If your reading this then either you have at one point or plan to in the future.....talk to someone online that touches your heart...

How much do we really know about the ones we talk to and honest with our most inner thoughts?

We all know there are scammers this is not about them.

This is about those that lie about who they are and many do it for many different reasons.. When one portrays themselves as one they are not and in the end it causes more hurt then what some even realize.

In the last few days I happened to click on a show called :Catfish: The TV Show. It is about online romances where one is wanting to make sure the one they are talking to is really who they say they are for the relationship is progressing and they have never meet. But one has thrown red flags and now they are not sure they are who they say they are..

Needless to say each story has a curved ball thrown from the pictures being those of someone else to even being a friend that is trying to pull them out of their depression. But staging to be someone else so they have someone to relate too..

Some of these people talked many hours on the phone with the other person, some even had their true picture up but had lied about their life and who they were in person... I know it makes many of us wonder why????

I'm no different from many that have gotten caught up with someone that turned out not to be the person you thought they were...

Due to that it's pretty much local for meeting or nothing for me anymore...And I prefer to meet the sooner the better when doing so..

For those that wish to share a story with others to let them know they are not the only ones that have been pulled in by another and things ended up falling apart..due to false information they were told... If not what happen to you but even to someone you know online......

It does not mean one is naive if they fall for someone to find out they were not who they said they were. Just they trusted the other person was being truthful....


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Thanks and please share your stories the more we share the more others realize they are not the only ones that have been caught up in the romance rush~~~~~

Yes it happens.

She told me she would date me. So after a couple of months of email I asked her out for New Year's as she lived quite a distance away. She said 'No, I honestly don't want a ldr.' So after thinking about it for awhile, I told her I was moving there in about a year, just to date her. To see if we would marry or not or be good friends, whatever.

She went ballistic. No way in h3ll would she date me. So apparently the little lie she told at the front was meant to just hurt.

Surprise! After seeing her real personality I was just angry at being duped. I'll be more careful next time.

Ohhh.meet one dated him for over a year
Till his WIFE knocked on my door...had no idea
She found his phone and followed him

Lesson learned



Did it a second time..
With one..from online.
Claimed he was seperated and ended up
Getting back together with wife.



Then as if.....I once sent 500 dollars to another


# cautious as hell. now.

It has taken few years just to trust again only few have my number.

Oh and was stalked once.that's why I'm Leary.after giving my extra info..
Not again

I don't seem to have that problem any more
I just make sure no one wants to date me by being brutally honest...
lol
I am but a simple man...

Well as I have said I've not been spared from the romance rush online...

Had one that I talked to for several months I was totally honest with him within e-mails as well as on the phone... When it came down to me suggesting hey lets meet... Things started to get a bit weird. I started noticing small things here and there that did not match up and he seemed to have and excuse why he could not meet...Of course I live in Texas and he lived in Oregon...regardless I was willing to meet..

I'm not all that naive and when small things started to add up I got curious.. I mean I had his phone number and I have the internet... One would be surprised what you can google and come up with...Turned out the phone was registered to his work therefore sure his wife never checked it..Yeppiers said his wife....

He had posted several pics on another site he had with his photography pictures that he took. For he was very much into photography as a side thing and had won a few awards due to that. Humm well I took one of the pictures of him holding up a trophy. Guess he never thought that if you blow the pic up you could read the name on the trophy as well.. Come to find out the name he went by was only a nick name... His real one was on the trophy which he had never told me... Again google is my friend

He never figured I would find out not only where he lived down to the address and he had a wife... A lot of the stuff he told me was true about him and his kids...

After this little detective work I was dubbed with the nick name Sherlock...

Read this thread earlier, I had to study on it. I had to see the tv show, Catfish, to gain prospective on it. Now I feel like I can comment on it.

Maybe I'm not that gullable, or that I think that long distance won't work. Come on now, it costs big to travel. I've met a few ladies that were an hour from my home. Unless they were really something special, I'd just tell them that the distance was just too much. But then, I made it a point to go to a place that was close to them first, to know what I could be in for.

