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Dodo likes to try to get others wound up here. Haha. and we fall for it like sheep to the trough lol People can't push your buttons if your buttons didn't exist in the first place. 
you aren't pushing my buttons as it was my ex husband who did the things you describe most often - where I seldom did those things (as singme was asking about - yes, men can also do those things ) I have just noticed over a long period of time that you seem to enjoy trying to get people to argue. and some do seem to enjoy that style of conversation - see it as debate not arguing. I do not, however. generally with someone like you I will chat briefly and try to remain friendly but our convos won;t usually last long. you actually remind me of my former spouse in your conversation style. :) 
no worries. he is a good man :) 
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Dodo likes to try to get others wound up here. Haha. and we fall for it like sheep to the trough lol People can't push your buttons if your buttons didn't exist in the first place.
At least you're admitting to trying to push people's buttons. Most didn't fall for these being women only issues, though.
lol 
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Edited by
Dodo_David
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Thu 05/30/13 07:31 PM
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I have just noticed over a long period of time that you seem to enjoy trying to get people to argue. 
I just wanted to start an interesting conversation about what another person is claiming. That is all that I wanted. |
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I will repeat something that I say in my OP: I am not saying that I agree with Atkin. Frankly, I don't see any of the things that Atkin mentions as leading to divorce if a married couple have made a commitment to stick together for better or worse. Those are the things that just made her a "hard to get alone with " girlfriend, but still married her anyway. That was just like popping Freddy Flintstones to me. 
I think sometimes , even if we do not actively have an agenda to try to change the other person, we believe or hope they will change....and get married thinking: "Oh, he'll grow and outgrow drinking, gambling" or whatever it is she doesn;t like. Or we think: "Oh she;ll settle down and change her mind about having children, telling her sister everything" or whatever the thing is HE doesn't like but we seldom change all that much |
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I think some people grow up, some people remain stagnant, and some people regress
its being compatible that matters someone who is growing up and evolving can desire to match with someone else who is doing the same,,,, but they should watch for those signs ahead of time instead of hoping they appear after,,,, |
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I have just noticed over a long period of time that you seem to enjoy trying to get people to argue.
I just wanted to start an interesting conversation about what another person is claiming. That is all that I wanted. exactly my point! I agree with you completely! Some, like you & others, enjoy this style of convo I will call debate! So to you it IS interesting!! Even tho I prefer not so much button pushing, you do moderate things well in your debates! :) 
but let me not get you too far off topic! |
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I realize you want to make this about women, but these are not mistakes that only women make. If they were mistakes that only women made, then maybe you could have separate topics, but really there is no need for separate topics. The same things would be repeated in both. Maybe the living seperate lives one but they do seem like the sorts of things that men complain that women do and women tend to complain that men do just the opposite and don't communicate, don't you think? Not really. Sure, there are some men who don't talk about problems, but there are also those who do. I can see men doing all of those things. Yeah and there are also men that like to wear high heals and makeup. ... Ok? What does that have to do with what we're talking about? Oh, come on. Nagging and trying to get their men to change are typical complaints that men make about women. So is having to talk about the relationship all the time. Ask the average woman what annoys her about men and I don't think she's going to produce a list like that. You don't think men try to get their women to change? And you believe men never talk to their friends about their relationships? I'm guessing you also think all women nag and try to change men, too. Yeah, I think that there are some men that try to get their women to stop nagging them and for sure they talk to their friends about how women do that stuff. I don't know what all women do. I only know what they do to me and when I talk to other guys about it they will just say, "Yeah, that's just women mate". It's a stereotype for sure but so is saying that men like football and drinking beer. |
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I will repeat something that I say in my OP: I am not saying that I agree with Atkin. Frankly, I don't see any of the things that Atkin mentions as leading to divorce if a married couple have made a commitment to stick together for better or worse. Those are the things that just made her a "hard to get alone with " girlfriend, but still married her anyway. That was just like popping Freddy Flintstones to me.
