Yes , I totally agree !!! Your gut feeling is always your best compass !! Dont trust your loins for the answer !!!

Yes , I totally agree !!! Your gut feeling is always your best compass !! Dont trust your loins for the answer !!! We can all care about someone , If you own compassion !!! But a lifetime compannion is best left to gut instinct , Mixed with other taits in that order !! All the best ? She will always remember your deeds !!!

If you research Bipolar, it will help you understand her traits. I got put off by the way he would just suddenly sleep with others. No warning. Do you think you'll be okay coping with that? It's just I've read how it has turned people into bitter people, because I read their discussion's on forums. The lovers of bipolars. Not saying it'll make you crazy, but I just worry it COULD. That's why I suggested you keep your distance a bit.

I've decided I can't be in a relationship with him anymore. Even though we tried many times. I told him I'd always be a good support system to him, but I won't allow myself to be his main girl, while he lacks empathy for what he does. Not just that. He lacks logic. He only see's the consequences afterwards. I suggested to him that maybe he should just be a player, and then I'd not have to know, or want to, about who he most recently slept with. It weighs much on my conscience. Good luck to him. How could I spend anymore sleepless nights worrying about whether he's in bed with another woman, instead of at his father's house? I will just be a friend to him from now on. It's too much for me.

Wow yea ey nw that u put it that guess best we be friends m a very sensitive person i dnt think m gonna b able to take in all of the bad things she gonna throw @ me cos she can be very spiteful @ times guess being is just best for the both of us... Thank rawrr girl

How do you get that from that?

I would try to get her some medication maybe. That is a serious illness and if it were cancer she would be getting treated so same thing. Bipolar people can be very violent. True story I had a bipolar friend and she was very verbally abusive and I know she burn her mom on purpose(twice). You have to think about any kids that might come along. I agree with everyone else. When in doubt, get out. But if you want to make sure you are done you can try to reach out and see if meds are a permanent solution. You can't help someone who doesn't want it. GL.

Yea ey i hear u n tnx...

Sounds really harsh but living with any chronic illness that someone has an refuses to take charge of and manage themselves is pretty much a long walk down a short plank into an ocean of misery.

Since certain mental health issues come with some pretty distinctive and difficult symptoms if you are not up for the consequences then you are only facing facts if you extract yourself from a relationship where they are present.

The thing a person who is ill needs least is having a partner that cuts out on them because they can't deal with the illness. Sometimes it is necessary for the person with the disability to suffer the loss of partner/s to come to realization that they are where the buck stops and get with a plan that mitigates as much of it as possible.

Bipolar is treatable and those who live with it can do a lot to learn how to cope with it and not make it a burden on "family" and spouses. If their approach is you just get to weather the storm and clean up the mess then you are being an untreated secondary victim.

Yea ey tnx i hear u i gave her a 2nd chance thinkin maybe might work only 2 find out she was busy cheating on me despite what we both been through iv been through alot wit her her worst break down n then she repays me by cheating on me,like rarrr-girl said best friends is what's best 4 us we kinda in the same situation.... Tnx guys

Porsche,what you are going through is far too painful for me to even imagine!

RawrrG,i wonder how you coped and kept strong through it with your ex??!

Eeeeiiiish,there's the physical,but emotional pain can be too hard/painful to deal with!

Keep strong...

I learned about bi-polar disorder from a class I took on psychology. When they are on their highs they may do various things such as have sex with numerous people. Some pend large amounts of money. It basically has them doing things that most people wouldn't do without an addiction. hahaha

On their lows they feel guilty for what ever they did on their high. So like if they were on a high end of the cycle and went to Vegas and gambled away everything they had and put themselves really far in debt. Then when they finally got to the low end of the cycle they would be really depressed and self loathing would kick in very heavily.

Personally I would have to agree that unless this person is taking medication for their disorder then all you're going to do is make yourself miserable. Even if they take medication for it there is no guarantee they will keep taking it. Lots of people think they are fine and stop taking medications they need so they end up back in the same gutter they started in.

tnx newbiechic reli appreciated

wow its like you've known my ex she was exactly like that been with her through her highs n lows even when no1 cared about her... But ey its all in the past guess its time i just let things be n move on with my life ey... Tnx for the info its much appreciated

Your welcome dude. I love learning about psychology. So many interesting things to be learned from it.

Came back in to check how things are going.

From your post about the cheating behavior it is clear your not going to be able to handle the extream's of "symptoms" that are at times irresistable for some people with this condition. While I rarely excuse certain choices, illness related or other wise, I hope you don't take it as personally as it might feel.

Sometimes the kindest thing you can do is accept your own boundries and not include certain elements in a relationship that you can not tolerate.

People with certain mental health issues should not be given the rope that will hang relationships for the average person. Fidelity, money management, co-parenting are examples of life contracts that for some are just too much to ask.

Sounds like your friend, on her better days, told you this and you refused to listen so you, and she, paid a high price for your denial. Hope you will think about that before you try to reformulate this relationship. Might be in your, and her, best interest to just close this book.

If bi-polar people stay on their meds, usually they can function daily. Lets face it, everyone has bad days, if you truly love this person..you have to learn how to cope with their disease.
I do wish the best for you but I think you need to follow your heart and listen to your head. Do what you think is best for you.
Good Luck!

I kind of made that same point about them being medicated. But the person has to want to use the medication and stick to it even when they improve.

I worked in a group home and one of the clients I looked after was in his own little world. I don't recall his disorder. But with medication he was ok. Still in his own little world. But he would listen and he was manageable. His worst enemy in a way was his mom who was constantly fighting to have him off his meds because she thought he didn't need them anymore. She evidently didn't understand that his disorder was a lifetime problem and was going to get worse if he was off his meds.

Some people seem to think that when they improve that means they can stop taking their pills and end up back where they started. Maybe even worse.

have read this? it makes no sense (just a thought)

I completely agree with this in this situation as we know of it here