Frustrated right now. It'l probably pass I know, but right now....I dunno.

Probably just temporarily in some kind of slump, but I've been feeling a bit low lately. I've gotten no attention from anyone on here (forums are nice but no one interested in messaging me directly)
my job sucks
non-existent social life
...

actually if i type anymore im just gonna wind up feeling worse, so i'll stop there. disregard this post.

Part of me knows I'll get thru this but...god, i could really use some attention...so i guess im groveling for it now....it's come to that....

Maybe i need to be more proactive or something....message more people directly...

HELP.

Yeah, why not message some ppl yourself? (and don't expect too much so you won't get disappointed)
Don't beat yourself up over feeling like this. Kind of goes with the time of year as well ...
Fall is a bit about reaping what you've sown earlier on this year, which also means you assess what you've achieved (this year). Time of contemplation, and we're simply not always happy with the results.
Apart from that days are getting shorter, less daylight, long winter ahead of us and so on. All these things don't help to feel happy. Many ppl have a bit of an autumn dip.

Changing a job usually ain't easy, but you can work on other things, get a social life going. Join a sports club or something, so you meet ppl. And keep an eye out for another job anyways.
If you indeed are more proactive, it might help you to feel better. Being proactive requires a positive attitude, drive to do something about something. Always better than just sitting there, waiting for whatever to happen.

Good luck, allow yourself to sulk for a day, that's also okay. We expect ourselves to feel happy and chirpy all the time, but we're human. Sometimes we just need a day off from being happy and allow ourselves to simply sulky and whine.

I feel your pain. My wife and I separated tried to get out. So far I've seen 5 movies on my own, gone out to a hookah bar on my own, and none of my coworkers feel like hanging out after work.

But that's why I'm reaching out here. It's been a long 5 years since I have actually tried to reach out to people.

As far as I can tell Groveling for attention never really works. It really comes down to self confidence in who you are and whether or not you are comfortable with who you are now and who you want to be later. Focus on your positive aspects that make you who you are.

If you focus on only the negative aspects of your life you will only see those negative aspects.

I wish you luck on your endeavors and hopefully you will be getting the attention you need.

Haven't seem u in the poetry forum for awhile try writting more

Be more proactive! Keep a Positive attitude! Look Up! Life is good! Do not limit your happiness to receiving messages on Mingle.

Thanks guys. feeling a bit better today and a bit more positive. advice is always appreciated and well-taken. Obviously I have a lot to accomplish this year.

I'm entering my mid-thirties by September's end, so I guess it's time to set the stage for what I want to do with the rest of the year.
And to be honest...romance and dating can wait.

Got a lot of things to work out financially, personaly, professionally and creatively. Maybe after that's all squared away and stuff, I'll get back into the chase, but I think right now I'm at kind of a crucial crossroads in life at the moment. I'm single, I havent acheived nearly as much as I wanted to in life at my age, and I still have a bit of experiences left to explore and discover.

don't get me wrong, Mingle's been swell, but . . . just not quite like it used to be.

I'll figure this all out soon enough, I'm sure. Just need a bit of a break from this pressure Im putting on myself to get noticed by strangers. It's good to know there are people that are still genuine and well-meaning in the world, so more than anything right now, I need to find more like you surround myself with that.

Thanks for all the encouragement guys!
And have fun!

J.

Only 5 movies on your own? I have gone to thousands on my own. I also go to dinner by myself and vacations by myself. I just got back off a vacation by myself and had a hoot as I met such generous and nice people. The boat I am driving belongs to a very nice couple I met as well I met complete strangers that invited me to a BBQ at my hotel as well. Everywhere I went; I met and chatted with people; had hardly any time for myself. Just get out and talk to people by saying hi. You never know what happens.

very true. Something I have to do more of, myself, just putting myself out there no matter how much it seems daunting or somewhat nerve-wracking. Have to keep telling myself that even if they wind up not diggin' me (and most of them do thankfully), that at least I tried....and even then, I go out the next time and try again anyway!
Have to work on my confidence and self-image, even give myself a pep-talk in my head, but i use whatever works. We all get nervous, so its important to remember that and do our thing anyway, right?

It has been easy for me to make friends in the forums. Just post your point of view anywhere and email others about their posts. You'll strike up conversations and make friends. Leave the sex talk out and just be a human.

It does happen to the best of us sometimes....so,dont beat yourself up about it!!!

I also made my 35th today(09th),and i kind of felt a bit short of what i needed done by now-and the fact that i'll be 40 in just 5yrs too!!

So,go get out more(i go for coffees and cake,i go picnic-ing @the beach all with a good book or just a phone to join the Minglers,i go shopping,go for shows....,on my own and i enjoy myself too)!!

Just know-THIS IS your life-the now,today.....live it,enjoy it!! Get up and walk!!

I agree about doing your own thing. Life is too short to not go out and enjoy yourself.

Quit whining and drink a 2 liter of Mountain Dew Voltage and eat some pizza!
That's where the energy is and you'll feel better!
If you want attention then you'd better be prepared to earn it because you've got a lot of competition out there!

Now are you going to crawl back into your lonely hole or are you going to take my advice and actually do something productive to change it?!

Thx for mentioning pizza ... I'm hungry now #*%#*#($%#

You got it bad man. Self loathing is a true test of character. When you reach that point, it can either make you or break you.

Try emailing some women instead of waiting for them to write you. I used to be on a site where all the guys were upset because women didn't write them, what happened to guys approaching women???

Well I for one, love his poetry and to me it shows a very passionate, feeling, caring person, and although he's too young for me, if I were someone close to his age, I'd snatch him up before anyone else could get him. I feel all the younger girls are just not paying attention to what he has to offer. One of my suggestions, write more poetry which comes from you heart and you just might break some barriers, and put short ones on your profile. Might help, might not, but what could you possibly lose? Post more pictures of your smile too. A smile says a lot. Remember this, there is always a calm before a storm (of girls maybe)!

Been a rather long time since I revisited this particular post, but since then, I've been a ton more creative, been getting a bit more attention from more women, making a lot more genuine friends and basically feeling a lot happier lately.

Thank you so much everybody for the kind words.

I'm glad things are looking up for you.