A few years back when I was in college a friend and I signed up for this site. We didn't post much because of studies but we did read a lot of the forum pages. We had our favorite posters and often got a good laugh from the wit and snark of the people here. I may have even learned a thing or two.

These forums were really busy back that. So busy that there were separate cliques, each one with its own separate coffee house thread, and sometimes theses cliques had "battles". Most were good natured but some battles were nasty enough to get the moderators involved. There was even a troll clique. Or maybe it was one dude with ten accounts, I'm not sure.

The point is this place was hopping.

Where did everyone go? While the people here now seem very nice the place isn't nearly as busy.
Did everyone find true love and move on?

p.s. And what happened to the moderator with the incredibly long profile? I think his name was Lexx (something).

edit p.s. Please don't misunderstand. I'm not knocking the site now. I'm only curious if something happened that caused people to leave. Or is it just a natural order of dating forums.

lex turned out to some kinda child molester or something, and you're right! all the cool people seem to have gone far far away.

why though?

no one knows...

> lex turned out to some kinda child molester or something,

Please tell me that was sarcasm or a joke.


> and you're right! all the cool people seem to have gone far far away.�

There seems to be cool people here now, just less of them.

nah, im bein for reals... i remember he was on some kinda news segment and wasnt allowed to be online because of his past and here he was online and they came and took him to jail.

Some move on with life

Some have to be shown the door.

Tribbles

There's a testimonial on your profile from one of the people I remember from the clique battles, the Alaskan prom queen. She was very pretty and the guys followed her around. She didn't talk to the other pretty girls on the forum.

Delightful question i found most stuff frivilous but yours was a definitive breath of fresh air and i got my pithy going. The text spellling i find anathma and often cannot decipher. In general the tone is somewhat intolerant but with well meaning ignorance. Hope you find sufficient stimulation as its quite rewarding finding you here, ... As for this site and meeting people lots of fish but most need to be thrown back....

> The text spellling i find anathma and often cannot deciphe

Oh I can't stand text speak outside of where it belongs. Text speak is for texting, not sending messages on a website where a person has plenty of time to write out a full message.
What's worse is the guys who don't use common sense when sending text speak messages to me.
People like me who spend their entire lives learning to write fluently in nine languages aren't going to view lazy arse text messages in a favorable light. I do mention (brag, yea I brag) about my language skills on my profile so there's no excuse for guys to send me... "U R hot. U lik 2 syp"

NO!



> In general the tone is somewhat intolerant but with well meaning ignorance.

Really? I have not run across that yet but then again I have not been back long

Nope, it's true.

My apologies to Mingle for bringing up a name which I'm sure they would rather not be brought up. I had no idea about what happened.
If this thread is deleted, I won't complain or stomp my feet.

I'd assume most people would leave a dating site after finding someone. I know some people stick around for other reasons, but I wouldn't be surprised if many didn't.

> I'd assume most people would leave a dating site after finding someone.

True, but new people take their place. Or, that's what is supposed to happen.

Oh well. I'm just a little disappointed. I couldn't get too involved in these forums back then because of studies. Now I have the time but the game is almost over.

I blame George Bush.

What?

President Obama does it all the time.

I wasn't here back when but it seems to be happening on a lot of the sites. I am thinking that people are getting tired of all these scammers popping up all over the net. Maybe they are tired of all the games, lack of seriousness when it comes to wanting a relationship n don't forget the deceivers and the sex maniacs..just me own opinion

> it seems to be happening on a lot of the sites.

You seem to be right. I've been looking around and most of the dating site forums don't seem to be very active.
I did find one which was incredibly busy but I'm not going to name it. I signed up for it two nights ago and cancelled my account today. The site doesn't have moderators who watch over it. Instead it has community flagging. The "mods" apparently just blindly remove any thread or post which is flagged a lot.
I watched as people posted threads calling on their friends to flag other people's threads.
It was like some weird online reality show where the idea was not to get flagged off the island.

I've been on one and people make call out threads to other members just to insult them.

It was a scary place.

Bet they went for coffee

actually.. I believe lexx was arrested a year or so ago.. he had a lot of people fooled..

I agree that it's not as busy as it was back in the 'day' but.. there's still a fair bunch of us hanging around.. some moved onto facebook and didn't bother coming back.. I was in touch with them there until I closed my account and returned to the safety of me 'ole pub.. and some did follow..

thankfully though, things AREN'T as 'fast' as they used to be.. I don't think my fingers could keep up today but we DID have a hoot..

More than likely.