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Topic: First emails
andrewzooms Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 2842	Wed 07/03/13 06:44 PM
I send messages based on either things said in the forums that catch my attention, or something in their profile that I read that makes me want to ask a question. I like to hope I get the same thing in return. And I will keep exchanging messages as long as they polite or friendly and we have something to talk about. This is what I do, too. I brought this up, because the last several emails I've received just said "hi" or "how are you" and that's it. After that,it's tough trying to get them to chat about anything at all. I see why some people ignore those emails, because 90% of the time, the people who start off with that never have much to say. Same as in real life. Usually if someone asks me how are you I will not even answer that question. It is a conversation killer. sooooooooo........how are u? I would of answered by asking some 4th of July question or complementing the outfit you have on.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 07/03/13 06:47 PM
I send messages based on either things said in the forums that catch my attention, or something in their profile that I read that makes me want to ask a question. I like to hope I get the same thing in return. And I will keep exchanging messages as long as they polite or friendly and we have something to talk about. This is what I do, too. I brought this up, because the last several emails I've received just said "hi" or "how are you" and that's it. After that,it's tough trying to get them to chat about anything at all. I see why some people ignore those emails, because 90% of the time, the people who start off with that never have much to say. Same as in real life. Usually if someone asks me how are you I will not even answer that question. It is a conversation killer. sooooooooo........how are u? I would of answered by asking some 4th of July question or complementing the outfit you have on. if u love navy blue bicycle shorts it might be love

Zero_Effected Joined Sat 12/02/06 Posts: 18395	Wed 07/03/13 06:47 PM
I hear that.. it's hard to find people with real substance.. some even treat the email like an IM.. yeah.. that's kinda tedious.. that said.. I have had some really GREAT exchanges with some of the regulars.. on and off.. keeping in touch with old friends or even sometimes with some new ones.. we must remember though.. for some? the written word is not as easily come by that is true. I had a really awesome friend on here but writing was clearly not his thing....but it is mine so I usually talked enuff for both of us hafta admit Ima IM'er but till there 's a chat on here ... it is what it is it's mine too.. love writing.. and typically write a chapter or 2 with some I'm not an IM'er though.. when I get tired of writing books.. I'd rather 'chat' on the phone.. it's much more engaging

andrewzooms Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 2842	Wed 07/03/13 06:49 PM
I send messages based on either things said in the forums that catch my attention, or something in their profile that I read that makes me want to ask a question. I like to hope I get the same thing in return. And I will keep exchanging messages as long as they polite or friendly and we have something to talk about. This is what I do, too. I brought this up, because the last several emails I've received just said "hi" or "how are you" and that's it. After that,it's tough trying to get them to chat about anything at all. I see why some people ignore those emails, because 90% of the time, the people who start off with that never have much to say. agreed Ok, case in point. take note fellas. I get home from hiking and make myself an awesome dinner, sit down an sign into mingle... there an email from some guy from Ontario , not that far away and he's cute so I read his profile, he has a quote on there from ghegis khan and he's a martial artist. OK so far so good. so I msg him and tell him that I have always been fascinated by the great Khans figuring we'll have an interesting convo but of course not he msgs me back with some horse droppings about how hot I am and how he wants to be all up in me can anyone say "block/delete" ? he totally ignored what I said in order to pursue his own user type agenda total turn off ROFL. Come on Genghis Khan. He might of impregnated at least 2,000 women.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 07/03/13 06:51 PM
I send messages based on either things said in the forums that catch my attention, or something in their profile that I read that makes me want to ask a question. I like to hope I get the same thing in return. And I will keep exchanging messages as long as they polite or friendly and we have something to talk about. This is what I do, too. I brought this up, because the last several emails I've received just said "hi" or "how are you" and that's it. After that,it's tough trying to get them to chat about anything at all. I see why some people ignore those emails, because 90% of the time, the people who start off with that never have much to say. agreed Ok, case in point. take note fellas. I get home from hiking and make myself an awesome dinner, sit down an sign into mingle... there an email from some guy from Ontario , not that far away and he's cute so I read his profile, he has a quote on there from ghegis khan and he's a martial artist. OK so far so good. so I msg him and tell him that I have always been fascinated by the great Khans figuring we'll have an interesting convo but of course not he msgs me back with some horse droppings about how hot I am and how he wants to be all up in me can anyone say "block/delete" ? he totally ignored what I said in order to pursue his own user type agenda total turn off ROFL. Come on Genghis Khan. He might of impregnated at least 2,000 women. do u think at that time he would have lived long enough to get it up that often??? anyway ya, the unification of mongolia and the incursions westward...interesting stuff

