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Topic: Monogamy or Polygamy...?
KiK2me Joined Sun 01/06/13 Posts: 8732	Mon 05/27/13 12:24 PM
Although the definition is more applied to "Marriage" I believe that it also applies to relations and courtship So which do you prefer ? And do you let that person KNOW when you are being "Friends" ? I prefer a monogamous typs of friendship Where we are BOTH secure in our feelings toward one another to also have "Just friends " as well... I do like a few of the ladies in here But because of "misunderstandings" I am reluctant to say specifically WHO I like my feelings to be reciprocated feelings But maybe this is what is lacking with YOU and your desire as well ? So tell us ? Monogamy or Polygamy in relationships ? KiK

Momoiro_Usagi_7 Joined Sun 05/12/13 Posts: 1450	Mon 05/27/13 12:26 PM
Although the definition is more applied to "Marriage" I believe that it also applies to relations and courtship So which do you prefer ? And do you let that person KNOW when you are being "Friends" ? Monogamy All the way! Yes I think it's very important that someone knows where they stand with you! Unrequited Love SUX!

jacktrades Joined Tue 09/11/12 Posts: 4395	Mon 05/27/13 12:33 PM
Monogamy for sure being honest is the way to go.

Journeyman236 Joined Thu 05/09/13 Posts: 2786	Mon 05/27/13 12:36 PM
Monogamy or being "exclusive" with one person once your relationship gets to an intimate level

TawtStrat Joined Fri 11/16/12 Posts: 3581	Mon 05/27/13 12:38 PM
Although the definition is more applied to "Marriage" I believe that it also applies to relations and courtship So which do you prefer ? And do you let that person KNOW when you are being "Friends" ? I prefer a monogamous typs of friendship Where we are BOTH secure in our feelings toward one another to also have "Just friends " as well... I do like a few of the ladies in here But because of "misunderstandings" I am reluctant to say specifically WHO I like my feelings to be reciprocated feelings But maybe this is what is lacking with YOU and your desire as well ? So tell us ? Monogamy or Polygamy in relationships ? KiK I'm not sure that I follow you. Why the scare quotes around "just friends"? If you mean seeing somebody and she's also seeing somebody else, then no, I'm not into that and don't think that it's cool. She's either my girlfriend or she isn't. As far as the rest of it goes, if I'm interested in a woman I let her know and screw the misunderstandings. But probably not on a public forum.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Mon 05/27/13 12:40 PM
anything sexual is gonna have to be monogamous,, Im just not taking all the extra risks that third, fourth, fifth parties and all their partners contribute to the equation nor does it continue to feel like a 'special bond' if it is something my partner is sharing so freely with others,,,,

KiK2me Joined Sun 01/06/13 Posts: 8732	Mon 05/27/13 12:49 PM
Although the definition is more applied to "Marriage" I believe that it also applies to relations and courtship So which do you prefer ? And do you let that person KNOW when you are being "Friends" ? I prefer a monogamous typs of friendship Where we are BOTH secure in our feelings toward one another to also have "Just friends " as well... I do like a few of the ladies in here But because of "misunderstandings" I am reluctant to say specifically WHO I like my feelings to be reciprocated feelings But maybe this is what is lacking with YOU and your desire as well ? So tell us ? Monogamy or Polygamy in relationships ? KiK I'm not sure that I follow you. Why the scare quotes around "just friends"? If you mean seeing somebody and she's also seeing somebody else, then no, I'm not into that and don't think that it's cool. She's either my girlfriend or she isn't. As far as the rest of it goes, if I'm interested in a woman I let her know and screw the misunderstandings. But probably not on a public forum. "If you mean seeing somebody and she's also seeing somebody else, then no, I'm not into that and don't think that it's cool." OH HELL NO PARD ! What i mean is mutual agreement in being monogamous to each other hehehe But thanks for pointing out the misunderstanding in my point being taken... \\ ....\/.... ^^^MORE LIKE THIS ! or THIS ! or even THIS ! \\\\

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45376	Mon 05/27/13 12:50 PM
Wel, ya know, the only thing wrong with polygamy is that it seems to only cover men, what if the woman wants more than one husband? Just saying :-) I wouldn't even date someone who was seeing someone else. Or carrying a torch from the past. Life is too short.

KiK2me Joined Sun 01/06/13 Posts: 8732	Mon 05/27/13 12:56 PM Edited by KiK2me on Mon 05/27/13 01:01 PM
Wel, ya know, the only thing wrong with polygamy is that it seems to only cover men, what if the woman wants more than one husband? Just saying :-) I wouldn't even date someone who was seeing someone else. Or carrying a torch from the past. Life is too short. AMEN ! unless that included jealousy for having friends And having fun being friends I agree what is good for the Goose is good for the Gander Smothering is an entirely different matter...

