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Topic: What does it mean when ...
SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Fri 09/20/13 02:16 AM
a man starts a message with "hello dear"

Is this similar to the English old-fashioned use of "love" when they address a woman? (which is also done by women by the way)

Just asking as I'm not American, not familiar with American custom, and not sure how to interpret this use of "dear". (Is it normal/ok, is it too familiar, is it also used in day to day life, i.e. in shops at the cash register (like the English "love")?? )

Please enlighten me!

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Fri 09/20/13 02:19 AM
Edited by roughh26 on Fri 09/20/13 02:20 AM
Dont overthink it, the person that sent the message is just trying to start a conversation whilst sounding polite. Guys dont complicate things :p

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Fri 09/20/13 03:05 AM
I use it oftenly,especially when being polite or when I want to emphasise empathy...

Toodygirl5's photo
Fri 09/20/13 12:12 PM

a man starts a message with "hello dear"

Is this similar to the English old-fashioned use of "love" when they address a woman? (which is also done by women by the way)

Just asking as I'm not American, not familiar with American custom, and not sure how to interpret this use of "dear". (Is it normal/ok, is it too familiar, is it also used in day to day life, i.e. in shops at the cash register (like the English "love")?? )

Please enlighten me!


I think many men use this when addressing a woman, not to say it is just an American term thou. I hear more men from the Southern states using "dear". I wouldn't take it personal.

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Fri 09/20/13 12:17 PM
its a way of sounding polite

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Fri 09/20/13 02:23 PM
Okay, thanks for the feedback!
flowerforyou

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Fri 09/20/13 02:37 PM
I know some men use it, but I don't care for the term.scared

krupa's photo
Fri 09/20/13 02:44 PM
It is a simple pleasantry.

It is informal and about as inoffensive as a greeting can get.

Being southern I use terms like "babydoll, darling, sweety, sugar, honey, pretty mama "...and a whole list of others.

It don't actually mean I think a woman is sweet or pretty...it means I am giving them the benefit of the doubt. It is up to the woman to prove if she is cool or just a repressed and uptight b!t$#.

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Fri 09/20/13 03:15 PM
Usally they are African ot Indian..its how they greet a woman

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Fri 09/20/13 03:23 PM
Lol I must be the odd one here, but I used to use it when I was being a smart @$$. Lol generally, when someone has text me using the term Dear, they really were trying to be sweet.

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Fri 09/20/13 03:46 PM
I know alot of people including myself who use the word "hun" alot

motowndowntown's photo
Fri 09/20/13 04:32 PM
It's very informal.

His intentions in using it kind of depend on what the rest of the message said.

navygirl's photo
Fri 09/20/13 08:08 PM
Every guy that has addressed me with the "Hello Dear" has been a scammer, so I suspect this guy is yet another scammer.

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Fri 09/20/13 08:17 PM

Every guy that has addressed me with the "Hello Dear" has been a scammer, so I suspect this guy is yet another scammer.



This

whatssuup's photo
Fri 09/20/13 08:46 PM

Every guy that has addressed me with the "Hello Dear" has been a scammer, so I suspect this guy is yet another scammer.


Oh don't be so negative Dear...... Can I interest you in some beach front property in Sask.

WELU's photo
Fri 09/20/13 10:02 PM
He's gay

Metalvirgo's photo
Sat 09/21/13 06:11 AM
waving It's how I would expect to be addressed by my Nan.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Sat 09/21/13 07:03 AM

Every guy that has addressed me with the "Hello Dear" has been a scammer, so I suspect this guy is yet another scammer.

I'll bear that in mind, thx!



It's how I would expect to be addressed by my Nan.

Yeah, I perceive it that way as well

massiel's photo
Sat 09/21/13 07:15 AM
I don't like being called "dear" its annoying and I only use it when I'm being sarcastic about to offend someone:laughing: sorryspock .

Or when I'm talking to a child because they are so cute and nice and cuddly. ... I love them!! But that's a completely different topicoops

BrianLovesGuitar's photo
Sat 09/21/13 07:32 AM
Only pensioners talk like that over here. If I said 'hello dear' to a girl my age that im not married to id get custard pie'd

laugh

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