I think sometimes , even if we do not actively have an agenda to try to change the other person, we believe or hope they will change....and get married thinking: "Oh, he'll grow and outgrow drinking, gambling" or whatever it is she doesn;t like. Or we think: "Oh she;ll settle down and change her mind about having children, telling her sister everything" or whatever the thing is HE doesn't like but we seldom change all that much That is something else I find wrong with the article that I cite in the OP. Those six "mistakes" that certain wives make were most likely being made by them prior to marriage. So, why would their husbands complain when the husbands already decided that the "mistakes" were tolerable during pre-marriage courtship? |
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Dodo likes to try to get others wound up here. Haha. and we fall for it like sheep to the trough lol People can't push your buttons if your buttons didn't exist in the first place.
At least you're admitting to trying to push people's buttons. Most didn't fall for these being women only issues, though.
No, I was NOT trying to push people's buttons. I saw an article pertaining to divorce, and I thought that the article would be an interesting topic to talk about. As I said earlier, (IMHO) nothing mentioned in the OP is a cause of divorce. Really? I thought you were trying to do that with this thread, then that comment seemed like you were admitting to it. Haha |
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Dodo likes to try to get others wound up here. Haha. and we fall for it like sheep to the trough lol People can't push your buttons if your buttons didn't exist in the first place.
At least you're admitting to trying to push people's buttons. Most didn't fall for these being women only issues, though.
No, I was NOT trying to push people's buttons. I saw an article pertaining to divorce, and I thought that the article would be an interesting topic to talk about. As I said earlier, (IMHO) nothing mentioned in the OP is a cause of divorce. Really? I thought you were trying to do that with this thread, then that comment seemed like you were admitting to it. Haha I was just trying to liven things up a bit with an interesting conversation. Still, I'd like to know just why there were "buttons" that the OP was able to push. |
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I was just trying to liven things up a bit with an interesting conversation. Still, I'd like to know just why there were "buttons" that the OP was able to push. Oh, don't play dumb, Dodo. You often try to get people to argue. That's all we were trying to point out, because it seemed like something you were doing in this thread.
As for pushing buttons in the OP, I don't know that you really did. Most of us seem to think these issues aren't gender specific, so there's not really much to discuss in this thread. |
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Oh, don't play dumb, Dodo. You often try to get people to argue.
I try to get people to reveal what they really think, instead of spinning like a politician.
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I will repeat something that I say in my OP: I am not saying that I agree with Atkin. Frankly, I don't see any of the things that Atkin mentions as leading to divorce if a married couple have made a commitment to stick together for better or worse. Those are the things that just made her a "hard to get alone with " girlfriend, but still married her anyway. That was just like popping Freddy Flintstones to me.
I think sometimes , even if we do not actively have an agenda to try to change the other person, we believe or hope they will change....and get married thinking: "Oh, he'll grow and outgrow drinking, gambling" or whatever it is she doesn;t like. Or we think: "Oh she;ll settle down and change her mind about having children, telling her sister everything" or whatever the thing is HE doesn't like but we seldom change all that much That is something else I find wrong with the article that I cite in the OP. Those six "mistakes" that certain wives make were most likely being made by them prior to marriage. So, why would their husbands complain when the husbands already decided that the "mistakes" were tolerable during pre-marriage courtship? I seem to recall you saying something before about women not starting to do certain things until they marry you. You personally claim to not even believe in sex before marriage and I would argue that it's only when you get into a proper physical relationship with someone that a lot of the problems start. |
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This whole thread is a stupid topic.
None of the O.P. makes any sense and its just idiotic. |
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both men and women make mistakes in any kind of relationship, if you have problems and love each other enough then working together to sort those problems out should be the answer, not divorce
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both men and women make mistakes in any kind of relationship, if you have problems and love each other enough then working together to sort those problems out should be the answer, not divorce I prefer divorce. I recommend it highly. |
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If you want to get rid of all your faults, get divorced.
Suddenly you are perfect. |
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however cheating is something i believe to be unforgiveable thats the deal breaker for me
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Kyle teigj anthony johns
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everybody has faults, if u cant handle ur partner having faults then yeah get divorced cause u dont love them, better still dont get married in the first place unless u are prepared to take ur vows seriously
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