he's younger than 6, I bet he's a powerhouse?

each child is unique, the same thing wont work on every child

but , once you find what works with the child, consistency is key

they have to count on you doing what you say you will do

Absolutely....Find their hot spot, then consistency and follow through, no exceptions until they get it......It's called "Respect Training" ...

I agree every child is unique.

And I think what motivates each child is probably unique to that child in some way. Which often can be the key to getting the behavior you want out of a child. I am NOT suggesting bribes but generally if a child knows good behavior and self discipline will be rewarded with your praise, time, and occasionally more positive things just not "buying" their good behavior.

I am not sure that discipline has to be all that custom tailored because I am a big believer in being realistic about rules. And rarely do we get to dictate our punishments. Yes at our house Mom was judge, jury, and executioner (not particularly the fun part of being Mom)but unless minor age restrictions applied punishments were pretty consistent. My kids particularly liked Mom having to pay fines and loose TV time when house rules or chores got "broken". It might sound silly but it created a feeling of fairness, and unity. It also made it easier for my sons to feel they could expect their friends to abide by the rules too.

this too

there is consistency in having house rules

however, there are times, when the discipline one child responds to , another does not,,,

in my home, one sibling did not respond to spankings, so for him, he had things taken away(prvileges, toys, etc),,,which served better to motivate him towards better behavior than the spankings did,,,

I have no problems commanding respect from the mites, I dread the day I run out of lollies. I have eventually found the biggest threat should be used lest it be to deprive the child of something you have gone out of your way to provide, if you do or present nothing for children to believe you to be one worthy of respect, 2 year olds dead easy, no lollies for a day, two if they don't come to the party. I used to believe in spare the rod spoil the child, might be the cause of our savage societies. ?sorry-about that, it's what I knew from childhood, took a while.

I have observed the opposite, seems like since the 'spock' age of demonizing spankings,, kids have become MORE disrespectful , violent and selfish and less able to cope with the rEAL WORLD and its REAL stresses

just my observation though,,,

NOTE: just like sugar can be much more dangerous to a diabetic than to a healthy person

I also believe, there are cultural differences, which make spankings much more effective and productive in some cultures than in others,,,

My kids got spankings but not for things they would not directly associate with the single lite swat on their hand or a little firmer swat on their bums from age 3 to maybe 6-8. My second child was slower to develop. Once a child gets 8-10 losing privilege's is way more effective. On rare occasions they might get three swats when they were between ages 6 and 10. I think they were often more sad or embarrassed than hurt by being spanked but the swats were resounding enough they didn't enjoy it. Because I made them time out and think about their violation before applied I think it was thinking is it really worth it. Later years being punished like a "baby" and suggesting that acting like a baby would get a "baby" punishment would correct things.

The reason to always time out before assigning punishments in our home was I wanted first to be truly cool headed. Often the thought that they might get a spanking was enough to have them settle the offense and apologize; usually to each other. There is a time around 6-8 kids still have desire to think magically but know something is a lie or stealing so there is point they were spanked for that "phase" of behavior they tend to grow out of when there is consequences .

I can't overstate that spanking should be used very judiciously because one; it can hurt a younger child so NEVER want it to be a reaction rather than an action and two; the more often you do spank the less effective it is.

Lot has been said about spanking teaching hitting and physical dominance but my thinking is often all the long drawn out verbal reprimands or taking away personal possessions were more negative because a child will forget a physical barrier but even if they understand the explanations it is confusing and often deeply internalized when you tell a child they are bad. Taking possessions just teaches the child it really isn't their possession but yours to use as leverage over them. They will soon catch on they don't own anything and you will have a hard time instilling any sense of ownership or responsibility.

Each parent has their own way of raising their kids. ONE thing I suggest is when you say you are going to do something, do it. Do NOT back down on your threats. If you tell them if they don't straighten up you will send them to their room...make sure you keep your end of the deal.
Good luck

Get a rope and tie the child on a ceiling fan and then put on the fan.
Please, don't do that.lol.

Can't imagine, bull. I nearly slapped arse the other day. I missed it was moving too fast on running legs in the house. Telling didn't work, how ever a slap on the wrist, or the bum is acceptable. The last person to debate that didn't approved, yet slapped her child in a rage leaving hand prints, yes a smack on the bum. Only for recalcitrants fair warning MUST be given to acquire the desired effect on behaviour,! Age dependant nobody not endangering them selves should be physically alerted to their undesired and dangerous behaviour. Deprivation of treats a good alternative . Works for me.

Sorry I think maybe you are looking for little tricks other than the usual. Saw a young mother on a bus get her infant to stop playing with the stop button by putting her hand over the button and saying Mummy's , the child lost interest immediately, evidently Mummy wasn't I sharer.

to discipline can start like here when you click quote to forward. what ever you said to your kid will sounds,"my mom said..." or dad.

the PPP course at Bushkids wash awesome i learnt a lot of rhings like using time out and naughty corner for children under 6 they also have courses for older children , there is also ABC parenting course and info in toowoomba

The best way to discipline your kid is to tell it to them straight. What are the things that are allowed and what are the things that are not allowed. Whether it be food, or material things or permission to play with a neighbor's kid.

But you also have to arm yourself with an iron-tight reason why this decision was made. No negotiations requires no loopholes, Mommy.

Good luck and always let them understand that You love them no matter how angry they just made you :)

BTW, I'm a single mom of 2 kids as well. Best of luck

Well....I found that if I was repeating myself, it was better to shift attention. For instance....instead of "don't" and "stop" , giving him what he can do or just changing the topic worked far better. If he threw a fit, telling him "we don't do ( list behavior here)", then walking away worked wonders....especially if I did something silly, like dropped something while walking away. "Oh man!" I would say, then as I reached for the item, I would kick it so that it moved right out of my reach....it quickly became all giggles.