I was in a brief relationship 5mos. It appears everything was going well so I thought, all of a sudden I get a call and he tells me oh I have bad news, never did I think he was going to tell me he no longer wants to be in a relationship just friends?? What I don't understand this person although don't want a relationship he ends up kissing me twice spontenously. He helps me if I am in need but I don't know what to make of it.

got to love Friends
Nasty Friends
Freaky Friends
Nice Friends
Friends with benefits
Loving Friends
Good Friends
Bff Friends
Fun Friends
Her Friends
His Friends
and Ex-Boyfriends

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Some relationships are best left as friends without going beyond that. Appreciate the friendship.

This is true.

I say, protect yourself (your feelings) and no kissing anymore, unless maybe a peck on the cheek, IF you can handle that, otherwise no physical contact at all.
Maybe you better not be in touch with him for a while. If he doesn't have romantic feelings for you anymore, he can easily be a friend. But you haven't gotten to that stage yet, so being friends might be a bit too much to ask of yourself.
And it isn't always possible to be friends with an ex partner. It could simply be too painful.

it just sounds like he doesn't want to commit,, probably enjoys you and your company but isn't motivated to metaphorically 'put a ring on it'

expectations are much higher in a relationship than in a friends or fwb relationship,, so maybe he isn't ready to try to meet those kinds of expectations,,,


if you feel for him, romantically, probably best to put up boundaries about the physical aspect,, if he is truly wanting a friendship , it shouldn't be a problem to him

if it is,, Id advise to move on from him so that you aren't hurt down the line

this is perfect advise, the same advice I have
given on this same topic before.

I believe in time we can learn more about them
and invite them to grow as friends
as long as they are honest with you & themselves
then always invite them to grow.

that's cool that he helps you, but a friendship is two ways.
If "you "can't lead in the "friendship" and ever
make the first contact unless "you" need something
then its not a friendship.
Very best,

This too


edit* my list ..to add..

Only Friends.

If you can't handle being just friends with him, tell him that. Not everyone can go from relationship to friends.

I can't stand being friends with an Ex if we're finished then were finished completely.

Exactly.

I wonder what my ex-wife would think of my younger girl friend. Bet it wouldn't go good.

For me personally I never stay friends with exes. I do not speak to any of my exes.It is not because I do not like thme anymore or think they would not make good friends (some of them)it's just that I shared myself with them so intimately and developed a close bond with most of my exes that I could not go back in time and erase that all to be friends with them.

From personal experience way back it causes a bit of trouble when you get a new partner in many cases and it is one thing no one needs unless you absolutely love drama which I do not. In saying all of this though, I have seen cases where it works for exes to stay friends (kids involved mainly) and both adults are willing to bury the hatchett for the sake of the kids and stay friends but ultimately without children involved I find it personally not doable for me.

You need that time to grieve even if you are the one that inititaed the break up, to come to know yourself again outside of the relationship you were in and your life changes. Break ups are very hard and painful. Anyhow I am waffling a bit here, ultimately the answer is no for me.

Most of my best friends are ex's. But I know alot of people who think thats strange. Everyone is different, you just gotta sit back, collect your thoughts, figure out your feelings and go from there. There is no right or wrong decision, just gotta figure out n do whats right for you.

It took me five years before I could speak to my ex again and be friends with her. Feelings were still there and I guess that it was really nice to get to know her again and see how she had changed and even rekindle romantic feelings but she's with somebody else and that's just the way it is.

Had an ex that I met on here contacting me again a while back. I guess that she was probably looking for more sex and that's what she's on here for but I'm not that desperate and want more than that. Just politely replied to her messages and left it at that, even though when we broke up I had told her that I wanted us to still be friends.

I think that it just depends on what the relationship was like and whether or not you think that you actually do want to just be friends with them, or try to rekindle the relationship. A relationship is a kind of friendship after all and if you still value that and want that person to still be in your life you can still have them in it, or let them back into it. People can change and just because it didn't work before that doesn't mean that it won't in the future in some way or other.

Nope, if you break up with some1 then thats what it is a 'break up' and all ties should be severed, except if you have kids!

You're such a harsh man.

Just had a couple of experiences with exes trying to interfere in my life, when i'm trying to move on. So I try not to give them that opportunity anymore Crystal, that's all.