First thing i'm not putting anyone down for the way they want to live!! But money might make you "comfortable" in life but it "does not" make you happy and i don't care what sex you are!! I've grown up poor and those were the happiest years of my life!! Now after working my butt off to achieve a goal set by me to retire i'm not too sure it was all worth the effort because i know when i die that stays behind" I can't take it to the grave"!! But at least my daughter will be Ok and deserve it!! As in my next post on here "Officially- Unofficially Homeless" You will see why!! My Daughter thought i was Crazy!! But its been the best relaxing time in my life without a lot of Stress!! And I'm sorry i didn't do it 10 years sooner!!

There is nothing wrong with having or wanting wealth but I don't believe in using a person to gain it. If you want it; go out and earn it honestly; don't marry a guy just for his wealth as that is unfair to him. Personally; money would make me very happy as the more I have; the more I can share with those close to me. I could help them with their bills; have better lives, medical help, donate more money to charity, etc. All this would make me very happy as the wealth isn't just about me but all the good I could do with it for others.

I have never dated a wealthy guy. Mainly because a wealthy guy has never asked me out.

Same here. Most guys my age are broke because of their divorce.

Great thread folks!

I do not have the time nor the energy to be something or someone I'm not. I've been a single mom of 2 kids since they were both very young. I have worked hard to provide for my kids and everything I have, I have worked for. I have taught my kids that all important and meaningful things come from the heart, not the pocketbook.

I don't have the wardrobe nor the accessories to be all fancy. I look nice when I do go out but there must be greater substance in the relationship. To me it's about little things, laughter, thoughtful actions, honesty, integrity. It's about paying attention to the other person and noticing the little things that bring a smile, a giggle, etc. It's about taking the extra time to show him/her that you care - but more than that - that your life is better with them in it! (What's money got to do with that?)

Most of us don't live quite the extreme as you do, but I am very extreme compared to others. I have a very inexpensive place to live, I could care less about having the newest or best of anything. It took me a lot of years to find this life style and would not trade it for anything. I live without stress and drama and will enjoy my "golden years".. I deserve it. I can see why you love it and don't hold that against you one bit

Hello everyone, No I have always had to make ends meet, cuz when I do buy something I feel better knowing I used my own money to get it. I have worked hard all my life and I have come across men and women in my friend's relationship and I see how she is with his money. She don't work and he is retired but she has sold most of his stuff to make sure she has money and I can't stand women who do that because when us good one come across the men who did have a good heart b 4 they ran into that lady then it makes it harder for them to believe us women that are really good women to be around and yes I hv come across men who hv tried to do that to women also..And I tell them this ain't your mama's house or yr daddy's home and this is not a government home either either make yr own money and lets work together on this relationship or don't let the door hit you where the good Lord split ya...lol..I wish ecerone good luck in fonding their one and only..

Money never hurts.

NEVER HAD MONEY IN PAST AND I'm DOING OK.

... Not all woman are gold diggers, especially if they have worked for it themselves already but money along with friendship and love ... sweet! ~ A couple could go many places together.

It's been proven: b short, fat, bald and no women will look at u. B short, fat, bald, AND RICH, u'll get a supermodel! lol But u better b RICH! lol

Interesting topic wish I had wealth would help me finding a date but may make it harder to find love.

The woman is like a rose. If you treat her right, she'll bloom. If you don't, she'll wilt. I feel happy near her even with no sex.
If you treat her same way you treat others. How is she supposed to know that she's special to you?

This is certainly refreshing to hear nowadays. But I guess I notice the wrong kinds of women on and offline here where I live, because like you, they also claim not to be into material riches, but if I mention that I walk to work and don't earn a dope dealer's salary, they fade away, regardless of what I look like or sense of humor. (I think I hear footsteps walking away as I type this. Lol)

I am looking for a man with a rich heart ...not wallet. I too have dated millionaires to poor men. I have been friends with a millionaire since we parted company about 7 years ago. He has since told me he regretted letting me go...he had his chance. Money can afford you nice things and good times...don't get me wrong, but I want an emotional, ever lasting connection. Someone who will be there for me as I will be for him come hell or high water. (***I'm under a flood watch here until tomorrow afternoon*** FOR REAL!)

And, no amount of money can buy that. I'm right there with ya.

Stay high and dry!!!

"So many people spend their health gaining wealth, and then have to spend their wealth to regain their health"
A.J.Reb Materi

Here's what I've posted on my profile. Haven't been bombarded by fellas:

I'm looking to spend time with an easy-going guy - the living is much better when activities are shared with masculine company. While I agree that 'looks' are usually the first criteria people have when searching for a mate it is not my most important criteria. My number one criterion is 'can he make me laugh?' The Second is, 'what is his depth of character? Is he willing to reveal himself to me, or do our conversations always just skim the surface?' The Third is, 'is he as curious about the world as I am, or is he content to just live in the bubble of his city and job?' Seduce my mind, as well.

Great post, Shutter..

financial stability makes life easier to enjoy ,,,,

it never hurts, dont really care which parrtner is providing it,,,,

but it doesnt seal the deal until character and integrity are established,,,

I dated someone with money, he saw everything in dollar signs and it got annoying,,,mostly he only saw his own self worth in dollars too, which got to be sad as well

I dated someoene struggling, he valued relationships and people and he was the love of my life

so, one never knows