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#2 and #8 are the only two i cannot deal with.... nags and bytches need not apply But we can still be friends...right?  
i dunno... we'll see... as long as you don't nag me to much anymore, i guess so...  
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I love men. Respect 'em, love 'em, and think the world would be a far duller place without 'em. I enjoy their company, and what they bring to the overall quality of the human race. I can be platonic friends with a man, or madly in love or lust with one, or anywhere on the spectrum in-between. I find some of them incredibly annoying, too. Such is life, because men are no more alike than are women, or snowflakes for that matter. I might on occasion throw up my hands in utter frustration and remark, "Men! Aaauugh!" But even as I do so, I know I'm only joking because the problem isn't men in general; it's whatever particular man happens to have pushed my buttons just then. I was married for ten years, and my buttons were pushed a lot. I know I pushed his, too. C'est la vie. But I don't think I could ever bring myself to seriously denigrate men as a whole, because they're an integral and necessary half of the human species... and I genuinely love them too much to pretend they're all alike and cast aspersions on them for being male. So why did you push his buttons? My ex used to push my buttons and when I asked her why is she purposely getting me angry, she said that she wanted to see how I act when I am angry. I didn't purposely push his buttons. Sometimes a person just gets on your nerves without meaning to. It happens in every couple, even the ones who are happy together overall. People are individuals, and it's virtually impossible to find two individuals who won't push each other's buttons accidentally from time to time. I'm sorry you had someone in your life who used to anger you on purpose. That isn't right, and people shouldn't do that to each other... ESPECIALLY not to someone they purport to love or care about. Ahhh! I see the problem ViaMusica! You don't PUSH his buttons, you gotta SLIDE them through the button hole. Then the shirt come right off.
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#2 and #8 are the only two i cannot deal with.... nags and bytches need not apply But we can still be friends...right?
i dunno... we'll see... as long as you don't nag me to much anymore, i guess so...
I wasn't nagging! Is it too much to ask that you not leave your socks laying all over my profile. I just cleaned it and was about to invite another friend in. Geesh! 
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His new lady could be reading this thread as we speak.
. Wonder what SHE thinks of it eh?
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I do not fall into any of those 10 things. I have had 3 men to ask me to marry them, but they were not my compatables. So, sometimes a lady chooses not to get married.
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none of those apply... YET.. I'm still SINGLE.. must be cuz I'm just too dang fun ta be around..
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Edited by
Dodo_David
on
Thu 04/11/13 02:41 PM
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A Rebuttal to
10 Reasons No Man Wants to Marry You You are getting older and almost all your friends are
married; including that ugly, short and fat Jane! Yet you think you are a good wife material, but you are still single and getting really worried. Well maybe guys are not looking your way because you are guilty of a number of these offenses: 1. You are too haughty. You are the “independent” type that acts as if you don’t give a damn about guys. Your oversized ego has beclouded your reason for so long to make you think you don’t need men and you can do well alone all by yourself. Typically, you will quickly size up the guy and bring him down with intimidating looks and sarcastic responses. Well, I suggest you marry yourself. If a woman is trying to woo a man, then she won't be using intimidating looks and sarcastic responses. Besides, if a woman intimidates a man, then he is probably too wimpy for her anyway. 2. You are looking for Mr. Perfect. You want a well-
built, neat, romantic, hardworking, honest, God- fearing, faithful, dark, tall and handsome gentleman man from a good background who has a good job, drive a good car and loves you unconditionally. I’m afraid that perfect guy you read about in a romantic novel isn’t real. He only exists in the writer’s imagination – and yours. Wake up girl. You’ll never find a perfect guy – anywhere. Just like you, everyone else is imperfect. Accept that fact or wait for the guy to emerge from the book and marry you. I agree that there are women who fit the description in Claim #2. However, plenty of single men also fit the description, as illustrated in the claims below. The flaw with Claim #2 is that women who are married also looked for Mr. Perfect while they were single. Their own search for Mr. Perfect didn't prevent them from becoming married. 3. You smell desperate. Men have a special ability to
smell desperation in a woman. Unfortunately, we find that odor very offensive and avoid it like a plague. Now your parents and friends are asking you frustrating questions about marriage, and you are so sick of those questions so you’d do anything to get the next available guy to marry you. You need a man so badly and justifiably so. Unfortunately for you, the more desperate you are, the less attractive men find you. It is always a mistake for any individual man to pretend to speak for all men, which is what the author of Claim #3 is doing. A single man who is lonely may actually welcome desperation from a single woman. Besides, the "desperate woman" of Claim #3 is more like a woman in a TV soap opera instead of a real woman. 4. You pay too little attention to your appearance. You
