I got out of a 6 1/2 year relationship a few months ago that should have ended about a year ago and im over it now and ready to move on but i was wondering how long should someone wait till they start dating again? Would that effect your choosing if you would date them if it was to soon? Just curious

it depends on who ended things, since you did i guess it be easier but i guess if you keep thinking/miss her then no. But i guess since it was that long i guess 3-6 months minimum but i dont know why it ended but if theres absolutely no feelings then no go on and move on, but dont hurt the ex though and make it seem like it was nothing, if you were the one broken up with then i guess wait 6-12 months minimum, but make sure your feeling towards the ex isnt hate cuz that can slowly hurt you if you move on to fast but if your all good and have no feelings and just have no feelings cuz it fell apart instead of other bad things then ya move on and date or you could just have fun for a little bit, but its your chose

I think it depends on the situation. I think you have to
ask yourself a few questions before you start dating again.
Are you over this person?
Even if you broke up with her, did you allow yourself enough
time to get over the break up?
You don't want to end a relationship and then decide 2 weeks
later that you compare every woman to her. You have to make sure
that you past relationship is done and over with before you
even think of starting a new one.
I was actually in a relationship for about 7 years and it took me
about 2 years to want to date again. I wanted to make sure I was
completely over everything and not be unfair to anyone else.
Only YOU will know when the right time is. Your heart will know!
Good Luck!!!

I'll admit I'm really picky when it comes to choosing who I date. I won't date just anyone. There are certain qualities I look for. I need about a year or more until I even THINK i may want another. My relationships normally last for years. I'm not the type to just take it because I can. In fact, I keep questioning whether it's even worth it anymore, because people just say anything these days, as long as it sounds good. So I'm very careful about who to trust. Maybe just the memories of previous relationships are enough for me. I'm just not as blood-thirsty when it comes to wanting a relationship. And more often than not, it's usually full of one-nighters just looking for a one night stand. I've seen it all too often. Especially on P.O.F. So I took my profiles down. There is only so much bs I will ever take. lol. I can hardly even look at dating sites anymore without wincing.

Better to leave looking for someone new until the day after breaking up.

Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.

Thanks for the insite guys.It was a mutual break up. not bad but not good either. but having spent this time apart i know now that she not what im looking for in the long run and i chalking this one up as a learning experiance. i dont hate her we just drifted away from each other. i got the closer i needed and think i am ready again. i dont know why but ive always been a couples kind of guy. i feel lonely when i dont have someone to talk to when i come home and i like to share my life with someone.

Thanks for the insite guys

Hope you find the one whose compatible with you. Take care and God Speed :)

Hi, and welcome to mingle!

You sound like you have yourself together, so I would date when you feel ready. I checked out your profile, and Yoou are very well spoken, and mature. Your positive tyitude towards life really shines through! You have another adventure ahead of you - all the best.

Apparently I seem to think 4-6 years between relationships is about right.

Some divorcees seem to marry the very next day after their divorce. So.....there ya go.

Absent minded people tend to use little tricks like that to help them remember important dates.

I think that's a good theory, because we already know they're absent minded since they said "til death do us part"...yet are alive enough when they say it the second time.

Damn zombies. Always creating havoc with the vows.

Hey Stud!

The danger in trying to date too soon is that you can succumb to what is known as rebound.

If you are grieving the loss of your last relationship, then you may try to fill the void by latching onto the first available person who comes along. Yet, the first available person may not be right for you.

If you are not grieving the loss of your last relationship, then you may be emotionally strong enough to judge whether or not the next person you meet is right for you.

If you are not grieving, if you are ready to move on, then I see no need for you to delay dating again.

if you are comparing the other women you meet to her, it is too soon
no one wants to be compared to someone - we want you thinking about us not her ....even if it is just a comparison

if there is a chance that you could go back to her, it is too soon spare us that please - just as we get to like u and feeling like maybe things might happen - you give the "me & my ex are getting back together" speech ....unless u want female kind to despise u, please spare us that

if u are tempted to call her still and have to conciously fight the temptation, it is too soon
we don't plan to look at your phone but should we need to for some reason we don't wanna see that you 2 have been talking

if u are still tempted to call her for hook up sex because u ain't gettin' it elsewhere, it is too soon....if you can't wait to get busy on our timetable .....just no...it is too soon

I am not saying you are doing any of these things, but I have dealt with all this before (cantcha tell...lol) so I know what stuff guys do

guys your age often break up and get back together with women, so yes, I 'd recommend caution to my gals pals in dating you because it had been so recent (the break up) good luck with your choices :)

Sad to know its over. 6.5 years is no joke. Life is too short for time caps dude. If its over for sure, and no turning back, look forward. Plenty of birds in the sky.

If you feel like you're ready to date again, go for it. If you're not, then wait until you are.
I was in a relationship for almost five years, and when it ended it completely destroyed me, and it was almost another four years until I was even ready to entertain the idea of maybe trying to date again.
It's all up to you whether you want to date again or not.

for me, i have to get to know a person,,,how long its been since they broke up is not enough information for me to know if they are able to move on,,,everyone is different

some are rebounding for sure, but others, have exhuasted every avenue, ran out of all love and patience before they ever actually split from that past partner, and have been ready to move on since before they officially ended things

u just never know,,,,if all you go on is how long ago it ended,,,

I think it depends on the situation. I think you have to
ask yourself a few questions before you start dating again.
Are you over this person?
Even if you broke up with her, did you allow yourself enough
time to get over the break up?
You don't want to end a relationship and then decide 2 weeks
later that you compare every woman to her. You have to make sure
that you past relationship is done and over with before you
even think of starting a new one.
I was actually in a relationship for about 7 years and it took me
about 2 years to want to date again. I wanted to make sure I was
completely over everything and not be unfair to anyone else.
Only YOU will know when the right time is. Your heart will know!
Good Luck!!!





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