I like to be realistic and genuine and If someone is the same I will return their emails.I have to admit that sometimes it is because Im attracted to them and want to get to know them thats why I like mingle because you can do both friends and romance.

What I do is send a general type of e-mail, how I look physically; my personality; my status; organizations that I belong to; things that I like to do and things that impress me about the woman who's profile that I'm interested in.

The problem is............woman 'don't' reply back on this site or other's that I'm on. Or just stop e-mailing when its time to meet.

I love going on chat lines

Really depends on who it is and what they say in their profile.
If it is meager it is hard to connect and have any desire to say a
whole lot.

I will look at their posts and see what kind of attitude comes across. If it is friendly and intelligent then I am likely to reply with more than a superficial hello that acknowledges their letter.

I do expect the first emails to be pretty superficial to see if in fact I am a real person and not just some scammer since there is so much of that any more. I figure the "Hi or how are you email is more of an invitation to read their profile and I don't take it as all that serious of interest.

Because I already have plenty of e-pal's from my military days and not all that hot for a long distance relationship generally my interests wains pretty quick. If they are local I want to meet in a neutral location and see if it is worth the on line time which I limit now that I am not housebound as a caregiver.

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the emails that usually mean some sort of ongoing conversation come from other forum members in nearly all cases. I am here for friends (and if anything else develops fine but not actively seeking). So I am open to extended FRIENDLY dialogue about a forum topic where we had been chatting on the threads. That is usually the nature of PM convos here.

I am starting to see things this way a bit more and that's a big change for me as my generation is totally from the morality that "nice" women do not make the first move. Usually I still do not but I have made a few friends on PM.

I've sent a few first emails too which is a change for me....maybe I have just started to relax a little on here....which is probably a good thing. its not always about dating for me and more about friendship. beyond that 1st email, he will let me know if he is interested in anything else....guys are speshal that way :)

I will say that I am kinda hesitant to email someone if I think they will interpret it as romantic interest if that is not my intention. those convos can go south pretty quick

if it is a cut & paste or reads like a cut & paste most will ignore it

Most of that info is good for a profile. Maybe stick with what you liked about her profile and give her something to respond to.

If a profile is interesting I usually send an introductory message with a couple paragraphs identifying interests and values that we seem to have in common, and inviting further exploration if she is interested.

Replies are infrequent and are typically disappointing; suggesting that someone skipped too many English classes (or just doesn't care).

I VERY seldom receive an introductory message from a woman – just "winks", "flirts" or other automated responses. Perhaps communication is no longer considered important?

of course communication is important but when you send a couple of paragraphs???? sheesh no one opens a real life conversation that way!!! I doubt many want to read all that from some stranger on the internet who has no head....

Yes, a slow reader might be overwhelmed when confronted with seventy-five or a hundred words (same as this reply). If that is their ability level, I am decidedly not interested.

Why should an Internet conversation start as though it was an in-person contact? When people are "strangers on the Internet", is it not appropriate to give some introductory information or mention shared interests or values?

If one happened to click on the "no head" thumbnail they would encounter a profile with photo that is more complete than the website cropping in threads.

right ...I love folk who ask for advice and then just wanna argue when they get it

I guess you'll just figure out e'thing yourself. good luck on here

I think several more mature ladies still believe in "men making the first move". Hence the very overt (for them) "wink" "nudge" or "flirt"!

There was no request for advice in what I wrote -- and nothing said should have made anyone feel defensive (or authoritative).

right, posting in a public forum tho is done with the understanding that you will get several opinions otherwise it's prolly best not to

I would not read a 2 paragraph first message with a picture with no head. just trying to suggest you might wanna try a new approach.

you asked the question is communication still important? If you did not care for my answer that is fine. this is a public forum, however, hence you may get answers you don;t want. if one is not prepared for that it is prolly best not to ask.

you expressed concern about how your messages age received. I stated why I feel that could be and you were condescending in your reply.

it is not for you to determine how others "should feel" ( defensive or authoritative) that is not up to you

and.....

at that point I am pretty much done here - good luck to you as I previously stated.

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Chatting here doesn't have to be so different from chatting in person. Why should it be?

More mature ladies? Do you mean older ladies?

You are a very intelligent and nice looking man. What you say makes a lot of sense.

Winks and flirts are very ambiguous and meaningless to me, as I am more interested in the real person than "hooking up."

You are right... I always wait for the man first move :)