don’t want to look like a Naughty Lady. So you always dress down, don’t wear make up and are unkempt. You are just pathetic. Even stunningly looking ladies are still in the husband-haunting market; and you really think a guy will leave all the attractive women and come for you because he’s “good guy”? Well, if your goal is to have him sleep with you, some men won’t mind. But if it’s to get him to marry you, then, you are so mistaken. Haven’t you been told that men are visually stimulated? A woman who is seeking a husband isn't going to pay too little to her appearance. She will be doing the opposite, but not in every situation. If a woman is performing physical labor, then she isn't necessarily going to be wearing make-up and a dress with high-heel shoes. Also, the author of Claim #4 isn't considering the possibility that single men may be wanting to know how a single woman looks without make-up. When a man is married, his wife won't be waking up every morning looking like a fashion model who just stepped off a fashion-show runway. Before getting married, a man may want to know what he will be facing each morning if he were to get married. 5. You pay too much attention to your appearance. The
fact that men are visually stimulated doesn’t mean they are unreasonable. Some men may make awkward choice of a sex partner, but when it comes to a life partner, men are painstakingly selective. If not you’d be married by now. Every man dreams of marrying a decent lady, not some Naughty Lady who won’t mind going Unclad on the street to get cheap attention. Seriously? Claim #5 describes a woman who lives a care-free life, a woman who is happy just the way she is. Such a woman can be quite attractive to single men. 6. You are rather too sexually naive. Each time he
talks about sex, you act like he has just committed a crime, because you are a virgin or you don’t want to appear promiscuous. When you do that you only make him wonder how boring or frigid you are in bed. Normal men like sex. And whether you want to agree to it or not, if he doesn’t have a hint that you can satisfy him sexually (either practically or by insinuations), he’s put off (most of the time) subconsciously. That’s when men say things like “there’s no chemistry”, “I don’t feel her” or “we don’t connect”. In other words, your insensitivity to his libido repels him. Claim #6 is written from the perspective of a man who thinks with his genitals. No single woman should be forced to do something that she is uncomfortable doing. A man who puts his libido ahead of the needs of a potential wife probably wouldn't make a good husband. Single men need to wake up and realize that they aren't the ones who risk getting pregnant if they have sex at the wrong time. All too many single women end up being dumped by their boyfriends once the women become pregnant. No single woman wants to go through such a thing, and so, a single woman isn't doing anything wrong by being sexually cautious. 7. You are too boring. If you could choose between two
guys with equal qualities in all ramifications except that one is boring and another is interesting, which of them will you rather pick? The interesting one of course! So why do you think if he has to make a similar choice, he’ll prefer the boring you to an interesting lady? You excuse yourself by saying “I’m the quiet type”. Being an introvert is different from being boring. Men are logical by nature and therefore they tend to be more futuristic species. So, he’ll picture the two of you alone in your home. No one looks forward to a boring home. Some ladies are uninteresting and uninterested. When was the last time anyone ever met a boring woman? In Claim #7, "boring" is a code word for "doesn't have the same tastes and interests that I have." Being that not all men have the same tastes and interests, Claim #7 is without merit. 8. You nag. This is by far one of the most annoying
behaviors a lady can exhibit. It is alarming however how many women nag. All in the bid to get him do what she wants, when she wants it and how she wants it, women typically become nags to achieve their ends. This is rather selfish and insensitive. No matter what you hope to achieve, nagging will never get you anywhere. And it will drive men far away from you. A woman who seeks a husband isn't going to nag a potential mate. The nagging comes after the wedding.
9. You are insecure. It is normal for women to need
constant reassurance. What is not cool however is for them is to make their guys’ lives impossible because of deep-rooted lack of self-confidence. Insecurity is an awful but common issue amongst many women. No matter what the guy does, it hits their weak point. If he looks there, he’s checking out another girl. If he’s busy with work, he doesn’t love you. If forgets an important date, he doesn’t care. If a lady calls him, he’s cheating. You suspect his every action and inaction and react awfully even to well- intended gestures. That way, you will drive every man in your life away, and fast. When a single man is dating a woman, and when he does care about her, then he will work to minimize any insecurity that the woman has. He won't be "looking there" out of respect for his girlfriend. 10. You are too stubborn and rigid. Being principled is
an admirable thing, but being unreasonably unbending is unattractive. All in the name of being principled, you go around with a lousy air of sauciness and you want a million guys to come asking you out? Your very long list of do’s and don’ts that must be strictly adhered at all times in all condition is not a plus but a minus. You are unbendable, unreachable and unteachable and you actually pride yourself about it. Well, I got news for you; you are going around with red beeping alert that says “keep off guys, I am a robot!” Who gets to decide what is reasonable and what isn't? Claim #10 appears to me to be a wild exaggeration about a woman. I don't know anything about the author of the above-quoted list, but it would be an act of hypocrisy for a man who has never been married to lecture a woman on why she has never been married. |
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Kudos Dodo David!!
