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Came back in to check how things are going. From your post about the cheating behavior it is clear your not going to be able to handle the extream's of "symptoms" that are at times irresistable for some people with this condition. While I rarely excuse certain choices, illness related or other wise, I hope you don't take it as personally as it might feel. Sometimes the kindest thing you can do is accept your own boundries and not include certain elements in a relationship that you can not tolerate. People with certain mental health issues should not be given the rope that will hang relationships for the average person. Fidelity, money management, co-parenting are examples of life contracts that for some are just too much to ask. Sounds like your friend, on her better days, told you this and you refused to listen so you, and she, paid a high price for your denial. Hope you will think about that before you try to reformulate this relationship. Might be in your, and her, best interest to just close this book.  I completely agree with this in this situation as we know of it here tnks guys yea iv already closed it already ey |
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Hi
It's difficult when someone has an illness. I lived next door to a lady who suffered mental problems and one of her flatmates was scherzo phrenic. I had to watch out as they had arguments and fights regularly and one day had to save her from being attacked and challenge the other one it was dangerous. I think when you talk about children you need to think whether the person could be an ideal mother in that situation as parenting is about responsibility and protecting kids as well as educating and of course loving them more than anything in the world. Real Love is calm and real love Is being unselfish and letting someone go to be happy if they tell us to back off not to force it it may be better to support rather than try to have a relationship as she may be going through so many emotions AND trying to deal with her own problem to must be So tough on her . I think backing off when requested is best but as for kids is a different ball game. Kids are vulnerable especially babies my instant reaction was " oh no " please Be wise and try and think of the bigger picture Long Term remember there are so many kids who end up in social care because of issues at home. Hope that helps. |
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Hi It's difficult when someone has an illness. I lived next door to a lady who suffered mental problems and one of her flatmates was scherzo phrenic. I had to watch out as they had arguments and fights regularly and one day had to save her from being attacked and challenge the other one it was dangerous. I think when you talk about children you need to think whether the person could be an ideal mother in that situation as parenting is about responsibility and protecting kids as well as educating and of course loving them more than anything in the world. Real Love is calm and real love Is being unselfish and letting someone go to be happy if they tell us to back off not to force it it may be better to support rather than try to have a relationship as she may be going through so many emotions AND trying to deal with her own problem to must be So tough on her . I think backing off when requested is best but as for kids is a different ball game. Kids are vulnerable especially babies my instant reaction was " oh no " please Be wise and try and think of the bigger picture Long Term remember there are so many kids who end up in social care because of issues at home. Hope that helps. |
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