I feel I have what it takes to be a player but I am no good at courting women because I get nervous and very self-conscious around them. And this puts them off because it gives them the impression that I am boring or a bit strange.

I notice that women like confident men and men that are cheerful and witty. But this is where I luck out. So I was hoping that maybe you could give me some tips on how to overcome this handicap of mine.

i have written a few How To books on it.i'll send you a copy

I so knew you would come answer this. bahahahaha

LOL why do you want to be a player? I guess that is the first question that popped into my head. Women do not like players and believe me, we can tell a player a mile away!
Why can't you just be yourself? One day you will meet the right girl and you won't be shy around them. Maybe that is how you will tell she is the one for you!
Stop trying to be something that women don't like any way!!!

am i becoming that predictable?

I was waiting on him to mention boobs though! He really messed up my thinking when he didn't mention that...so now thanks Jtevans, you have confused me!!!

Sure, the best way to overcome shyness with women is to go out and have sex with a lot of them. Hope that helps.

that's mentioned in my How To's,i'll send you a copy too

Is that supposed to be a good thing?

Dodo David. Yes of course it is. Players get it all the time and not with just any old bird but with real stunners.

Confident men are usually not shy and have no problem talking to women or having plenty of women interested in them.

All Confident men are not Players. A Player is a man who does not want to Committ to any woman, he loves playing the field.

Well being a player can be done two one I would not advise since it filled with drama deceit jealousy and other various emotional turmoil. That is to just be a cheater. The other way is to make it clear you are single and do not want commitment. I cant say both ways dont bring drama a persons way cause people have been known to catch feelings regardless. At least letting the other parties know you are single is more strait forward.

Personally I cannot do either. I was raised to treat others how I want to be treated and I would much rather have a good woman who is loyal to me.

NOW HERE IS A GOOD MAN!!!

Or a player. How can you tell?

talking to new girls is easy, i just make some simple moves i will have her under my arm.
sometimes at club is where the action take place, where u get a girl for one night,,[1 night stand]
thats the best..
player, to be on, you got to know the game and how to play it.
hit and run which means only sex nothing else..
things like this i know alot..

it does NOT sound like to me that you have what it takes to be a player

You can't. Only by getting to actually know someone will you find that out.

That's your tip ManO?!!

he sounds toO much like me to be a player

So you think you have what it takes to be a player? Tell me three things that would make you a good player?