Topic: Shy Women
Vegasman27's photo
Mon 08/20/07 02:22 AM
There's a person that's 25 and work's with me and she only talk's to me if i talk to her, and i heard that she would want to date me, but her mom dosn't let her do that, and then today i heard from a friend of her's and mine that she wonder's why i like her, and she's going to think about going out with me.

Is there anyway to talk to the mother about this at all, and how can i get her to losen up a bit around me???
Since i know just talking to her don't do it.

HillFolk's photo
Mon 08/20/07 02:29 AM
Keep talking to her at work. Hey, if it works don't fix it.

Greyhound's photo
Mon 08/20/07 02:33 AM
Go right to her house and ask Mom if you could take her daughter out for the evening.Perhaps her mother is old fashioned that way and it would at least break the ice.
Just a thought,what would I know.drinker

Deelite's photo
Mon 08/20/07 03:29 AM
I would say forget her -you will be dating her mother too if you go out and if were to lead anywhere -what a mother in law to have to deal with. Too shy. no self esteem it seems to me.

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Mon 08/20/07 05:30 AM
At 25 i'd say her mother has nothing to do with it, continue talking to her and forget what others say...ask her out for dinner or something. you never know til you ask. Worse case scenario, she says no...if you really like her don't give up, continiue asking til she gives in or takes a chunk outa yer buttocks laugh laugh laugh

joshyfox's photo
Mon 08/20/07 06:34 AM
It seems that most if not all the women I like apparently won't talk to me unless I talk first. I guess that's ok, I like to talk, but sometimes it give me the feeling that they don't actually like me back.

gr8pal's photo
Mon 08/20/07 06:36 AM
go ahead and break the Ice bro... insteat guess work
good luck!

k :)

justin2025560's photo
Wed 08/22/07 06:04 AM
omg to that one person that said to contact the mother. no no no, is this a highly religious family or something? It sounds like the ground work is laid, no more games or tactics are necessary, just go for the kill. Your a hunter, be the alpha male. Like someone else said: you're not dating the mother. Good luck buddy.

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Wed 08/22/07 06:39 AM
I'm shy too blushing BUT..

her mom still has a hold on her at 25? wow


joshyfox's photo
Wed 08/22/07 06:44 AM
Mom doesn't have a "Hold" on me, I chose to stick around to help her out in her physical condition. I couldn't leave her to be alone with no one to care for her.

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Wed 08/22/07 06:45 AM
joshy I never said she did. My mom just passed from cancer, so I know EXACTLY how you feel. I would do the same thing..wait, no I actually have done the same thing.

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Wed 08/22/07 06:53 AM
:heart: Dude, im sorry but if HER mom still dictates her life at her age of 25,,,,,wow, she is NOT someone I would want to be out with, as she might have some other big issues of independence...:heart: drinker smokin Good luck, I guess.

justin2025560's photo
Wed 08/22/07 07:09 AM
hmm.. I actually agree with that. If she is interested and is hesitant due to pressure from her mother at that age then it's something to be cautious of. Again, good luck.

joshyfox's photo
Wed 08/22/07 07:17 AM
Yeah, you don't want to date Principal Seymour Skinner from "The Simpsons"

bluebell's photo
Wed 08/22/07 02:58 PM
i agree, my mom lives with me but i still get to decide who i go out with and stuff, i take her advice under consideration but she doesnt make the decisions for me. good luck flowerforyou

jwh5875's photo
Wed 08/22/07 04:28 PM
I agree as well...

I'm at home with the folks currently (not by my choosing..it was either move home or live on the street..given the options, yeah..lol). They offer their advice on things, but the final call on anything is mine..which is the way it should be, IMO.

Best of luck, bro.

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Wed 08/22/07 04:38 PM
That sucks...shes 25 and has to listen to her MOM? i hope shes nto one of those moms that go on a DATE with her too..good luck!

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Wed 08/22/07 04:56 PM
i agree with greyhounds comment man. it sounds like they are extremely conservative or old fashioned and asking her mother for an opportunity to take her daughter out for an evening is the way to go. of course she may want to get to know more about you beforehand so i'd count on a long talk or a get together with her mom included.

Vegasman27's photo
Wed 08/22/07 05:18 PM
Thank's for all the chat on this, and i'm still waiting for the girl to come around to me, of her thought's of me, and stop being so shy, I'm just glad that i can date and also at her age.
If it happen's of me talking to the mom first so be it.
i just like to date her to see what she's really like.