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Topic: Monogamy or Polygamy...?
Mikey117 Joined Mon 11/20/06 Posts: 23736	Sat 06/01/13 02:19 PM
Does having a 3 some count? Just asking!!

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 06/01/13 02:21 PM
I'm a monogamous type. If I'm interested enough to date them, there will be no other. If a man wants to date others while seeing me, he can't be all that interested in me. I tend to look at it that way too..... my definition of Kik's monogamous friendship is not dating necessarily but it can include dates....I am no all into traditional dating I prefer to just do things together. some might call that dating. but that friendship is a little different from other friends, but not dating as I avoid relationships that involve "just dating." If a friendship with a guy I am seeing becomes mongamous he is still my friend....but at that point we would be in a relationship do he'd be my boyfriend where other men are simply male friends.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 06/01/13 02:21 PM
Does having a 3 some count? Just asking!! I don't think it's possible to have 2 monogamous relationships....

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14836	Sat 06/01/13 02:52 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Sat 06/01/13 02:53 PM
I'm a monogamous type. If I'm interested enough to date them, there will be no other. If a man wants to date others while seeing me, he can't be all that interested in me. I agree with this!^^^^ Many Men date more than one woman, especially off these date sites. I have met Men in person that did this. That is why I am just "friends" not FWB like so many Older people do even.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 06/01/13 02:59 PM
I'm a monogamous type. If I'm interested enough to date them, there will be no other. If a man wants to date others while seeing me, he can't be all that interested in me. I agree with this!^^^^ Many Men date more than one woman, especially off these date sites. I have met Men in person that did this. That is why I am just "friends" not FWB like so many Older people do even. I agree. I don;t do FWB either. If a man wants to see more than one woman, one of them is probably not going to be me paticularly if he is intimate with her. at least if he plans to be intimate with me he will have to choose but I will not ask him to. I will just stop responding to him and stop doing things with him. I also will continue to see others if he is seeing others - if I want to. but men get mad about that, even if they are seeing others

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14836	Sat 06/01/13 04:22 PM
I also will continue to see others if he is seeing others - if I want to. but men get mad about that, even if they are seeing others So true, wonder why Men feel that way.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 06/01/13 05:31 PM
I'm a monogamous type. If I'm interested enough to date them, there will be no other. If a man wants to date others while seeing me, he can't be all that interested in me. I tend to look at it that way too..... my definition of Kik's monogamous friendship is not dating necessarily but it can include dates....I am no all into traditional dating I prefer to just do things together. some might call that dating. but that friendship is a little different from other friends, but not dating as I avoid relationships that involve "just dating." If a friendship with a guy I am seeing becomes mongamous he is still my friend....but at that point we would be in a relationship do he'd be my boyfriend where other men are simply male friends. But if you're "friends" yet going on dates, I would consider that dating, rather than being friends. That's definitely more than a friendship.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 06/01/13 05:38 PM
I'm a monogamous type. If I'm interested enough to date them, there will be no other. If a man wants to date others while seeing me, he can't be all that interested in me. I tend to look at it that way too..... my definition of Kik's monogamous friendship is not dating necessarily but it can include dates....I am no all into traditional dating I prefer to just do things together. some might call that dating. but that friendship is a little different from other friends, but not dating as I avoid relationships that involve "just dating." If a friendship with a guy I am seeing becomes mongamous he is still my friend....but at that point we would be in a relationship do he'd be my boyfriend where other men are simply male friends. But if you're "friends" yet going on dates, I would consider that dating, rather than being friends. That's definitely more than a friendship. well since I don;t date that would be hard for me to do. I think we each have to define what relationships mean for ourselves. It may mean something different to you. I do not typically date (in the traditional sense) so a friend whom I am dating would be more likely to be a boyfriend. Not always the case to be sure - but that's been the usual history

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 06/01/13 05:41 PM
I also will continue to see others if he is seeing others - if I want to. but men get mad about that, even if they are seeing others So true, wonder why Men feel that way. right time to get used to what's good for the gander the goose is gonna do too I think this is particularly hard for men from very traditional cultures...but it is a double standard that is (for all intents and purposes) no longer acceptable in the west. one of the reasons I have stated many times that cultural differences could be a problem for me

