I met someone here several years ago. I've been to visit him a couple times, we talk several times a day. This last visit I made now mind you we haven't seen each other for several years I got off the train no hug or kiss nothing. He says he's not into public displays of affection. I say bs. I stayed for 7 days and still really nothing. But before I came he was saying how much he loved me and couldn't wait to just cuddle and hold me never happened. It's changed everything 6 yrs of the long distance and this. He still says how much he loves me and misses me. My question is why then didn't he show it?

may be double face person,so he avoid to disclose his relationship or wants casual relationship

I may be wrong here, but there's two possible things in my opinion.

1. He's shy/awkward. I don't know the guy, so I don't know what he's like but for me I'd be a bit nervous after seeing the love of my life after so many years, I wouldn't want anything to ruin it (bad breath, greasy hair, am I dressed right etc).

2. He's disappointed. Have you changed at all? after all that time it'd be difficult to remember what you were like, and if he's got a mental image of you that he likes and you turn out to be something completely different then that could cause problems.

6 years is a long time, no matter what age you are I'm sure people can change, the best thing to do if you want him is to try to get it like it was all those years ago, maybe then the feelings will come back and he'll do anything in public lol

My instinct tells me that he doesn't want to be "seen" displaying affection in public & only 1 reason I can think of for that. If I was meeting someone I cared for & couldn't wait to see, there would be a huge hug & kiss waiting for her!

ah agreed with this person reymak
but i welcome to my soulmate in public afte long and long time with deep hug and kisssiiss

Actions speak louder than words. Something has changed on his end. I guess the only way to find out what is going on is to talk to him about it.

Well pkh, this puts a sad place in my heart and I hope he will be open to talk openly and truthfully about it cause it (the relationship) and you deserve that for sure after all this time.

I greet almost everybody (even the guy at the grocery store) with a hug so this is out of my concept of life. I feel weird when I'm not hugging but that's me.

If I experienced this I would need to for sure have "that" talk.

I agree.....

And THAT some one might be more important to him than you are now!

Could it be that he's seeing somebody else,un beknowst to you??

y u no quote me?!

I thought hard about that response

There, feel better! I think most folks are thinking along the same lines. Something has changed that's for sure! Don't feel bad if you're not quoted, I'm sure someone will at some point. You had a great observation for a young guy

Thank you

I agree

Maybe he turned Asexual. On that note, there's so many different types of sexuality, that it could be any of em. I think some feel creeped out about touching/being touched. Maybe while he's not been in your life, he could have been involved in a traumatizing situation and has yet to tell you. Only he can really tell you though. Sometimes, things aren't as obvious as they may seem.

I've lost 30 lbs since last visit all he wanted was sex he's 12 yrs older then me. And now he's pressuring me to move there. Not happening

well U have one Guy here that just Adores U!!!

dont know the reasons Pam but wish u get to know the reasons and they meet your expectations

you little honey you thanks same to you

thanks sweetie

Short answer is - He's hiding something from you and not being completely honest. Sorry but that's the truth. While it's impossible for me to say exactly what he's hiding (I don't know the person you're speaking about) it is very easy to see that he feels the need to distance himself from you because of it.

Right now you only have two options. Talk to him and basically demand to know the reason or quietly walk away. After all that time getting to know each other and the visits.. on top of also staying out there for 7 days and getting basically no reaction from him what so ever can only mean that there are severe problems that need to be addressed. I wish you all the luck in the world and hope everything comes out in your favor.