I have been separated (living apart) from my wife for six months. We are going through the legal battle of divorce. It will take upwards of another year to be legally divorced. We have separate bank accounts, live separately, only communicate when it involves children.... Is it wrong to move on a start dating???

Keith

It's not wrong but most smart women are going to wait until everything is done and over with before starting anything serious.

Thank you... To be honest, I am not looking for anything serious. However, someone really special came along - who knows.

no it's OK, but I agree with the car....many will want the divorce to be final before they will date you. i know I would


Plus it;s good be wary of the fact fact that u are a rebounder right now. any relationship you have is pretty much a rebound from the split at this point

Is ok to start dating but nothing serious just take it one day at a time.

if you are fine with it, and you are honest about it with your potential date

than I guess its a decision that is up to the two of you,,

I would'nt want to be the rebound.

Go ahead and date but don't get too serious till the divorce is final. If you do, you are running the risk of hurting someone till the rebound period is over.

IMO, after the divorce is final and you're healed from the situation and have learned who you are again. Otherwise, you're on the rebound and you have a lot of baggage.

Your profile says, "I am recently divorced..." Your marital status says that you're divorced. You're not being honest to the women reading your profile.

I don't think there's a set time. Just whenever you're ready. Rather than try and push yourself into dating again, you might want to wait till you meet someone you end up having feelings for? Don't let impatience fool you ;)

Thank you. I changed my profile to correctly reflect my current situation.

I was a rebound and it sucked. Then I had the misfortune of dating lots of very bitter divorced men that were women haters.

Each person is different, I never dated while I was
going through my divorce. I thought that this was time
to figure out what I wanted to do, figure out my next
step. I honestly was scarred and I didn't want to bring
any king of baggage with me to my next relationship.
I wanted to fix ME, I needed time to mend. A lot of
people think that they are mended when they get their
divorce but you are not, trust me..everyone needs time.
I think it took me about 2 years to feel like I was ready
to date again. Then I actually had a friend that worked
with some higher up people, he checked my guys out before
I even dated anyone. I put anyone that I thought about
dating underneath a fine tooth comb.
I never lied to the guy, I actually told them that I was
going to run a background check on them. If they were not
ok with that..I did not do it but I did not date them either.
I figured they had something to hide.
I won't date someone who is married or even split up, because
I know that they need that time after the divorce to get over
being alone. They think it is going to be easy, it really does
hit people harder then they think it will.

As long as you're honest about still being legally married, I wouldn't say it's wrong. I have no desire to date someone who isn't actually divorced, though.

right

the reason that I would hesitate is because of the issues and emotional attachments he still has at this point, and because I have had 2 boyfriends go back to their previous GF after a split. So I think there's always a chanace that could happen even tho they always insist it won;t. (I do not listen to those protestations). :)

All of the court dates and logistics will be time consuming for him, so I see this as a good time be his friend rather than a romantic partner. If he were willing to date as friends only, I MIGHT consider it but even as friends only if there's any drama I'm outta there....

so all in all I think it's best to keep clear & let the dust settle lol

(not him personally per se but someone in that situation)

You're still legally married....I'm out.

I don't see any issue with it, if you fully explain.

Thanks to all of you that responded. I really appreciate it. I recognize that every situation is different. I was/have been married for five years. It was a mutual decision to get divorced. I have spent the last six months working on me and focusing on my children. I do feel I am ready to move forward and casually date again. Thanks again.