i am getting to the point in my life where i dont want a girl friend, i want someone to spend my life with. i know it takes time but when i find what i belive to be a decent woman, 9 times out of 10 she turns out to be either a cheater, liar, user or just out in out crazy. is it too much to ask to find a decent woman who will share the work of a relationship, meaning not rely completely on me to make everything work? or is there women who are out their that actually are looking for the same thing in a man? i just want someone who i dont have to worry about and i know they are there for me when i need someone. any advice would be very welcome.

gotts keep looking man. there are people out there who share your wants and beliefs. good luck.

keep lookig....just remember good things come to those who wait...as a woman i look for those same qualities, and have similar wants...they say you'll find it when you least expect it...so for us who want this....we just have to wait i guess....

im just really tired of meeting people i wouldnt let around my daughter. i work 2 jobs play football and am a father. i dont have time for games and it seems like thats all most women are doing these days, at least around here it seems.

Don't look! Your friend will find you.

Not all of us are playing games. Keep looking and you will find her.

know all about it...i work a full time job, in my last yr of residency to become a pediatric plastic surgeon, single mom to a 5 yr old son, in the army, and teach a self defence/boxing class....seems the guys i meet want one thing, and never a commitment of any kind...and the ones who think they want something, find out im not the kinda girl to just give up my a$$ the first time we are together, end up not wanting anything...i think people have been hurt so much they are setteling for less than what they truelly deserve so now guys/girls know they dont have to respect, or offer that much to get what they want....sucks but true...

once my season ends i start back in the dojo and i will be there 4 days a week doing martial arts, and my daughter will be with me cause i want her learning the arts too. but most women dont understand that she comes first. my ex caused me to lose custody of her, and now i am in the middle of fighting for her and i wont give up. i will never let a woman come between my and my daughter again. and from what i gather is most women my age either have kids or want nothing to do with them. its just hard to find a decent lady these days.

Hey..good luck Thumper...You will find one that fits you!!

Thumper...I'm right here :)

thats kinda funny cats, i used to date a woman that lives not far from findlay, north of columbus. she backed out on me when i showed that i was dead serious about being with her.

WHAT? Why would she do that? All I know is I want a good man that loves his family.

she wasent ready i suppose, i dunno. i quit trying to figure women out these days.

Lol, me too. Why is love so hard to find?

Let me get this straight. Your two jobs, martial arts, and football are priorities, you "will never let a woman come between you and your daughter", and "want someone who will be there for YOU" plus you're bitter. Gee, you sound like a real catch. I don't understand why you can't find anyone either. You get what you give, pal.

im starting to get scared of love,, cause im tired of tryin to rebuild my heart after it gets broke. the last time i got hurt i asked a few people if they had super glue to try and peice me back together. i guess this is the reason i have built so many walls around myself. is it bad i am scared of no man or thing but when it comes to a woman i get terrified?

look my freind if you have bitterness towards women then mybe you need to get over it before you start another realionship ..in my opioin you have no business making innocent women pay for what other have done to you...all women are not cheaters and liars.... first deal with that pain you are having brother or you are always going to have it... then when you made peace with that you will be able to trust again...

i work 2 jobs due to the fact the last woman i was with almost destroyed me. and yeah i think i can be bitter at least a little when most of the women i have been with have cheated on me. i do what i can with what i have. if it seems im bitter, then oh well. i am an honest person who was raised to work for what i want and stand for what i belive in. i like to be healthy so i do physical things to keep me busy and work to make sure my daughter has what she needs. if thats so bad then i must be one of the worst people in the world. and since i am such a catch and i deserve what i get,, what did i do to deserve that i wonder? i thought people didnt mind when someone is willing to do whatever it takes to make it and work hard for what they want,, instead of wondering where they will get what they want from who.

Im right there with you Thumper. Im tired of giving my heart and getting nothing in return. I think I was a floor mat in my past life..lol

its not easy to trust people when most of the time they hurt you. i dont expect anything from anyone except that they be honest. if thats too much then what happened to the world. i know there are some honest people out there but why are they so hard to find?