I've been approached by a few scammers, and I smoked them out by looking objectively at their profile, and re-visiting their profile several times over a couple days. Several of them change it pretty regularly. Hello! Red flag!

I wouldn't send a buck to anyone online. My name is not Chase Manhatten, and I better know you for at least ten years before I'd loan you any money. If I do, then be prepaired to be bugged about paying me back promptly, because I will ask you for it within the first two minutes of a conversation, every time I see you. I don't, and won't borrow money from a friend, unless it's ten bucks for gas money. ( That's what credit cards are for.)

Realisticly, I can't get all emotionally involved with a lady online. Words and feelings can be conveyed, but unless I see the mouth and the face that they came out of, in person, then I'll keep myself in check.

I got involved once with a lady who was living with another guy. The look I got when I knocked on her door was priceless, and unexpected. And judging by the yelling and screaming I heard just after I saw the door close, was enough to tell me that I wouldn't ever see or hear from her again.

Do yourself a favor. Go in to relationship with your eyes open. Be ready to do some digging. Be brutally honest with, more yourself than the other person. You'll save yourself and the person you've met a whole lot of grief and aggravation.

you're totally right about google Txs.. it's a best friend to ANYone that knows how to use it..

either I've just been very lucky OR.. that psychology degree has REALLY paid itself back 1000 fold.. but I've not been taken in by anyones BS YET.. (I say yet because ya never know what can happen in the future eh?! and I don't like tempting FATE ) but I'm watchful..

I seem to get lots of 'scammers' approach me here though.. if they could only see just how transparent they truly ARE.. however I'm VERY selective of who I actually speak to.. and those so far have been as straight forward as I am.. thankfully! and those I've met from this site soo far too.. have been exactly WHO they portrayed themselves to be..

funny you should mention "sherlock" my kids dubbed me that years ago... it started when my eldest went to a friends and didn't tell me which.. 2 hrs later (after many calls to differing friends) I showed up the address where she was.. she was pizzed but never went ANYwhere again without first telling me.. then my youngest "ran away from home".. she called to tell me that "she wasn't coming home and I wouldn't be able to find her" and I.. being the devoted mom that I am.. told her "no matter where you are.. I'll ALWAYS find you".. she laughed then hung up.. 30 mins later I was ringing the doorbell of where she was and when she came to the door she was like .. I told her to grab her thing and get in the truck.. she nodded silently and went to get her stuff.. minutes later we were heading home and she looked at me, still dumbstruck, and asked how did I DO that.. I reminded her.. "I'll ALWAYS find you sweetie.. no matter where you go.. I'll always be there to pick you up when you fall.. and keep you safe" from that day forward, no matter WHERE she went.. she always told me aHEAD of time(or when she got there), the address and tel # saying "you'll probably figure it out so I'll save you the trouble

for me at this point though.. I'd have to say I'm leaning to the conclusion I'll be single for the rest of me days.. that's not such a terrible thing.. but SOMEone out there.. is missing the awesomeness of me company

Catfish is a good show and the movie is even better. He really puts it out there in plain view. He gets really hurt.

separated from my wife translates: since I left the house this morning

I had the same thing happen to me.
Was told his wife had died three years prior. Told me what she died from, where she was buried and everything.
He had his real pic up gave me his real name. He was local and we dated for six month before I accidently found out his wife was very much alive and still living with him.
He is still online but changed his profile to divorced..what a jerk.

Just bear in mind woman...."catfish "only shows the negatives.

They would never do a show about the times I met people from mingle ...the times you and I got bombed and partied in Texas and Louisiana.

Vivians....T's....you remember....

Let "Catfish" do a show about when it goes right.....

It would be us.

You are a fine woman that any man would want.

Stop acting surprised.

I'm selective with who I meet so I've never had this problem, but I've only met a handful of people here.

It is a good show and one never knows what will happen even those that are local can fool you....