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 07/03/13 06:54 PM
I hear that.. it's hard to find people with real substance.. some even treat the email like an IM.. yeah.. that's kinda tedious.. that said.. I have had some really GREAT exchanges with some of the regulars.. on and off.. keeping in touch with old friends or even sometimes with some new ones.. we must remember though.. for some? the written word is not as easily come by that is true. I had a really awesome friend on here but writing was clearly not his thing....but it is mine so I usually talked enuff for both of us hafta admit Ima IM'er but till there 's a chat on here ... it is what it is it's mine too.. love writing.. and typically write a chapter or 2 with some I'm not an IM'er though.. when I get tired of writing books.. I'd rather 'chat' on the phone.. it's much more engaging true talking on the phone can be fun but it also requires giving out ur # that I will do w/ someone I have known awhile - otherwise no

andrewzooms Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 2842	Wed 07/03/13 06:55 PM
An international group of geneticists studying Y-chromosome data have found that nearly 8 percent of the men living in the region of the former Mongol empire carry y-chromosomes that are nearly identical to him. That translates to 0.5 percent of the male population in the world, or roughly 16 million descendants living today. Yes he loved to spread his seed lol.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 07/03/13 06:59 PM
An international group of geneticists studying Y-chromosome data have found that nearly 8 percent of the men living in the region of the former Mongol empire carry y-chromosomes that are nearly identical to him. That translates to 0.5 percent of the male population in the world, or roughly 16 million descendants living today. Yes he loved to spread his seed lol. well context is everything it was the dude's perogative at the time lol...I don't think life expectancy was much for anyone other than royalty back then so of course he had to assume the responsibility to propagate his "legacy" such a difficult burden to shoulder good man good man

Zero_Effected Joined Sat 12/02/06 Posts: 18395	Wed 07/03/13 07:05 PM
it's mine too.. love writing.. and typically write a chapter or 2 with some I'm not an IM'er though.. when I get tired of writing books.. I'd rather 'chat' on the phone.. it's much more engaging true talking on the phone can be fun but it also requires giving out ur # that I will do w/ someone I have known awhile - otherwise no so far I've been very careful about giving out my #.. most guys are okay with giving out their cell #'s or, dependent on the stage we're at, their home number.. mine is private and they respect that.. when I feel comfortable enough I will give it out.. with some.. I never get to that point though.. but you're wise to be cautious

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 07/03/13 07:28 PM Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Wed 07/03/13 07:32 PM
I guess andrew doesn't want to continue to be off topic dicussing the mongol hordes but I could go all night In Xanadu did Kubla Khan A stately pleasure-dome decree: Where Alph, the sacred river, ran Through caverns measureless to man Down to a sunless sea. So twice five miles of fertile ground With walls and towers were girdled round: And there were gardens bright with sinuous rills, Where blossomed many an incense-bearing tree; And here were forests ancient as the hills, Enfolding sunny spots of greenery.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 07/03/13 08:01 PM
OK OK I am still waiting for my demon lover :)

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 07/04/13 09:27 AM
I hear that.. it's hard to find people with real substance.. some even treat the email like an IM.. yeah.. that's kinda tedious.. that said.. I have had some really GREAT exchanges with some of the regulars.. on and off.. keeping in touch with old friends or even sometimes with some new ones.. we must remember though.. for some? the written word is not as easily come by that is true. I had a really awesome friend on here but writing was clearly not his thing....but it is mine so I usually talked enuff for both of us hafta admit Ima IM'er but till there 's a chat on here ... it is what it is it's mine too.. love writing.. and typically write a chapter or 2 with some I'm not an IM'er though.. when I get tired of writing books.. I'd rather 'chat' on the phone.. it's much more engaging I don't mind chatting on the phone, but if it's someone from here, they have to show they can have a conversation here first. Many can't seem to do that.