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 05/27/13 01:16 PM Edited by singmesweet on Mon 05/27/13 01:18 PM
Although the definition is more applied to "Marriage" I believe that it also applies to relations and courtship So which do you prefer ? And do you let that person KNOW when you are being "Friends" ? I prefer a monogamous typs of friendship Where we are BOTH secure in our feelings toward one another to also have "Just friends " as well... I do like a few of the ladies in here But because of "misunderstandings" I am reluctant to say specifically WHO I like my feelings to be reciprocated feelings But maybe this is what is lacking with YOU and your desire as well ? So tell us ? Monogamy or Polygamy in relationships ? KiK What are monogamous friendships? If you're just friends, why worry about whether they have other friends. Sounds like you're actually talking about dating instead? If I'm friends with someone, that's completely different than dating. Anyway, in the beginning I think it's fine to date more than one person as long as everyone is honest. But that's just the beginning. Once you start dating more seriously, definitely monogamy.

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Mon 05/27/13 01:28 PM
I used to refer to my marriage as monaggingme

KiK2me Joined Sun 01/06/13 Posts: 8732	Mon 05/27/13 01:30 PM
Thank you Sing and friends become dates become lovers It is a part of courtship If you don't let someone know you are interested in monogamy with them then how is one to know right ? Or if they express such feelings and are rejected Should they still hold those feelings for you ? I do not want to make this about "ME" Just wondered what everyone thinks in general... And i am very secure in who I am Thanks folks !

KiK2me Joined Sun 01/06/13 Posts: 8732	Mon 05/27/13 01:30 PM
I used to refer to my marriage as monaggingme

Momoiro_Usagi_7 Joined Sun 05/12/13 Posts: 1450	Mon 05/27/13 01:38 PM
I used to refer to my marriage as monaggingme LMBO!!!! To Funny!

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 05/27/13 04:34 PM
Thank you Sing and friends become dates become lovers It is a part of courtship If you don't let someone know you are interested in monogamy with them then how is one to know right ? Or if they express such feelings and are rejected Should they still hold those feelings for you ? I do not want to make this about "ME" Just wondered what everyone thinks in general... And i am very secure in who I am Thanks folks ! You didn't explain what a monogamous friendship is, though. You're talking about before you are dating someone, so how do you expect them to be monogamous already?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 05/27/13 05:43 PM
If the Op doesn't want to explain what monogamous friendship means, perhaps someone else can?

ridewytepony Joined Sun 04/14/13 Posts: 3697	Mon 05/27/13 06:01 PM Edited by ridewytepony on Mon 05/27/13 06:03 PM
Although the definition is more applied to "Marriage" I believe that it also applies to relations and courtship So which do you prefer ? And do you let that person KNOW when you are being "Friends" ? I prefer a monogamous typs of friendship Where we are BOTH secure in our feelings toward one another to also have "Just friends " as well... I do like a few of the ladies in here But because of "misunderstandings" I am reluctant to say specifically WHO I like my feelings to be reciprocated feelings But maybe this is what is lacking with YOU and your desire as well ? So tell us ? Monogamy or Polygamy in relationships ? KiK "Monogamous types of friends" Sounds so casual, yet serious, the statement s an oxymoron! If I was going to take the relationships to the monogamous stage,which would & Should always be a giant step, then it would be prediscust beforehand that our intentions would be to share our lives together. most everyone just skips those first two stages of a relationship and goes strait in to the monogamy stage, without getting to know each another. I myself have also be guilty of this, but will not enter this stage unless there's No major problems & we remain very compatible. Would people enter this stage knowing that there's problems or realy not knowing or knowing that your not going to spend the rest af time with this person?

ridewytepony Joined Sun 04/14/13 Posts: 3697	Mon 05/27/13 06:06 PM
If the Op doesn't want to explain what monogamous friendship means, perhaps someone else can? I dont get that either, it just sounds so wrong!

KiK2me Joined Sun 01/06/13 Posts: 8732	Mon 05/27/13 06:06 PM
Thank you Sing and friends become dates become lovers It is a part of courtship If you don't let someone know you are interested in monogamy with them then how is one to know right ? Or if they express such feelings and are rejected Should they still hold those feelings for you ? I do not want to make this about "ME" Just wondered what everyone thinks in general... And i am very secure in who I am Thanks folks ! You didn't explain what a monogamous friendship is, though. You're talking about before you are dating someone, so how do you expect them to be monogamous already? Oh sorry Sing i missed this... what i mean is if and when you get to that in a friendship Because i think the best relationships come from being friends first

KiK2me Joined Sun 01/06/13 Posts: 8732	Mon 05/27/13 06:07 PM
If the Op doesn't want to explain what monogamous friendship means, perhaps someone else can? I dont get that either, it just sounds so wrong! PFFFffft !