It happens to many that don't want to admit it...

As far as those that are just scammers most of those are pretty easy to detect. But some are really good...

What I'm mainly talking about are those that are real but uses fake name or someone else picture thinking they will never get caught...

In a few I will tell of another story of mine how I caught him and when karma got him back with my help....

Woman....you got nothing on me....


Except for the time we rolled off in the pimpmobile at Vivians and I got stoned.

Or that time at T's...where we slept together with no Sex.

Other than that...you can prove nothing!!!!!

:)

I'll this. I am not a very trusting person to begin with. But I have been taken before. I rarely to never give out my full real name and I've been that way ever since I first got on the internet. I even more rarely like to put where I'm living unless I'm completely on my own and know if anyone shows up to do harm then it's only me who's going to have to worry about it.

If you're wondering and this will show how honest I am. I am this way because I have been teased a lot. I was teased because I was born with a cleft lip/pallet that gave me a speech impediment. So after years of being treated like garbage I have pretty much decided I don't care what people think of me. They're going to think it no matter what. So especially online I'm very honest with people. If I think you're full of shite. Then I'll let you know.

Of all the scammers I've dealt with though my favorite was one I had a lot of fun with. At one point I told this retard I knew he/she/it was a scammer and they denied it. For about two years I continued talking to this idiot and eventually they wanted to send me some money orders for something. They were to be for $4000 each as I recall. I was to cash them and then send what ever amount back which is a weird thing to ask someone to do in the first place. I gave them a PO box to send them to me and I waited. I don't know how long it took before I told them I don't think they're coming. So they tried again. Never got them.

Finally I told this retard to take the money orders and wrap them in paper so it would look like a letter and then send them to me. This time it worked. I think it was about a month or two later I got the money orders. I think there was four or five in all. I took them to the bank and I told the teller to make sure they were real before doing anything else and it came back they were fake which shouldn't take much to figure out when I've never seen a place that will give a money order for more than 300 or may 500. Who knows maybe in Africa they have places that do that.

My final bit of fun was dropping the bomb on this retard that I knew they were lying. The person actually accused me of cashing the money orders and keeping the money for myself. I asked them "Why would I cash a money order I know is fake?" They said it must have been sent by someone else because the ones they sent were real. I told them they were wrapped in paper just like I suggested they do and various other details that made it obvious it was from them. Like the fact I hadn't gotten any other idiots to send me money orders.

That was the best bit of fun I ever had with a scammer. Most of the scammers since haven't been as fun because they claim to be from the US and they can't speak English to save their lives. at least when I get one that says they're from Russia I can understand why they can't speak English. lol

Now my favorite thing to do with scammers and especially Russian ones is to send them dirty emails till they stop writing me. I hope one day to have one that will keep writing me so I can get really morbid and gross. Like try to talk them into necrophilia or something like that. hahaha

I watch Catfish all the time,to me its really hilarious. I have come across a couple of Fakes from other sites and I always do my research . Most of the guys always claim to be soldiers. I tell them upfront that they r fakes n they stop bothering me.

Hmmmm. Yes, I've had such an experience. Got to know a fellow online for a couple of weeks. Hit it off really well. First time we were to meet, he stood me up. Second time we met, I didn't know who he was when he walked through the door, because he didn't match his picture. I couldn't believe someone would do that! I guess my naievety was showing....

Anyway, as we talked, I discovered that he wasn't Sepaated, either, but lived with his supposedly estranged wife and kids. Also, he had lied to me about where he worked and his name. After that, I couldn't really believe anything that came out of his mouth, so that was the end of that. Thankfully, it didn't go very far, but I was embarrassed.

Later on, I was doing a search for other possible matches, and it turned out he had two other profiles, all with pictures of the same false other guy, and false info in the write up. Jeez. Made me shake my head.

Never actually had any lady on here....But had one on some other site. Wanted to come see me in person from New Zealand,,,but never knew she was pulling my leg...Hehehe