The First Secret - The Power Of Thought
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about others and ourselves. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognize her when you meet her.



The Second Secret - The Power Of Respect
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect asks yourself, "What do I respect about myself?" To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself "What do I respect about them?"


The Third Secret - The Power Of Giving
If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to a relationship ask not what the other person will be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.


The Fourth Secret - The Power Of Friendship
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other's eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must love them for who they are, not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which love's seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.


The Fifth Secret - The Power Of Touch
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.


The Sixth Secret - The Power Of Letting Go
If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't, it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. "Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life."


The Seventh Secret - The Power Of Communication
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words: "I Love you." Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you see them. If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say and.. Why are you waiting?


The Eighth Secret - The Power Of Commitment
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.


The Ninth Secret - The Power Of Passion
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone; it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences when you felt passionate. Spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same; all we need to do is to live each day with passion.

The Tenth Secret - The Power Of Trust
Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels wrapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, "Do I trust them completely and unreservedly? " If the answer is "no", think carefully before making a commitment.

Love is an energy dynamic, a powerful force.

Those were nice, thankyou for sharing these...

Thank you! My pleasure Ms

WOW Awesome this is about as close as anyone can get to what love is really all about. Thanks for sharing gonna save this actually these words should be put on a plaque and hung on the wall to read often in order not to forget. And to keep our hearts going in the right direction at all times.

Very Powerful and true

You're right TXS......this should be posted in every household. Since it has been studied, the endorphines of love only last about 2 years, then die off. The rest is up to us and rekindeling those feeling to release these endorphines again. They are compared to the effects of heroin, so you can imagine the strength they have on a relationship.......Keeping the fires burning, taking care to kindle them, and throw in some spice, respect and a little more and you have a great relationship. These are the ones that hold hands when they are walking when they are 80. Sighhhhhh, wouldn't it be nice?

WOW, DebbieJo,,,,,That was really incredible!!

The depth of a women runs deep in YOU.

So wise and heart feeled thoughts of how and what to do if looking for real love.

You are starting to scare me, your DEEPER than I am,,,lol,,lol

I will try to remember all of these as stepping stones to building a great relationship...THANK YOU!!

GOOD DEBBIE

punk, LAMom,kojak and Frank...thanks for your kind words..glad you liked it!

creations and Txs...thanks for reading ..I totally agree these should be displayed in everyones homes...as a constant reminder of how to develop a lasting relationship...and keep the flames of love burning!!

((((Terry))))..thanks sweetie...glad you liked! I especially liked #s 4 and 9...but...neither is good without the other! lol. And...nooooo way am I as deep as you...and if I was....it's all your fault!!

You are an amazing woman, Deb. Thank you for the reminder. All the little things add up to a fulfilled promise.

Thank you those are great words to live by

I love the Sage Advice I get here and how many of the things I alway believed are affirmed by others.

the secert is dont fall in love there its said and done

That's what "The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy" says about love: "Avoid, if possible."

yo if you dont fall in love you wont get hurt

debbiejo thanks know i see why i have not yet found my try love i forget to buy hr popcorn at the movies......that is disrespecting her and the movie but i just figure no popcorn she could eat on me instead and then the popcorn could come later ........
seriously your right and now that i readit i can start putting it to use about all that stuff with love ,respect communicate to many to list thanks

Thank you all!!

Thank you Debbie for sharing Lloyd J. Thomas's words with us. I do agree his words are what we all should live by when it comes to loving, and everyone should follow them when in a relationship.