  
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Well said David!
Now I am not a big makeup wearing person. I don't need it and it's a wasted expense. If I'm going out, I will just do a little something to my eyes. The person you see before bed is the same person you will wake up with. I have seen some women who ALWAYS wear makeup on a day without it. 
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Edited by
Jeanniebean
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Thu 04/11/13 03:42 PM
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10 Reasons No Man Wants to Marry You You are getting older and almost all your friends are married; including that ugly, short and fat Jane! Yet you think you are a good wife material, but you are still single and getting really worried. Well maybe guys are not looking your way because you are guilty of a number of these offenses: 1. You are too haughty. You are the “independent” type that acts as if you don’t give a damn about guys. Your oversized ego has beclouded your reason for so long to make you think you don’t need men and you can do well alone all by yourself. Typically, you will quickly size up the guy and bring him down with intimidating looks and sarcastic responses. Well, I suggest you marry yourself. I love this. And its true. I have been married and I have been single, so I am experienced. Single is easier. And yes, I married myself. We are very happy.
2. You are looking for Mr. Perfect. You want a well- built, neat, romantic, hardworking, honest, God- fearing, faithful, dark, tall and handsome gentleman man from a good background who has a good job, drive a good car and loves you unconditionally. I’m afraid that perfect guy you read about in a romantic novel isn’t real. He only exists in the writer’s imagination – and yours. Wake up girl. You’ll never find a perfect guy – anywhere. Just like you, everyone else is imperfect. Accept that fact or wait for the guy to emerge from the book and marry you. Wrong. I would only expect someone equally imperfect or perfect according to my own perfection or imperfection. I am a long way from perfect so I don't expect perfect. 3. You smell desperate. Men have a special ability to smell desperation in a woman. Unfortunately, we find that odor very offensive and avoid it like a plague. Now your parents and friends are asking you frustrating questions about marriage, and you are so sick of those questions so you’d do anything to get the next available guy to marry you. You need a man so badly and justifiably so. Unfortunately for you, the more desperate you are, the less attractive men find you. I know the smell of desperate because a lot of men have that smell.
4. You pay too little attention to your appearance. You don’t want to look like a Naughty Lady. So you always dress down, don’t wear make up and are unkempt. You are just pathetic. Even stunningly looking ladies are still in the husband-haunting market; and you really think a guy will leave all the attractive women and come for you because he’s “good guy”? Well, if your goal is to have him sleep with you, some men won’t mind. But if it’s to get him to marry you, then, you are so mistaken. Haven’t you been told that men are visually stimulated? If we dress down its because we KNOW that men are visually stimulated and we are sick of them drooling all over us in that pathetic manner. We dress down to keep them away.
5. You pay too much attention to your appearance. The fact that men are visually stimulated doesn’t mean they are unreasonable. Some men may make awkward choice of a sex partner, but when it comes to a life partner, men are painstakingly selective. If not you’d be married by now. Every man dreams of marrying a decent lady, not some Naughty Lady who won’t mind going Unclad on the street to get cheap attention. A woman whose is dressed impeccably, with perfect hair and makeup, etc. is probably doing it to look better than her girlfriends, not to attract a man.
To attract a man, doesn't require that much. 6. You are rather too sexually naive. Each time he talks about sex, you act like he has just committed a crime, because you are a virgin or you don’t want to appear promiscuous. When you do that you only make him wonder how boring or frigid you are in bed. Normal men like sex. And whether you want to agree to it or not, if he doesn’t have a hint that you can satisfy him sexually (either practically or by insinuations), he’s put off (most of the time) subconsciously. That’s when men say things like “there’s no chemistry”, “I don’t feel her” or “we don’t connect”. In other words, your insensitivity to his libido repels him. If only that last statement were true.