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 06/01/13 05:46 PM
I'm a monogamous type. If I'm interested enough to date them, there will be no other. If a man wants to date others while seeing me, he can't be all that interested in me. I tend to look at it that way too..... my definition of Kik's monogamous friendship is not dating necessarily but it can include dates....I am no all into traditional dating I prefer to just do things together. some might call that dating. but that friendship is a little different from other friends, but not dating as I avoid relationships that involve "just dating." If a friendship with a guy I am seeing becomes mongamous he is still my friend....but at that point we would be in a relationship do he'd be my boyfriend where other men are simply male friends. But if you're "friends" yet going on dates, I would consider that dating, rather than being friends. That's definitely more than a friendship. well since I don;t date that would be hard for me to do. I think we each have to define what relationships mean for ourselves. It may mean something different to you. I do not typically date (in the traditional sense) so a friend whom I am dating would be more likely to be a boyfriend. Not always the case to be sure - but that's been the usual history Sounds like you're dating, but trying to not call it dating. Going on dates with someone would be dating.

KiK2me Joined Sun 01/06/13 Posts: 8732	Sat 06/01/13 05:51 PM
Well i would never go around dating other ladies if i had a close friend who i may be approaching a relationship with lol

KiK2me Joined Sun 01/06/13 Posts: 8732	Sat 06/01/13 05:53 PM Edited by KiK2me on Sat 06/01/13 05:53 PM


ridewytepony Joined Sun 04/14/13 Posts: 3697	Sat 06/01/13 05:56 PM
This is crazy! So ya date somebody, you like each other, Then you only sleep with each other so now its not FwB, your f♡ck buddies, or you end up in a relationship Every time you get laid.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 06/01/13 08:43 PM
I'm a monogamous type. If I'm interested enough to date them, there will be no other. If a man wants to date others while seeing me, he can't be all that interested in me. I tend to look at it that way too..... my definition of Kik's monogamous friendship is not dating necessarily but it can include dates....I am no all into traditional dating I prefer to just do things together. some might call that dating. but that friendship is a little different from other friends, but not dating as I avoid relationships that involve "just dating." If a friendship with a guy I am seeing becomes mongamous he is still my friend....but at that point we would be in a relationship do he'd be my boyfriend where other men are simply male friends. But if you're "friends" yet going on dates, I would consider that dating, rather than being friends. That's definitely more than a friendship. well since I don;t date that would be hard for me to do. I think we each have to define what relationships mean for ourselves. It may mean something different to you. I do not typically date (in the traditional sense) so a friend whom I am dating would be more likely to be a boyfriend. Not always the case to be sure - but that's been the usual history Sounds like you're dating, but trying to not call it dating. Going on dates with someone would be dating. I wonder if you have read what I actually said. I prefer to define my relationships without your help. If I am not dating I will not be calling anything a date. I also no longer wish to pursue this particular converation. I said earlier, politely, that I believe we need to define these things for ourselves, clearly that is what I wish to do and I do not want input or assistance. thank you.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 06/01/13 08:44 PM
This is crazy! So ya date somebody, you like each other, Then you only sleep with each other so now its not FwB, your f♡ck buddies, or you end up in a relationship Every time you get laid. perhaos you do some of us are considerably more discriminating. I have not met a man in ages whom I 'd consider sleeping with, actually

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 06/01/13 09:04 PM
I'm a monogamous type. If I'm interested enough to date them, there will be no other. If a man wants to date others while seeing me, he can't be all that interested in me. I tend to look at it that way too..... my definition of Kik's monogamous friendship is not dating necessarily but it can include dates....I am no all into traditional dating I prefer to just do things together. some might call that dating. but that friendship is a little different from other friends, but not dating as I avoid relationships that involve "just dating." If a friendship with a guy I am seeing becomes mongamous he is still my friend....but at that point we would be in a relationship do he'd be my boyfriend where other men are simply male friends. But if you're "friends" yet going on dates, I would consider that dating, rather than being friends. That's definitely more than a friendship. well since I don;t date that would be hard for me to do. I think we each have to define what relationships mean for ourselves. It may mean something different to you. I do not typically date (in the traditional sense) so a friend whom I am dating would be more likely to be a boyfriend. Not always the case to be sure - but that's been the usual history Sounds like you're dating, but trying to not call it dating. Going on dates with someone would be dating. I wonder if you have read what I actually said. I prefer to define my relationships without your help. If I am not dating I will not be calling anything a date. I also no longer wish to pursue this particular converation. I said earlier, politely, that I believe we need to define these things for ourselves, clearly that is what I wish to do and I do not want input or assistance. thank you. I read what you said. I just said what I thought it sounded like. No need to get snippy. If you want to call it something other than dating and the person you're spending time with is ok with that, go for it.