Dnt think of smacking me... ill smooch u n ull b lost newbiechick den.....


Morning sexy young woman

I think it is so sad they people are judged more for their looks than they are for the person that they are. Weight can't be lost , but a cold nasty heart will never change.
Shallowness is getting out of hand in todays society.
Could that be why so many people are whining and moaning about being lonely?

Very true betty...

Thank you HB , I personally would not even want to be with a man than judges me on my looks alone.
I was married for 30 years and when my weight went up and down my husband never noticed. He loved me for me.

Now I would not settle for anything less.

Betty just enjoy life

Oh trust me , I do!!!!!!

I trust u... always be like dat..

Lol a lot of people taking this post personally >.<
But the post did ask for it haha wemen are weird , if you're fat deal with it or loose it ... im fat and i couldnt care less , i like my chubby cheeks and tummy haha .
if i smoked pot i could roll one with tummy .. i mean how fu**in cool is that !

I couldn't agree more Betty. These men that were overweight that I mentioned in my previous post on this thread; I didn't walk away from them despite that they were overweight and went out with them. I didn't care that they were overweight; I just liked them for who they were. Fact is many people won't get a second look based on looks because our society is so shallow. It is sad but this unfortunately is how people think and yes they will probably stay alone. Good post by the way.

I'm sure we'll never all agree on which terms best quantify "average", "fit", "fat", etc... but that doesn't mean a close approximation of each does not exist. Come on now, let's be real. We are on a dating site, wherein we trust that the photos & words we read are an accurate portrayal of who we're meeting/talking to. That is why it matters how someone describes themself. And sure, we've all got our own preferences (no fatties, no shorties, no redheads, no convicts, no baldies, etc..), and our own ideas as to what those mean. But there's still a reasonable standard, for body composition.

I think people take this measurement far too personally... as though it's a value statement about them, as a whole. If we're all being intellectually honest, then we'd agree that there are two basic extremes... then there's a middle-ground(average). Forget the fact the the larger number of the population is terribly overweight. That fact doesn't make a chunky beast, the "average". Well... it does, but only in terms of volume. It also doesn't mean that you suck at life, just because you're not entirely lean.

I'm a fit/large man (6'-3 @ 256lbs), and a competitive athlete/cyclist, but the BMI index considers me obese. I can run 22.6, averaging 7:45 miles, swim 1.5 miles at a good pace, do as many pullups as my years in age, and can see muscle/abdominal definition(even if vaguely). I call myself "fit"/above average.

I'd venture to say that an "average" person would be something a bit less defined than myself. Figures like those of John Wayne or Marilyn Monroe come to mind. People you wouldn't immediately think "athlete", nor couch potato, when you saw them.

If you're a fatty... just own it! Say you're fat. If you're shaped like a stove pipe... you're NOT average. If your gut can conceal a credit card... you're NOT average. If your back has rolls in it.... Nope, still not average.

It's laughable that people make such a stir about the issue of body composition. You'd be hard-pressed to find a forum where people are soooo diametrically opposed to the variances in height, eye color, income... though they're very clear preferences, for some.

The idea of each person on here being allowed to describe their body type, in their own words, sounds good.

Just my 2 cents.

I think you nailed it. My doctor told me to toss out my scale. He is more interested with inches, and body fat. He liked that I had low blood pressure; low cholesterol, and my heart rate at 55. To him I was fit and he didn't even bother to weigh me. He is a very wise man.

Am with you and navygirl!!

I agree with the above. Why lie about your body type. It will be discovered and personally if you lie in your profile, then I think the trust issue has been severed. I am looking for honesty myself.

Wise words! Wish more people thought like you. The world would be a better place.

One also should take into consideration the average B.M.I(Body Mass Index for a given area. Here In "Murica" our B.M.I is considered to be overweight compared to most other countries. However that is the "average" here in the states. So if everyone is a little over weight the average would be overweight. Truth will always be in the eye of the beholder anyway though so continue debating.

I not sure why some of the ladies jumped all over CrystalFairy. I am sure she did not mean any disrespect, she is generally very fair minded. To me, because I am a newer member than most, this subject is not old so I do not mind chatting about it. I have not viewed most of the older topics.

I think most on here are correct when they say it is according to what each person considers average.

Lets change from body type to shoe size. I wear a size 8 shoe. Now to me that is an average size but when I was in Hawaii my shoe size was considered big. Well of course nothing about me was "average" there. Quite a few locals are of Asian persuasion so course their shoes size is smaller. There I was truly a minority. Color of my skin and of course my body type. When I ventured to where there is more of a American Somoan population on the island, then I would be considered small.