7. You are too boring. If you could choose between two guys with equal qualities in all ramifications except that one is boring and another is interesting, which of them will you rather pick? The interesting one of course! So why do you think if he has to make a similar choice, he’ll prefer the boring you to an interesting lady? You excuse yourself by saying “I’m the quiet type”. Being an introvert is different from being boring. Men are logical by nature and therefore they tend to be more futuristic species. So, he’ll picture the two of you alone in your home. No one looks forward to a boring home. Some ladies are uninteresting and uninterested. That's usually the problem we women have with men. They are mostly pretty boring, because of their one track minds. 8. You nag. This is by far one of the most annoying behaviors a lady can exhibit. It is alarming however how many women nag. All in the bid to get him do what she wants, when she wants it and how she wants it, women typically become nags to achieve their ends. This is rather selfish and insensitive. No matter what you hope to achieve, nagging will never get you anywhere. And it will drive men far away from you. You have to get to know me better before I would every nag, and if I nag then, it is probably for a good reason, like get your feet off my coffee table or go take a bath, you smell bad, or some other disgusting thing men do. 9. You are insecure. It is normal for women to need constant reassurance. What is not cool however is for them is to make their guys’ lives impossible because of deep-rooted lack of self-confidence. Insecurity is an awful but common issue amongst many women. No matter what the guy does, it hits their weak point. If he looks there, he’s checking out another girl. If he’s busy with work, he doesn’t love you. If forgets an important date, he doesn’t care. If a lady calls him, he’s cheating. You suspect his every action and inaction and react awfully even to well- intended gestures. That way, you will drive every man in your life away, and fast. The same can be said for either sex. I see a lot of insecure men. More than women even. 10. You are too stubborn and rigid. Being principled is an admirable thing, but being unreasonably unbending is unattractive. All in the name of being principled, you go around with a lousy air of sauciness and you want a million guys to come asking you out? Your very long list of do’s and don’ts that must be strictly adhered at all times in all condition is not a plus but a minus. You are unbendable, unreachable and unteachable and you actually pride yourself about it. Well, I got news for you; you are going around with red beeping alert that says “keep off guys, I am a robot!” Men need to learn the art of persuasion for women like this. Men need to be more charming and stop thinking that they are God's gift to a woman. Not all women are so easy to impress or persuade as you feel they are. The "keep off guys, I am a robot!" alert is for common everyday jerks that women have to put up with day in and day out. Men have no clue about how many times a woman has to fend off rude advances from horn dogs. |
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This has got to be one of the most in-accurate, judgemental threads I've read in a long while. If I was sat with a friend in a restaurant, and they were saying that to me, I wouldn't hesitate to throw my drink over them. Male OR female. Not usually one for doing that type of thing, but we are being accused of being insecure, over-dressed, under-dressed, too needy, too independent, so yeah.
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Thu 04/11/13 04:06 PM
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6. You are rather too sexually naive. Each time he talks about sex, you act like he has just committed a crime, because you are a virgin or you don’t want to appear promiscuous. When you do that you only make him wonder how boring or frigid you are in bed. Normal men like sex. And whether you want to agree to it or not, if he doesn’t have a hint that you can satisfy him sexually (either practically or by insinuations), he’s put off (most of the time) subconsciously. That’s when men say things like “there’s no chemistry”, “I don’t feel her” or “we don’t connect”. In other words, your insensitivity to his libido repels him. If only that last statement were true.
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This has got to be one of the most in-accurate, judgemental threads I've read in a long while. If I was sat with a friend in a restaurant, and they were saying that to me, I wouldn't hesitate to throw my drink over them. Male OR female. Not usually one for doing that type of thing, but we are being accused of being insecure, over-dressed, under-dressed, too needy, too independent, so yeah. 11. Too temperamental. Always accusing him of being judgmental and throwing drinks in his face just because he insults her.
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The thing about these 'reasons' is that they come from a particular point of view and are basically an opinion coming from that point of view.
Some of them certainly are true, but everything is relative. I might wright up a real sexist juicy one about men.
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what about us women who have been married too many times. the ones who every relationship seems to make the man think he has to marry her? are all the points the opposite? or are they just addicted to the ritual of being wed, then the process of divorce?
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I think this post misses the point! Its a matter of maturity level. i am sure women have a similar list! Its just finding that person who is mature enough to give! Two people giving, all that goes away! it really is that simple!
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The list left out eating all your chocolate!
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The list left out eating all your chocolate! Geezh Metalwing. Your such a PIG...that was MY chocolate!
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Edited by
IamwhoIam1
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Thu 04/11/13 10:26 PM
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See next page. This site is ticking me off. So difficult to post here from a cell.
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