Well I did it again. I have serious trust issues and I can't seem to get past them. I met a very nice man chatted for sometime but my trust kept getting in the way and I blew it yet again. How does one overcome such trust issues from there past?

Let time go by & if its meant to be, it will be!

your always so reassuring and kind, thanks

Yw P :)

Trust issues may be healthy, trust your intuition.

Hang in there girl!! You are going to be fine. We all have to learn to move on. Perhaps, you have a lesson to learn, trusting another person should be weighed careful, especially, before you meet in person. Until you meet in person you don't know them. And even after meeting them beware. To know someone takes time, actions speak louder than words.

Pam, I know what you have been through and that trust is a big issue. But one day you will find the right one.

Don't give up or you might miss the love of your life....

People NEED to do what they feel is right for THEM.
We are all different & follow what life experience's have taught us.
If you think you need to change, YOU WILL.
A person's TRUE INTENT, is what actually controls them.
Want to lose weight, YOU WILL.
Want a relationship, YOU WILL FIND ONE.

TRUE INTENTION = RESULTS

Think about it.

(Opinion from MY LIFE EXPERRIENCES)

I believe trust has to be earned in order to be felt earnestly. Anything else is "blind trust", which really just boils down to faith.

We earn trust when we back our words with our actions. You cannot see another's actions online...therefore it's running blind to believe everything someone says on a social site.

I think if someone is truly interested in getting to know you, they will be as patient as you need them to be and not push you to trust them too quickly.

Well said

What if you placed your trust in you? Use your awareness and intuition and don't allow the past to dictate your future.

As long as you hold to the past as your reference point, you are inadvertently doomed to recreate versions of it as your future. If you cannot trust another, they will show up as untrustworthy at some point...in some way. Even the most resilient of beings will get tired off having to prove it to you. And in that, you will gather more proof that people can't be trusted. It is a game you can't win.

Place your trust in you to handle whatever happens. You cannot control another. You cannot expect another to make decisions today that don't allow for their own conscious evolution over time which may or may not include you in it.

Trust in you and all will be well.

^^^ AND DEFINATELY THIS! ^^^

Don't know why I'm shouting.

You all make such good points. Thanks for taking the time to read this and your thoughts. I do need to work on me a bit and I'm trying to do that

I agree with terri. You may go through several guys before the love of your life walks into your world but don't give up if that is what you want.

Thanks Jean. appreciate your thoughts

I don't trust easily either as trust has to be earned. If a guy is really interested in you; he will understand that; if not cut him loose. We live in a very dangerous world these days; with rapist, women beaters, scam artists, murderers, etc so be very careful who you place your trust in.

In your time...Don't rush it, wait until you are comfortable.

My thoughts for what there worth but your welcome to them , if you let the past stand in the way of your future your going to fall every time . Its fine people advising you to trust your own instincts but if your instinct is to not trust anyone the end result will always be the same . The real irony is we are the ones you ask for advice on relationships and weve more or less all fell on our backsides in them and resort to dating sites for answers to our own lonely lives , were not the best people to give advice are we lol . anyway your a nice lass so best of luck for the future .

What is the nature of your trust problems? Like, you didn't believe what he was saying to you? Or more like a fear of being hurt?

Is a gut feeling that you get from talking to them?
If so, you need to trust that feeling. If it is just
something from the past from where a guy lied and now
you don't trust anyone...maybe you are not ready?
Only you will know when the time is right and when
the right one comes a long! I say go with the gut
feeling because it never lets you down!! No you did
not mess up again, maybe you just saved yourself a
ton of trouble!! NEVER DOUBT YOURSELF!!!!

I usually tell em to get back on the horse! not sure what that's
got to do with trust though.

Do you really want to listen to (((Art Gurl))) and (((Cindi)))
I mean really! I was just taking some English upgrading this week
and according to my grade four teacher, they can't even spell
their own user names correctly, and they are supposed to be smart.
my image of them is just shattered!
I now realize mine's not spelled correctly either,
but hey! I run a chainsaw for a living.

I was just making a funny, that's not true, my English is an easy 6/7 level
whatever! I had the biggest dick in grade five..but I was 15...I mean I'm assuming I did.

nobody enjoys my humor more that me

I agree with Cindi & Navy Girl, if we're interested we will
let you run us through the ringer but make sure they
no ASAP, that " its the internet & thats the way it has to be.
that last part is very very important you say that.

no scammer will agree to that, & if you don't, then you start making
it tough for them and they are a scammer, they will look for an out,
way of the ol' "spin Doctor" routine, they will make it seen that you did
something wrong.
So having said that I believe perhaps you may be bringing some of
this on unnecessary, show your savvy and strong, & mumma
didn't raise a fool !ASAP.
Dont ever ever show weakness and justify & apologize for
following necessary procedures, which I think your doing some,
but not soon enough.
so be swift, consistent, and confident in your path (clear & firm)

what Art Gurl is saying very much holds true also, I will jump through your hoops
but there's nothing more frustrating when it doesn't end, after a while I think it a game
It realy sucks to constantly reassure a love partner. I would run!!
so yes I always agree that one needs to be good for their selves first.

think realistic, be realistic, no point letting your feeling go to someone thats too far,
or financially not feasible or posible, and don't do it on some big talkin'man words
let that big talking man put his money right where his mouth is, then see what you got.

clear as mud