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Thu 07/04/13 10:10 AM
I'm not a message instigator so just reply to what they message me an bring up other subjects as they present themselves. I just assume the same natural evolution of any face to face or telephone conversation really.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 07/04/13 11:39 AM
I'm not a message instigator so just reply to what they message me an bring up other subjects as they present themselves. I just assume the same natural evolution of any face to face or telephone conversation really. It really depends on what they have to say in the beginning. If they cannot hold a conversation here, it will not become a telephone or face to face conversation in the future.

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Thu 07/04/13 12:35 PM
I'm not a message instigator so just reply to what they message me an bring up other subjects as they present themselves. I just assume the same natural evolution of any face to face or telephone conversation really. It really depends on what they have to say in the beginning. If they cannot hold a conversation here, it will not become a telephone or face to face conversation in the future. I tend to believe that, but there are exceptions to the rule. I was surprised when I dated a guy who had nothing to say online, but was so interesting and eloquent in person. Then I dated a guy who was so eloquent online, but in person it was all shallow conversation will lots of f bombs. The last part of your statement would never have occurred to me but makes so much sense. Typing is just the extra step some may need to filter their usually spontaneously colorful language. But but but...I don't wanna travel across the country to listen to a potty mouth! I have a remote for THAT!

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Thu 07/04/13 12:37 PM
I'm not a message instigator so just reply to what they message me an bring up other subjects as they present themselves. I just assume the same natural evolution of any face to face or telephone conversation really. It really depends on what they have to say in the beginning. If they cannot hold a conversation here, it will not become a telephone or face to face conversation in the future. Agree. I've racked my mind time and again for an intelligent reply to "hey sexy thang"....still got noffin!

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 07/05/13 05:03 AM
I'm not a message instigator so just reply to what they message me an bring up other subjects as they present themselves. I just assume the same natural evolution of any face to face or telephone conversation really. It really depends on what they have to say in the beginning. If they cannot hold a conversation here, it will not become a telephone or face to face conversation in the future. I tend to believe that, but there are exceptions to the rule. I was surprised when I dated a guy who had nothing to say online, but was so interesting and eloquent in person. Then I dated a guy who was so eloquent online, but in person it was all shallow conversation will lots of f bombs. While that's probably true for some, I have a hard time wanting to give my phone number to the guy who can't say much beyond "hey baby hru" haha.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 07/05/13 05:58 AM
I'm not a message instigator so just reply to what they message me an bring up other subjects as they present themselves. I just assume the same natural evolution of any face to face or telephone conversation really. It really depends on what they have to say in the beginning. If they cannot hold a conversation here, it will not become a telephone or face to face conversation in the future. I tend to believe that, but there are exceptions to the rule. I was surprised when I dated a guy who had nothing to say online, but was so interesting and eloquent in person. Then I dated a guy who was so eloquent online, but in person it was all shallow conversation will lots of f bombs. While that's probably true for some, I have a hard time wanting to give my phone number to the guy who can't say much beyond "hey baby hru" haha. I hear ya. I didnt give him my number, just agreed to meet somewhere (extremely reluctantly). We had such a great time and he turned out to be a great guy. I have no explanation for his lack of ability to show that on email/online. If a guy can't say much more than my example above, I'm not going to meet him, either. Maybe I'm missing out, but that's my issue. Everyone I've met in person has been able to have some sort of conversation online first that allowed us both to decide to meet.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 07/05/13 08:24 AM
Starting off with how are you isn't a big deal, as long as they're able to follow it up. But, those that tend to write things like "hru" I have never found to have much to say afterward.

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Fri 07/05/13 10:56 AM
I just go with my gut instinct. If I feel attracted to someone, I'll send the first e-mail, and if he's not attracted to me, it's no big deal. Might aswell go after who you feel attracted to. If you don't ask, you don't get. Better to have asked than not at all. If it's people from the forums, I already feel more familiar with who they are, so I'm always up for discussing stuff with them in e-mails. I'm quite open-minded, so I discuss most things.