So I'm gonna be a single mom and I'm completely okay with this, but since I'm new at date again plus I will have my son, I'm not sure how to about all this. So advice would be awesome! Oh and if my about me is not interesting please let me know! :)

i'm wishing i had a family!

I wish you the best. Join in the forums a lot of great people here for you to meet

Thank you!!

What happened to the father of your child?

He has no idea what being a father is, and as much as I think he would like to be here, he needs to grow up, I have my reason for my decision, honestly I wish it was different but it's not so I have come to terms with it. My son and I will be fine without him, but with all that said its time I was happy too.

I am a single mom of 2 kids. It is hard to date when you have little ones. However, keep the kids away from the men you are meeting until u know its serious. You don't want ur kid thinking they have 5 dads.
Trust me I have a friend and her kid thinks that.
Be safe and have fun, but leave you child with family or a sitter. :-)

I am a single mom who made some bad choices but I want my future mate to meet my kids right off the bat. Cause really if he can't handle them he's out not them. They are my first priority and while I want this to be all about me the truth is they are part of this to because whoever I chose will be their daddy and my husband.

I agree! My son has met guys I've dated before things were really serious because if I don't like how a guy is to my kid, then there's no point in wasting anyone's time.

Totally agree klc! I'm a newly single mom and dating is so much scarier now that I have children!

100% agree wt u kic;-)

I feel you I am a new single dad of two wife just picked up and walked out moved to other side of country. Sucks she was my best friend and now am raising my kids alone. So hard to have to tell kids mom is not coming home. And what's worse is that she had a hubby who worked cleaned washed and took care of kids while she was being put thru school. Sorry to put all that Down just having a hard time. Hard to find nice people when you say you have two kids. But they are my world.

Same here. My son and I are moving on officially today. I wish it wasn't this way too but it is what it is and now I want to enjoy my life again. Will be an interesting new path for us with lots of fun and happiness ahead.

lookin for a friend before a mate. my lil guy knows I have different friends, guys and girls, but none of them are his mommy. hes 2 and he meets everybody I meet. he likes some of em but dating isnt a thing he knows yet. Just hanging out... I like that cuz I can see how my baby reacts to someone before I make any big decisions

Single parenting and dating is very hard. My kids are my everything. I know it will take a strong guy to step up and date us. I had a guy lie to me and tell me he liked kids just so he could date me. Really it is not just me, it is all three of us. We are a package deal.

I definite wouldn't mind wasting my time getting to know a man very, very well before I take the move of acquainting them with my kids. Especially with my young daughter.

Responsible parenting puts everything unto our hands as parents, be it in a single parenthood or otherwise. It is very important that one tests the waters beforehand and not drag the children along when the going gets tough - the very least to protect them from unwanted outsiders.

I have a 6yr old and I have been single since his birth, we have a great relationship and I'm ready to start dating again. Hopefully Ill find my Frog.....lol Good Luck and Welcome

When I wanted to become a Mom in the 70's I became REALLY picky who my friends were.

So, of course, when I became a single Mom that pattern of thinking got even more intense. As a parent if you make bad choices you are rarely the only person to suffer and I can take a lot but seeing my kid suffer is WAY worse so yea I vetted people pretty hard. Downloaded a couple of people in my life that could not get with the program that I was single AND still a person but definitely not as footloose as those who had a partner to share the responsibilities.

Yea at times I had a "private life" that was not at "home" but my thought was a guy who did not want me enough to provide the place for even minimal intimacy had a really sorry potential.

All that said I didn't see a problem with someone I did think was a good person being in my kids "exterior" world. How they interacted with my friends, family, children could improve or sink someone's chances of being anything more than an acquaintance.

It has always been a higher standard to have anyone in my home, even when my "kids" got big enough (6'+) to "intimidate" most (lol). But I strongly suggest keeping your home as a highly protected "oasis" for you and your children. It will definitely come back to you when they are older and you want them respecting your home.

If the Date was not elevated to the point of " official courting" the person in my life was not getting in my and my kid's home for anything but group events such as holiday celebrations, bbq's, meetings where there was plenty of "chaperones" and no "monkey business".

I believe it saved me a lot of the miseries that some of my single friends and their kids endured. I am sure it saved me an unplanned intimacy and or pregnancy which really can trash lives in a big way because blending family life is serious work.

Because of it my kids had no confusion who was a friend and who was someone that was significant in their life and they were going to have to accept as part of the family.

I learned to never "sell it" that my later partner was going to be their "new Dad". Or let anyone else which was sometimes a delicate situation when my partner was being the primary provider and an excellent role model that any kid would be glad to claim; ie in-laws, family, and friends that were more than pl3eased with the "replacement".

Good bad or other wise they had a father and was not until he set aside his rights of his own free will did the concept that someone else was going to be an adoptive "Dad" came into the picture. Even when he did adopt the boys he insisted that they pay their biological family the due respect and consideration. I divorced a spouse not my kid's Grandparents so on.

My son will be two in February. He has met one person that I dated, and that was enough for me. I have guy friends, but they are rarely around my son. One had been there since i was pregnant. Being a 22 year old single mother is difficult. Plus I work full time. But I still wouldn't bring random dates around my son.